How you can use your pain for someone else's gain !!!!!!

@Jotomy (6343)
India
November 4, 2010 4:42am CST
Hi Friends. As i have noted, that my friend got hurt very badly by her husband and even family members for some reason. I know she is spending her days with angry, bitter, depression, frustration and resentful. But she now changed a lot after counseling herself and from the friends. Now she is going for the preaching, studying further, helping others if possible and make herself comfortable with the god. I am thankful to the god that she learned to receive the God's comfort and healing. What is your opinion on this. I feel it is really a win against the pain. And if you have or know such experiences please share with me.
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12 responses
• Germany
4 Nov 10
Dear Jotomy, it seems that your friend has learned to handle the pain in a smart way. Good for her!!!
@Jotomy (6343)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi Leonita, Yes she learned from the pain. Now she is more confident on herself and doing good after counselling. Thanks for your sharing. Have a good day/night.
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• Germany
4 Nov 10
Thanks for your positive feedback, dear Jotomy. Have a lovely week. We're in touch :))
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@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
4 Nov 10
I am very happy to read the good changes in your friend. Actually I have no experience like this. Recovering from an agony is a must. One should learn to protect his/her own mental health. I have a habit. When I go to bed in the night, I just imagine that I am leaning my head on the shoulder of Jesus Christ. This imagination helps me a lot to have relaxation. It gives me much strength to bear the difficulties.
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@Jotomy (6343)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi johnpillai, how are you. Yes even me too happy because she changed a lot. Now she become more confident on herself and moving because she believes god and god is there with her. Really it gives us more strength and also relaxation. Thanks for your nice sharing. Have a good day/night. Happy Diwali.
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• Philippines
4 Nov 10
Faith is believing on things that you cannot see. We believe that there is a real God and He is kind, good and would remove our pains. Believing gives us hope... believing helps us to love and love despite pains. And if you start believing, the pain becomes insignificant and we learn to be happy what we have. It is a better feeling. Watch The Old Path and you will know what I mean.
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@Jotomy (6343)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi snowhybiscuis, well said, believe in god gives confidence and strength to a man. There we can easily forgive and forget the pain given by others. Thanks for you sharing. Have a good day/night.
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@Sreekala (32815)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi Jo, Husband and other family members are supposed to protect her and support her. Instead they gave disturbance so we can’t blame her. I think it is natural if she showed her frustration on some others. I am glad to know that now she recovered from the bad feelings and doing well. Hope you are doing fine. Happy Diwali to you
@Jotomy (6343)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi sreekala, how are you? HAPPY DIWALI. True sreekala they much protect her but they are not. So she is staying with her parents. She is planning to go to US but her visa got rejected because she has depended. But now she is okay with the grace of god she is engaged with other works. Thanks for your response. Have a wonderful day/night.
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• Philippines
4 Nov 10
Hello Jotomy, I don't have experiences like this and fortunately, your friend is in good hands now, with God Almightly 100% she is safe with Him. Being closer to God made her free from all her anger, bitterness, depression, frustrations, etc. I heard also the same story as yours, from radio news. A wife was hurt by her family too, she wasn't able to use phone or any communication materials from the outside where she can ask help from her friends, the sad part is the family are ones who will be the first one to help her, she was down and very depressed for her family even the one who hurts her. For this case, she was able to see the world one time and ask help from neighbors, and then she was saved. God is really a true Savior, and helps us in every way. ^_^
@Jotomy (6343)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi Bingster, yes my friend is in good hands, she is with almighty god. She is going for preaching started to do some course (further study) also. I will encourage her in these matters. I agree that GOD IS A TRUE SAVIOR. Thanks for your nice sharing. Have a good day/night.
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@shell94 (990)
• Canada
4 Nov 10
I sounds as if the counseling really helped her! I have also been in an abusive situation and it is a very difficult thing to have happen to a person. The feelings of loneliness, frustration and fear linger around you for a very long time. In my situation I still struggle with my attitude and speak very defensively to some people. I am seeing a counselor which is what I recommend to anybody in this kind of situation, they are worth it!
@Jotomy (6343)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi shell, definitely a good counseling will help people but they should understand in a proper way. Yeah try to spend with the friends and family members then you can be away from such sort of situation. Otherwise participate in some spiritual communities which will give much more relaxation. Thanks for your sharing. Have a good day/night.
