Should your husband let you know that he is getting a tattoo?
By tuamora
@tuamora (79)
United States
November 2, 2010 6:01pm CST
There has been great debate with women stating that they have the right to their body. Roe vs. Wade has made history in women's rights. Does a husband then have the "right" to come home with a tattoo sleeve without first informing his spouse? It is a permanent fixture on his body.
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8 responses
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
5 Nov 10
A tattoo is a personal choice. The person getting the tattoo has to live with what is tattoed for a long time to come. if they can live with that choice, then so should you.@tuamora (79)
• United States
10 Nov 10
I tend to disagree with you. To marry is a choice. If you choose to marry another person, you have chosen to become one with that other person. Your decisions are no longer yours. If you are involved in an accident of some kind and you lose a limb. That is a life altering thing, and that is something that your spouse has to live with because they chose to love you for better or for worse. It wasn't a planned choice, it was something that was unavoidable. However tattoos are decisions. They are choices. Some people can live with the fact that they just murdered somebody, does that mean that their spouse should live with that fact also, no.
I encourage everyone who is in a relationship, to put self on the shelf, and learn to love your spouse as you do yourself. Do not make decisions that can impact one another without first asking how they feel about it, at least.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
2 Nov 10
I might be a little ticked that my hubby didn't tell me first.. only because he knows we always discuss everything, big or small with each other. I will discuss a hair cut with him before I get one, because once I went too short and he didn't like it. Also because of financial reasons. Tattoos are not cheap.. and we can't afford that kind of cash right now.
In general though.. I agree that it's probably a little nit picky to totally flip out over something like this.. as long as it's affordable and the husband knows the wife's feelings on tattoos.
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
3 Nov 10
I agree that if finances are an issue then it should be discussed, as you may not be able to afford it. If you have enough extra money that each of you have some mad money to blow each month, that's different.
Would it be more considerate to discuss it first? Yes. Does he still have a right to do it without talking about it? Yes. But she also has a right to do similar things.
@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
3 Nov 10
I believe he should consult with his wife first but he does have the right to get what he pleases but I would obviously talk him out of it.
@herse45 (22)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 10
I want to know if my husband is getting a tattoo, since i know he too will also complaining if one day i suddenly come home with a tattoo on my body. After you married, you belongs to each others so i think it's a natural thing to do to talk about it. Who knows maybe he will let me choose the tattoo for him ;)
@tuamora (79)
• United States
3 Nov 10
I agree with you. I believe marriage is a oneness. You share your bodies with one another. When I married that person he didn't have markings all over his stomach, and I like to kiss that stomach. After the tattoo his stomach was no longer sexy to me, and it made me upset all over again every time I saw him without his shirt. I would have been a lot more accepting had he at least told me he was going to do it. He would have heard my side, and I his. Ultimately he would have done what he felt he wanted to do, but at least I would have felt that he listened and valued my opinion.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
hi,
from my point of view, after marriage,I have to respect
my spouse and for getting tattoo,I need to get his approval
before I done it. It is kinda of respect on each other.
For small matter,I can make my own self decision,but for some
cases, it is best to discuss well before making the final
decision.
Let's say, after having kid and time to go to school, to choose
a school, I will also discuss with my husband to get his
opinion before I make the final decision to enroll my son to
which school.
So for me, I will seek for my spouse's advices most of the time
before making my final decision. I do believe human can do a mistakes and
by getting some opinions from others,it may at least avoid the same mistakes to
be done.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Hello tuamora,
For me I would say yes as a courtesy to me! I perosnally do not like tattoos if he was getting one I would like to know about it where and what type to see how vulgar it may be. This is just my opinion.
Thanks and have a great day
Sincerely unique16
