Am I in love or just comfortable with him?

I do believe that love is a deeper, quieter feeling, but it still undeniably love. If find yourself thinking things like "I want to love him" then I'd venture that you probably don't and it's time for you to move on. If after several months apart and three weeks together you still have no idea how you feel, I think it's best to just move on. If you loved him, you'd know. I would just like to add that I met my first and only partner when I was 16 as well and I married him when I was 21. I had a bit of a crisis of faith, so to speak, myself. However for me I questioned whether I should love him, but I always knew I did.

it's easy to fall into a comfort zone with someone. If the relationship is too comfortable and the passion is fading, the love may not be what it was. When you truly love someone, you will feel it in your heart.

I think you have spelt out the perfect relationship for a long and happy marriage. The magazine/Hollywwod/chic-lit specification for LOVE is pretty rare in practice and I think it is most unwise to pass over a steady and stable relationship with a basically nice person in the quest for perfection. I'm pleased you are back together. My case rests, m'lud.

Love doesn't fade. It surrounds and flows like the ocean. Sometimes you'll find yourself caught up in the day-to-day forge and you'll forget that you're sharing that monotony with the most incredible person on the planet... it's easy to forget sometimes. It's also easy to remember, love is something that you have to nuture and care for as you would any living, breathing thing. If left alone to idle, it will die... but it doesn't just fade away.

I think your question's answer lies on "most of the time I feel I loved him". Of course we don't love someone every second but if you love him and you are sure about it most of the time, than you love him. And hey...you are very lucky to know him so early. There are many disappoints you didn't meet going out looking for love, he was there with you the whole time lucky girl.

i have also asked myself if i love my 2yrs bf or im just used to be with him thats why i dont wanna ever leave him. i just think that i found myself happy whenever im with him and feel so safe with someone i can always trust maybe thats how love really works.

You are so young. The person you are now is not the person you will be in another 5 or 10 years and it's not the person you were 6 years ago either. Maybe, this should be a time of searching for the right person but you have to find yourself first. Just listen to your own heart and gut and go with it. Explore your doubts and be honest with yourself. You have plenty of time. Maybe he's the one and maybe he's not but the answer can only come from you and it sounds like you're on the right track. Just don't expect an easy fix. You're growing up and that's never easy.

Its hard to say because you might feel comfortable withh him so you dont wanna leave him you dont know if yo brain trickin you to be with just because this is who your comfortable with or is it real love an the doubting is just messing with your head its so complicated man i know an im only 16 shake my head.

I can't remember where I read this sentence: 'Love is not love; love is conditional.' There are many kinds of love. You may love someone in one way and when you fall in love with another person, you love him/her in another way. A couple got married because they think they love each other. But as time goes by, love evolves; it transfers and brings you different feelings. It may stay the same for some people, but more often it changes throughout time. What happens during relationship also makes impact on love itself. If a couple has prospect to be together for long term, they should have this in mind that their relationship needs to develop constantly in order to face the changes around (or inside) them. Since everyone changes, love changes too. However, I think the most important is to ask yourself what is the meaning of being with this person, and what you seek in this relationship. Whether it is pure and passionate love, or tranquil and comfortable lifestyle? How you define love and what is your role in this relationship? Finding the answers may not help you to make the decision but you can feel more certain when facing the other person.

If you have been with someone for five years and don't know if you are in love then there's something wrong with the relationship.

For me if you feel pity in him then it is love and I think you are in love but be understanding so hat they show back love in you.

If u wanna love, just love ,,but if ur not sure u can live with him or not,, just do not go that far ,, it wasn't easy 4 two people live together..

When you broke up before, how did you feel about it. Were you too depressed or did it even matter to you that much? Why did you get back to him anyway? I have almost the same experience with you and we got back together because he begged and was crying at that time. So my reason was pity. I pitied him but didn't love him that much, but I was also too comfortable to leave him anyway. Given the chance that I found another person to love at that time, I wouldn't have get back with him. I hope you'll be able to sort out your feelings soon. Good luck!

love is not like some kind of shaky experience or ecstasy that hits you when u r taking more tequila shots.frankly its so mild n its the greatest emotion u can never ever sense that u r filled with it too much and only starts to sense it when its spilling coz u r full of it. see this in ur way.u r comfortble with him n only him even though many wants you n you can get many around you?rite?then y only him?why bcoz mind knows it that u r full n dnt need anything so it doesn't even remembered you to find someone.u r into him so much that u urself dnt know abt this.my opinion is true bell doesn't ring bells in ur mind or play a loud rock music when you are in it.its like romantic violin music playin so smooth n makes u wanna listen to it as many times as you can n cant know this till u cant hear. hope that you will find love in what you think is true n i wish that it shd be really true in ur matter.thanx for reading.be my friend...?hahaha kiddin