Should a woman quit a job in order to take care of children at home?

@yenwie84 (1344)
Malaysia
November 18, 2010 8:13am CST
I heard about this from one of my colleagues. Her husband was asking her to quit her job and stay at home to take care of their children. Why should women only to take care of children? Why should women to do the sacrifices for children? Maybe women are better in taking care of children than men. Is this the reason? I don't quite understand,perhaps I can get opinions from some of you especially those with children. Please advise. Thank you.
15 responses
@kailoklok (139)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
because women is the perfect thing to do the job.
• United States
19 Nov 10
yeah right, women are the perfect one's to do the job.! But I saw daddy's too that do perfect job just like women too!
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
women fit that role, but nowadays, their roles have changed, they have become important figures in politics, corporate or in some organizations too.
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
I'm not married yet but if my future husband ask me that, I'm going to study the situation first. If he can provide all the needs and wants of our family, I'll follow his request and vice versa. As for your questions, I think the reason for those is because of them believe that men should work hard to provide his family while his wife stays home for the kids. Well, apparently, they're wrong.
• India
19 Nov 10
It all depends on you. One of the parents has to make a sacrifice. If you being a woman, feel burdened to do this, then you must simply communicate this to your husband and the couple should find a solution...However, if you really love ur husband, I think you'd not mind making this sacrifice....And, if you love both ur husband and ur job, then the best thing would be to make good relations with your boss much BEFORE your Pregnancy and I am sure, all the good companies do not ever like to lose a good employe. If your performance at ur work area, is above average, the boss would not mind you giving a leave for a few months to take care of your child during the days when the child needs his / her mother the most.... All good comapnies do this... Try!
• India
19 Nov 10
i think if finacally u r strong then u should quit the job for your childrens,because they r muc imp than any tng else...i knw nmone wants to spoil her carrier but u can do smtng from home...so tat both carrier and children can be look after...u should nt sit at home witout any work, do smtnng from home....
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
19 Nov 10
I also quit my job to look after my child. Actually i like job and i don't like to depend my husband for money. But.....it is the duty of a typical wife to obey their husbands'. What can we do? Mother delivers children and not father. So it is mother's duty to take care of their children. Here i'm blaming the Creator- Our God- He created women like that.........
• China
19 Nov 10
For myself,a man also can quit a job in order to take care of children at home.I think this situation depend on the reality.If wife is the main of economy income,husbend should give up the job to take care of children.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
18 Nov 10
kids are only little for such a short time and its best to enjoy them when they are. i was a stay at home mom for 10 years and loved it. you just learn to live with less.
@maximax8 (31047)
• United Kingdom
18 Nov 10
I think that a lady that has children should be able to work full time or part time if she chooses to do so. A child minder, nanny or nursery could look after the children. I think in most cases a mother is better at looking after the children than the father. I think that the husband is being awful.
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
No. I don't think a woman should quit her job to take care of her children if she does not want to. It really depends on the woman. The husband should not force the wife to quit her job. It is always the woman's decision. I know several working moms who are good at balancing their work and home life.
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
Hi there! For me, its better when one of the couple, either the mother or the father should be there, stay at home, and do take care of the family especially when their children was still young. Me, for example worked then, and leave my one year old daughter to a nanny just to know that she was being neglected and let her cry the whole day when im at work. My neighbors discloses this all to me, and not only that, she was being carried and taken to the squatters area almost every afternoon. I never hesitate quitting my job because of that. I took care of her till she reached 6 years of age. I worked again knowing that she's in the good hands of my eldest sister but now, Ive learned that im pregnant again to my second child. My husband requested me to quit my present job for we aim this thing for a very long time. I never hesitate and quit just only yesterday. For me, my family should come first, no material thing could exchange for the safety and well-taken cared of members of my family, and for me, im the right candidate for the role of being in the house for them so I just happily play my part. Good morning!
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
No, I think the only time that I will quit my job is when my kid has special needs. I would still want to work even when I am married and have kids.I do not want to be dependent on my husband and I want to have my own money. Having my own money is important as I do not need to ask my husband for money whenever I want something for myself. being independent is SEXY!
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
Hello yenwie.. ^.^ I don't have a child yet but I just wanna share to you my perspective on this matter. Throughout most of history, wifehood and motherhood were regarded as women's significant profession. Until today, we still have that notion that ideally, women are supposed to look after the needs of her husband and their kids while men are supposed to provide the needs of his family. But due to the economic instability, both are forced to work hard to give there children a good future. So to answer your question, if my husband would ask me to quit my job for me to be able to take care my family, I will do that granting that he can sustain all our needs and he can give us a better life. Maybe family oriented women would surely quit there job while carrier oriented women will not.. ^.^
• Romania
19 Nov 10
If any of the parents quits their job to care for the kids it should definitely be the lower earner, because children are extremely expensive. But it's not required. There are ways to work around this problem and a halfway responsible father will definitely not let the mother shoulder the task alone even if he has a job and she doesn't. It's just not done. I have to give a huge shout-out to my own parents. They arranged to work in different shifts so that one of them would always be home - almost - and they shared all the duties equally. Dad is extremely fond of small children so that might have helped, but he did his share fully in the child-rearing. There were three of us to the two of them and somehow they managed, and I turned out quite well as a result. Well actually I turned out quite horribly but through no fault of theirs.
• Netherlands
18 Nov 10
I Do not agree with women being pressured into quitting their job to look after the children. In my opinion, the only reason men suggest this is because they are admitting that they themselves are not capable of doing the job.
@dodo19 (47299)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Nov 10
Well, I think that this is really up to the couple. I think that every couple's decision will vary, as they are in the better position to know what is best for them and their family. I think that a woman should quit her job to take care of her children ONLY if that's something that she really wants to do, and if this woman and her husband think that it's the best thing to do.