Why do people cheat in love?
By ajithlal
@ajithlal (14716)
India
14 responses
@youless (112113)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Nov 10
Human beings are complicated. Some of them are not faithful and they like fool around. Perhaps it is fun but I don't agree to it. In the love field, people shall be serious to it and it is the basic moral in my opinion. Love is selfish and it can be shared with more people.
I love China
@chelobascara (2)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
in one way or the other both parties love each other coz if they dont love each other then they would not be together. however, time comes that one or both parties look for something they cant find in that person that could be the reason why people cheat
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@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
15 Nov 10
I think this happens when people care more about themselves than the person they love or whom they are with. People usually seek attention in other people when they lack it at home, when they feel that they are leading a boring life and everything is the same all the time. They want to be excited again, so they don't think much about how it is going to hurt the other person, they just think about how to make their own life more fun. I guess.
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@jubalstar (50)
• United States
16 Nov 10
I can totally agree with that. I lost interest at home with my girlfriend. I served overseas in Iraq, and we chatted alot online. I came home for R and R and got her pregnant. When I came home, everything changed. I didn't feel the feelings we once had while I was overseas. I think she just fell out of love with me. I looked elsewhere for attention and got caught. When I explained to her why I did what I did, her response was, " don't even try to turn this on me."
Anyhow, all is forgiven but our relationship is on complete standstill. I still think she loves me, but the feelings for a relationship is gone. The flames have been put out.
So, I feel all is lost. And I am not sure what to do anymore.
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@dollar3235 (2062)
• India
15 Nov 10
Nobody can cheat in love. Only if someone is not in love or pretending to be in love can cheat with the other person.
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@majody83 (46)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
maybe they are not contented with their partner,they are looking for something new.It just my opinion,sometimes in a relationship it happens without even knowing...my friend have experienced that before she loves her man so much until one day hr caught in cellphone that he had a conversation his classmate.i do not know why he have done that,when i ask him he did not admit it.although its obviously seen he still refuse to tell the truth.as i have said to my friend move on forget the memories and there are lots of fish in the sea,he is not worth it.
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@mrsjumppuppy03 (3301)
• United States
9 Feb 11
It is the forbidden fruit. Everyone wants what they can't have or shouldn't have. It is natural animal lust to flirt and then move to the next level or reacting to the flirting especially if it is not what you are receiving at home.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
23 Nov 10
I think people cheat, because they think they can "have their cake, and eat it too." They want a partner of their own, but they want to play the field too. those people can't make up their minds.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
I do not actually know the reason why. it would be very easy to say the words, "i love you" or "I care for you", or "I want you", but in truth it is hard to do it. I also wonder the same and I have asked many about it, yet no one can answer me the right reason. Of course, we always say that a person cheats or unfaithful because there is some thing wrong with the relationship or say there is something missing. However, if you deeply perceive it, whatever the flaws in a certain relationship, the real reason is not about the flaw.
It is easy to detect a person who is cheating his gr or wife, but the reason for the person to cheat is not definite. I think, that's when human nature exist.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
15 Nov 10
This happens sometimes and it can't be helped.. But if it is happening like hurting always , then it is not a proper way of being in a Relationship.
If someone is not returning back the Love they get, then it actually meant that they are not true in their Love..
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Nov 10
I don't think that people set out to cheat on the ones that they love. it just happens when we least expect it. We don't think about how we may be hurting someone else. We only think about how what we do makes us feel at the moment.1 person likes this
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
I agree. If you love someone and he doesn't love you in return, you get hurt. But love is something we cannot force for the other person we love to feel for us. We can't make the person's heart feel something it won't. It hurts us but we cannot do something about it. Just look at it this way, he is not the person God wants you to have. There is a better person waiting for you in the future who deserves you and will love you even more than you love him. Wait for the right time and the right person to come. Don't haste. Trust God.
