im so sad.... =(

@hushi22 (4928)
November 14, 2010 6:47pm CST
my bf said he feels unloved and is so upset of our long distance relationship. i wish there is something i can do to help him. i understand him for some reasons, but also not understand him because i swear i am doing my best to be a good gf amidst our distance and even my friends here on mylot could testify how much i love him. please help. i think him being sad and influencing me to be sad, too. =( we only need one and a half more month to be together...hope he can handle it. =(
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
It is ok to be sad. Just be sad. It is a natural feeling. I am sad too. I don't feel that I am being loved right now too. I do understand your situation so much. I hope if we wake up in the morning we will be able to be happy already with some other reason for us to be happy.
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@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 10
Yeah, I agree with you, just take a good sleep and things ll come to normal when you ll wake up. Actually we our self develop these feelings, and the person who is behind these feelings may be living a happy life, so why should we make our life sad and bad for such kind of person. Live you life happy, some one may need you, so why you are making your and their life miserable for one person who was not always yours, give time to your family, your loved one, who always seek your happiness, dont waste your precious time for such kind of person who is very happy without you....: Have a good night dude and sweet dreams of your loved ones...
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
One and a half month left before you guys can be together again? Well, how long has he been away since then? I mean, if he can last for about that much time, I do assume that he has been away for over a month and a half, how much more for the remaining time left before you guys can be together again? Don't get worried too. You have to counter his pessimism with optimism. Be excited that it would only take a couple of weeks more before you guys can get together again. Well, that's optimism for you. To your guy. He should be more determined with this since, he's the one who went away, not you. Or is it the other way around?
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Well, that's great news then Over two months and can't take a month and a half more? Anyway, he's good now so all is well. You should probably get to talk to each other on Skype so that you can see and hear each other and comfort each other's loneliness (^_^ )
@hushi22 (4928)
15 Nov 10
yeah, that is what we usually do. =) thanks for responding ratyz...
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@hushi22 (4928)
15 Nov 10
he is a german national but living in london. we both parted ways after our travel which was two months ago. he was fine after 20 minutes of posting this discussion. hahaha. he was just extremely feeling the loneliness. it really hurts to see him sad. i love him so much and i know he feels the same. it's difficult to make him feel how much i love no matter how much he knows that i love him. but we are fine and he is no longer sad and me, too. =) thanks ratyz. =)
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Hi Hushi, That's sweet. He is just really anxious to be with you, I think. 1 1/2 months really isn't that much longer but I'm sure it feels it to the two of you. Just keep doing what you have been doing and before you know it that day will be here. It's like waiting for anything. The closer it gets the more anxious and on edge you get. Good luck to both of you and I will be hoping the time passes quickly for you.
@hushi22 (4928)
16 Nov 10
yeah, i guess you are right that he was just being anxious. thanks for the wish sids. =) i believe in our relationship and both of us. i am sure we can make it. =)
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Nov 10
Long distance relationships are hard. But if it's only a month and a half, just ask him to hang in there, and let him know he will not feel unloved at all once you are back together.
@hushi22 (4928)
16 Nov 10
yeah, that's what i told him. i guess feeling sad when he feels lonely is just natural. he was okay then after few minutes.
@Ruby722 (796)
• China
15 Nov 10
One of my good friends,She is in your same situation.But her boyfriend however understand her,and very consideration.He almost call my friend everyday.And ask her happy or unhappy.In my opinion a long distance relationship is very hard .There must someone sacrifice his/her free time to comfort another.
@hushi22 (4928)
15 Nov 10
hahaha! he was so funny because after 20 minutes he sent me a message how sorry he was for being sad. he kept on saying he loves me. i guess it was only because he felt lonely.
15 Nov 10
agree, give time to your parnter ^^, trust trust trust is the key, my mom is working here in cebu and my dad is a chief marine engineer, and were 10 siblings ^^ the key to LDR is trust, that's what my dad say in LDR
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
hi blonde lady. don't be so upset. it's just a couple of days. cheer up!
@hushi22 (4928)
15 Nov 10
thanks turingskie. =) yeah, i am not upset anymore because he sent me a message after 20 minutes saying he was sorry that he was sad. after that we chatted and he was happy. i think he was just feeling the loneliness that time. =)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
See i told you so.. :) so be happy now.. so what is your waiting for? rate me as best respondent LOL.. Tc
@digidon (165)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
A long distance relationship is very difficult! might as well give him something to excite/anticipate him of what's to come... and make most out of everything... even time...
