Why do so many of us try to change others?

People are in charge of their destiny ,and the only thing that we can do is to be there for them ,and to give advice and assistance when they request it. We are all different ,and diversity is what makes the World so excited. My siblings always wanted me to be like them ,and the funny thing is that I like myself ,and I don't think that I have to be like anybody. They are very successful financially ,and I'm just a social worker ,but I'm a very happy individual.

Hi Pose~ I believe the same. When we try to change people all we do is end up getting disappointed and sometimes angry with ourselves and then them. You are right when you say that everyone is created differently and has their "own" ways about them and their own character traits and it isn't right to ask someone to be someone or something that they just aren't meant to be. No matter how much we feel that maybe someone might be able to do better if they changed their ways it isn't up to us to judge or impose our feelings or opinions on others. I'm sure that we don't like it when it is done to us~

Yes I do I am a believer if you love a Person you love them as they are All I ever wanted in my Life was to be loved as me, not for People trying to change me, tell me how and what I should I do It took a long time to find this Person but I did He does say at times I should harden up, but also understands that is me and that I never will People are their own and you either accept them as they are or well leave them to being them

I believe that is true! We have been 'forced' to conform to whatever others believe, whether authority figures, peers, or society so we become conditioned to agree with others, or shy away from your true self-beliefs. Think for yourself, right or wrong, you will come to your own conclusions and don't let others influence you. Gloria Douglas http://www.pastparadigms.com http://www.chancenotes.net

Hi Pose: I agree with you but I also have to add that sometimes I see myself trying to change a person because he/she doesn't have the same point of view that I do. Then I realize that the way I live shouldn't be the only way people could find their own happiness. It's sometimes difficult because people tend to think that they are always right and of course, we would like that everyone think just like us. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO

I think things have changed dear.Now a days people have become so matured,that they are not trying to change others views and opinions.Why I said this most of the others responded that we cannot change people. Because we all know that 'Arguments will never change people's attitudes'.They should be convinced then the change apparently appears. So lets try to make our lives more fruitful by concentrating on our strengths and weaknesses. Wish you good luck with a smile.

Hmmmm???? Isn't life about CHANGE???? It's our interaction with others that leads to these changes. If we were to be totally accepting, never to share our view, very little interaction would take place. Sure there are those who take things to the extreme but their consequences teach them as well. I bet these people get lots of resistance. I know one can get tired of hearing it all,tired of all the drama, however drama is where most of the learning takes place. People interacting with people is the FIX. If people can't have freedom to be a pain, will their real problem ever surface????? When you get too much, go to a quiet place in nature. Charge those batteries. Come back when you are ready. Everyone's interaction is way too important to be out of the game for long.

Like you have said i too at times feel that whatever i do is right and the other(wrong) person does not want to follow my way. But there is a worldwide principle which says it is better to change yourself and adapt to the situation than to try to change others. I think that it is better as we are not disappointed at the end of the day but on the other hand when others do not listen to our piece of advice we are very much disappointed and feel dejected at times. But from your post i understand there are many who want to change others rather then changing themselves. Each and every one in this world are unique and so is their view point. Each one is happy when they view the world from their view and let it be so as long as they do not try to change your view. Happy mylotting.

Sometimes we just want people to think like we do. we want them to agree with what we have to say. We try to change people so they are more like us. it is not a right thing to do, but we seem to do it anyway.

We cannot attempt to change anyone by no means, besides it does not work unless the person truly wants to change for themselves. We can fool people by changing our ways simply because they want us to but at the end of the day we are not comfortable with who we have become and well either divert back to our old ways and or become worse.

yes I do have the same problem in dealing with other people.. I can't seem to avoid trying to change other peoples attitude or should I say point of view in life.. Much as I want to.. but guess we can never change others the way we want them to be.. well guess LIFE IS WHAT THEY MAKE IT!...

We cannot change the unique nature of a person. Every person has a unique personality and that cannot be altered by other person. Every person tends to remain that that unique nature and any change to this can cause some serious damage to personality, So I think, it is true and we cannot change the unique nature but attempts can be made to change the bad habits of the person...:) Be happy and be the reason of happiness in others life...:)