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@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
Hello Jo, It's easier for someone to understand someone's situation if you've been there already. Experience is the best teacher,if,you learned from it. But not all people learned from their life experiences or,not everyone is able to draw positive lines within their bad experiences as well. I admire people who picked up all the pieces from their past,whether it is good or bad,and applied it to their day to day life. Making the bad experience as a good lesson to learn and inspiration to moved on. People who were able to fight life struggle are good motivators to the same kind. They can easily relate to them,they empathize genuinely because they've been through it. Surely they can share their pain and someone who is in same situation gain motivation from them. Have a good day always dear
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@Jotomy (6343)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi jai, how are you? True we must learn from the past and get inspired from it and moved on. See in this world who is not fighting or struggling? Some may have different experience and some other some thing but all will have some struggle etc., but everyone are moving keeping faith and leaving everything to god. See here one thing did you noticed we didn't seen the god but the word god how much giving strength to us, it is really amazing know. Your words are really true " Surely they can share their pain and someone who is in same situation gain motivation from them" Really nice words. Thanks for your sharing. Have a good day/night jai. Convey my regards to your family. do you celebrate diwali? If yes my wishes to you.
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@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
hello again dear Jo, thanks for the appreciation i don't observe DIWALI...but i want to greet you and your family also "HAPPY DIWALI "
@Hatley (164168)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Nov 10
half of my response got chopped off tor some reason . I was saying she needed to get to a battered women's shelter. but I see she did get help and I am so glad for her. It is tough to be an abused woman and love someone who never was good for her, but now she has started on a great path and I am so glad for her.God is looking our for her now and she has learned about God too.yes this is a great sin against the pain she bore.My heart aches for the many who stay and do not have te funds or courage to get away. But it seems she has got counseling and hlep so now shes on the right path and with God;s help and her working to help others she will soon blossom into a very nice young lady independent and happy.God Bless her and keep her safe.
@Jotomy (6343)
• India
9 Nov 10
Hi Hatley. How are you now? Its okay don't worry i will read the matter. Yeah even me glad to know about her, there is a good change in her. True most of the women are like this nowadays. They won't get much love from their inlaws because of the greediness or something they expect from her and if she is unable to give them then harassment. There is no humanity no love no affection no relation, it is like this going in some of the people. I am glad that my words worked for her, i used to tell her a lot and used to encourage her in many ways. Thank god she is now in good mood and happy too serving people with the god's word and also participating in some good helping deeds. Thank you for your nice sharing. Have a wonderful and healthy days ahead. I pray god you should have a good health. God bless you. Amen.
@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
I am so happy and blessed for your friend. She has truly found comfort and peace from GOD. HE alone can release us from all forms of pain because HE already took all our pains and sorrows on HIMSELF. In my everyday life, i experience different kinds of pain caused by people around us and at times physical pain. When people hurt us it grieves our emotions and there's no cure or medicine to that. Medical science can only offer temporary cure to this. But GOD alone can turn our pain into joy.
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@Jotomy (6343)
• India
8 Nov 10
Hi hanni, thanks. Yes she is now going for preaching and also studying further. It is really a happy thing for me. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
5 Nov 10
I agree that the more you have suffered in your life the more opportunity you have to share your experiences with others and help them deal with their pain which is a really great way to use what has happened to you in a positive way. No one can offer the understanding of one who has been through the same hurt. I’m glad your friend used her bad experience in a way she can help others. That is part of what life is all about, I think.
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@Jotomy (6343)
• India
8 Nov 10
Hi paula, yes her bad experiences making her hard and trying to divert her mind and engaging herself in good ways. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
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@sender621 (14933)
• United States
5 Nov 10
It may not be the happiest thought that we have but we can use our pain to help others. We can take a painful experience in our lives and share it with someone else. It may be something to encourage their lives. Something good can result from something bad.
@Jotomy (6343)
• India
8 Nov 10
Hi sender, true we should not be thinking always for ourselves we must think about others that and if possible try to help them. Something like engaging herself in some work. Thanks for your sharing. Have a good day.
• United States
4 Nov 10
It is a very intense situation to be in any abusive environment, but one that can be overcome with time alongside assistance and encouragement. I remember my days of living with my ex were so painful. Although I never received counseling for them, I have placed my faith on God. The power of prayer allows us to believe that life can be sweeter.
@Jotomy (6343)
• India
8 Nov 10
Hi hardworkinggurl. Yes it is very intense situation, and she is good friend of mine, if she is telling about herself i feel bad, why god has given her such a pain i feel. I always remember her in my prayer too. Thanks for your nice response. Have a wonderful day.