• Portugal
15 Nov 10
if he feels unloved you should maybe create a sweet video showing him how much you love him^^ im sure that he will feel happy with that or sing a song for him^^ his favourite song. im sure that you know what is favourite song is what about sing it for him? if you dont want to sing you can instead create a video and choose your song, bcs all lovers have a song together ahah, and put it in the background of the video and send him^^ search cute images, write sweet messages and choose your lover's song as background music. even is a little thing it has a lot of meaning im sure he will love it and feel much loved
@hushi22 (4928)
16 Nov 10
i already did many times. i always do something cheezy for him. i guess that time he just felt really lonely. he knows i love him but he just wanted to feel me in person but it takes a month and a half more. it was cute because after 20 minutes he sent me a message how sorry he was for being sad. hahaha thanks sweet. =)
@marcmm (1804)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 10
Having a long distance relationship is very hard indeed. Sometimes Love is just not enough. Usually being lonely taken its toll. Most of people did't like to be alone. When I first have to move to work, I was kept distance from my wife and son for more than a year. I feel very lonely. I cannot afford to always go back so we just kept in touch by phone. When I come home, I will feel lonely and due to loneliness I will drink until I cannot got up.
@hushi22 (4928)
15 Nov 10
yeah, i think it is because of the loneliness but it is okay now in less than an hour he sent me a message that he was sorry for being sad.
@yanyanyow (326)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
aw hushi, it seems that it has been really hard for the both of you being in a long distance relationship. just always let him know how much you love him and how excited you are to be with him, and that he just need to hold on and wait for one and a half month and both of you will live happily ever after:D
@applejoy (145)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Trust, patience, quantity of time with him.. there are a lot of things that are needed for LDR to work. It takes a lot of patience and understanding to invest to make it work until you guys were finally together. You can't blame him for this, and all you can do is understand him and make him feel secured and assured that you love him and will never leave him even you guys are apart from each other.
15 Nov 10
sad to say but long distance relationship most of them never work very well.. don't be sad he never know what he lost if he breakup with you..
@tylerlou (67)
• United States
15 Nov 10
If you guys are really in love, I believe that he will be able to last the next month in a half. Long distance relationships are very tough and I know from experience that sometimes they don't always end well. But you seem like you legitimately love him and it will last.
@hushi22 (4928)
15 Nov 10
yeah, we are both in love. i just hope he will never be sad again...it hurts me so much when he is sad and he feels the same when i am sad. thanks pal. =)
@kyugen21 (23)
15 Nov 10
are you a Filipino? i'm not a good at advising peoples own problems especially in terms of love life, well most long distance relationship don't really last but half month is near the two of you will be together again, and your doing your best to show how much you care and love him, it already proved that you love your bf ^^, in my own experience in terms of love life, 1 important thing in long distance relationship is trust, trust to each other, without trust to 1 another, nothing will work out but the end of relationship, let your bf show or feel that he can trust you ^^ ehehehe half month so this Christmas, the two of you will be together again! advance merry x-mas wish both you luck ^^
@hushi22 (4928)
15 Nov 10
he trusts me. trust was never a question and he knows i love him. he just wanted to feel it like me being around him and he got frustrated. but he was still fine. i managed to make him smile. =)
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Hi hushi. Probably your bf is just bored or homesick from where he is now. Or maybe excited for it's only more than a month to be with you again. Or maybe he wants to hear something sweet from you since you're apart...you know. Sometimes guys wants also to be coddled. Just keep on assuring him that you're just there waiting for him and better if you call him. To hear someone special's voice will do a lot and get rid of homesick.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
That's the hardest part of being in a long distance relationship. The distance makes him feel he is not loved and alone. He could never see your effort and your love because of it, but I know that you had done your part. Dont be sad, some long distance relationship is a strong relationship. You dont have to be always with each other just to feel the love, loving is always about having faith and respect with each other. Just try to understand him.
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Hi hushi22! I know that you BF just missed you a lot. Maybe he is just very lonely that he's not with you and can't be near you. One and a half month is not too long. I think what you must do is to cheer him up by telling him like you are eager to see him very soon. Make it sound like it's just days before you could see each other again. Tell him too that you love him. Why not do a video call with him. It would really cheer him up to see your face. :)
@garrie (1)
15 Nov 10
why your bf felt unloved ? I think you need more communication.although you are living a long distance you can have a call everyday ,or communicate through internet. what you lack are trust? communication .he could not feel your love
@eamr_25 (26)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
it makes me sad all the time when my mom ask for something yet i've done my all but seems like it's not enough...I wanted to give them all they want but I have given them my ALL but it was and will never be enough for them. I felt so disappointed everytime this happens.
15 Nov 10
don't be sad hushi22.. Just be strong and few more weeks to go. Long distance relationships work because each party is strong. Keep the love and have faith. Cheer up!