Do you keep away from depressed/stressed people?

@deserve40 (1656)
India
November 8, 2010 9:31pm CST
Many times we find that the people around us are under depression or in stress. However, it is necessary for us to remain in contact with those people and getting on with such people. Some times we fear that the depressed person would attack on us and we may get hurt, although it may not be the realy intention of that person, it is dangerous for us. So do you think that you should keep away from depressed people? If yes then how would you act if your close friend is under depression?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 Nov 10
Hi Deserve, No, I don't stay away from depressed people. If someone is going through a hard time, I at least try to console them or listen to them if they need to talk. If someone is constantly depressed, then I do limit my time with them and not because I'm afraid they will hurt me or anything like that. If I'm with a depressed person too long and too often then it isn't long before I start feeling my mood affected negatively from just being around them. Our moods really do affect others around us. Because of that I do limit my time with that person but I do understand they need to talk and to be around others and so I would never avoid them completely.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 Nov 10
Right...we have to avoid falling into the trap of getting caught up in the other person's anger and depression and it is so easy to do. You know how they say a smile is contagious? Well so is anger and depression. If you are actually living with someone like that then you can't really avoid it. You have to be really on top of it to avoid getting sucked in.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
9 Nov 10
I think that this is the worst problem one can face while living with a depressed person. Physical attack can be easily tackled and even the physical injury can be healed after sometime. However, the bigger damage is caused when you start feeling depressed after living with such a depressed person and so that will cause bigger damage to your daily life too.....It is not necessary to avoid a person completely but one has to be careful while dealing with depressed person.
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9 Nov 10
I have to agree with sid.... when you are around people who are stressed out or depressed then it has a knock on affect on you. I have to admit I stay away from hightly stressed people and Im not very good around prople who are depressed. I think anyone with problems like depression need professional help so I am not the right person for them to be around
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
9 Nov 10
I would be sad if you stay away from me. Yes I am a depressed girl. I don't hit people and always smile now as I am about to recover. I think people who are depressed need friends.
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• United States
16 Dec 10
you are right depressed need friends too. I've had to deal with depression all my life, because of things people have done to me. It has made not have any trust in people. So I pretty much stay away from them, because I'm afraid of getting hurt.
• India
9 Nov 10
hi, if I found any one who are depressed or undergoing any stress conditions i try to help them in all the ways to come out of that situation. First I will ask them about the situation mean for what they are so much depressed and try to share it and next will console about the situation and once anything shared with others it becomes half less and try to get them back to normal situation...I will try as much as I can and do it...thank you.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
10 Nov 10
That is the best way to solve the problem of depression for any person. However, the problem is that one has to spend some time with that person and try to understand the actual story. Many times it is not so easy to understand what the real problem is....!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Nov 10
I don't necessarily stay away from people who are stressed or in depression. they are usually the people who need a friend. they are the ones who may be reaching out for help. How could I deny them?
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
9 Nov 10
i didn't in the past until I realize that most of stressed people take out on who is close, i wanted to help but we always have to think in our selves first so now I REALLY be away from people like that, i guess they don't want help
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
10 Nov 10
I think that they need the help from close relatives and friends but the problem is that they do not know themselves what they do under depression and so they may hurt us physically as well as mentally too. They may use such a language that cannot be tolerated by us but there the role of a good friend comes. One has to extend the much needed help to such people. I do agree with you that we have to take care of ourselves too while helping such people.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
I never stayed away from anybody stressed or depressed. In fact now I'm trying my best to help these kind of people. I've got two friends who are in an emotional turmoil because of what's going on in their lives. I keep them company and when they're having breakouts I never try to stay away. I hope that my mere presence can help them.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
9 Nov 10
It is good thinking that one should not avoid the depressed person because the depressed person is one who needs to talk to the people who know him and he is the person who needs maximum support. Many times we feel very good if some good friend encourages us if we are not feeling well about something. That is just the human nature...!
@mhypie03 (683)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
Same here. I never get tired counciling such people as I know they needed more attention than anybody else that I know. We should be patient in taking care of them and helping them go back to their normal lives. If you fear because you think you are like a sponge absorbing all the negativityin them, well, you can call it empathy. And those who know how to empathize can never go wrong because they can feel for them the pain, hurt and agony whereas a good company is advisable.
• United States
16 Dec 10
You know people who are depressed. It is somethimes it is people's fult on why they are depressed in the frist place. Did you ever think of that. Something could have happen to them that made them that way.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
21 Nov 10
a good friend of mine is suffering from depression now but she doesn't live nearby so it doesn't affect me I used to live with depressed family member who was also violent so I tend to avoid depressed people not only due to violent tendency but also because their depression can affect my emotional well being that later on affect my physical well being it would be hard to stay away from a good friend, but if it doesn't bother you emotionally, you will just need to take a break from her now and then and just prepare for violence tendency when you are visiting
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
not all the time.. depends on the situation and it's all up to you anyway as to why you'll handle to person's emotional state. me, i still talk to them but as much as possible, i don't talk about sorry stuff or the sad part. unless it's really needed..
@dante_off (607)
• India
9 Nov 10
Well I always go forward and try to help anyone who is depressed or stressed. Because I know what exactly it feels when you are depressed or stressed. The fact that one attacks when depressed or stressed is less likely to happen, and about friends I always am there to make them understand and help them in any way possible... I just love to help others... ~cheerio~
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
9 Nov 10
That is great thing...! As a good human it is our duty to help others who are in need of some sort of support. However, it is hard to find the people who are always ready to help others. Infact everybody is worried about one's ownself and only the closely related persons at the most. It is because of this fast moving time and tough competition. Everybody has to strugle to find good livilyhood. The needs of human are never completely fulfilled and so they keep on growing up. In trying to fulfill our needs we tend to forget our moral duties too. You seem to be having high morals... Happy myloting...!
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• China
9 Nov 10
hello friend.i agree with you so much. no matter what we do in our life. but often so many people feel some depressed in their own life. so we can help him or her if we could do something. but we could leave away from him or her ,this is the way of life for ourselves ,best wishes.
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
Not really. Even most of the time I like spending my time with them for sharing. I may not give out the best advice they've heard but I can be a good listener.
@angyland (46)
• Australia
9 Nov 10
If someone is depressed or stressed, I try my best to talk to them, and offer them advice. Many of the times, these people just need someone to talk to about their problems. However, if they're being excessively negative to the point that I can tell that they're attention-seeking, I back away and let them be (After they talk to me about their problems). If it is my close friend however, I'll be there whenever they need to talk, and I'll try to come up with realistic advice or solutions that they might be able to apply.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
9 Nov 10
Talinkg to depressed people and allowing them to talk abou their problems will reduce the burden on their heart and mind. That will atleast relive them from that immediate stress. I think that in most of the cases gently we should tell that their problems are not so sever and they can be solved with courage. It is not necessary that we should be knowing how to solve their problems but just giving them courage would be the best medicine atleast for the time being. It is great feeling to know that someone is there with whom you can share your feelings especially when you are down under depression.
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• United States
9 Nov 10
Yeah i really keep away from depressed people.They bore me i don like to be bored if she or he is my close friend i really take care of them.the i sit beside the ill ask them what happened,y are u so sad an ol i will try to make her happy thats the true friend a friend in deed is a friend in deed.
• China
9 Nov 10
Deponds on what kinds of depressed!In fact,most of them are friendly,you can make friends with them,and give they happly!So,don't worry about !
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
Why stay away from them when they are the ones who are most in need of such help? I think, it is best that you'll find time listening to them and be with them until their emotional letdown ceases.