My BestFriend or My one and only Partner in life? Pls GIVE me some Advice!

November 18, 2010 8:25am CST
well i have this bestfriend, he was pervert and boastful person but i cant blame him he grow up with no parents nor relatives, its been 4 months when my X girlfriend broke up with me, then i was asking for a date my bestfriend give me the mobile numb of this woman, were on date and getting to know each other, but something happened to the both of us, seems like a magic that i start to like here and same for her, we both misses each other, till i court this woman and she say yes, so i was happy she was happy but when i told my bestfriend about the news he was just suddenly become paranoid, he told me we are not meant for each other, she's a b!tch a warfreak, all were negative feedbacks so it turns out it we were arguing about her, and he want to take her back, he told me he was wrong, but its too late she loves me and i love her, she choose me, but my bestfriend start too make up some stories just to destroy her image especially to my family and close friends, so i ignore my bestfriend and was forbidden to come here in our house. . . im happy right now because of her, i cant let go of her, shes my world and same goes to here! am i doing the right thing now?!
3 responses
@tedeng06 (60)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
Saying bad things about a certain person is a mean thing to do. I think you did the right thing because judging from the way your best friend act is all I can is your best friend has an attitude. You make the right decision as long as you are happy and you are not hurting anyone there is nothing wrong if you follow your heart.
19 Nov 10
thanks a lot, actually he ruined my Highschool life, he make some stories which it bothers me since i was Highschool but i forgive him already, but seems his too boastful and tactless he doesnt care what he say even it hurts someone's feeling
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
I think you should have an opened mind about this. When you broke up with your ex-girlfriend before and your friend introduced this woman, I think your friend only wanted you to have a good time and not get serious because you're still fresh from being heart broken. He did this without thinking that you would take this woman seriously and now that you are, I think your friend is just worried because he knew exactly who this woman is. This is my opinion from the facts that you've just written. Although I don't know you well, your current girlfriend nor your bestfriend, I can make this opinion based on what I can see from the facts. Pleas have an open mind and don't be blinded because you are in love. HOpe you'll find the true answer and meaning to this dilemma of yours.
19 Nov 10
no i do love this woman we see each other everyday, calling and texting every hour. my bestfriend is old enough to understand the situation, i mean his 23 years old, he should be happy for both of us, all i want is respect to my gf if he doesnt respect my gf same with me! I am open minded person, his to amateur, look he want to take it back when he found out were partners or lovers already, shes not a toy that you can just give it and take it back she's a human being, the girl chose me not him because i show how much i care and love her!
@thuynhu (661)
• United States
18 Nov 10
If you truly love her and she you then your are doing the right thing. I know you said it had only been 4 months before your last break up, so you need to be certain that your just not getting close to her cause you had gotten your heartbroken...kinda. I don't know that part to be fact or not but I know people just want someone to love them after a break up so as long as that's not the case then you are just doing what your heart feels for this other girl. As for your "bestfriend," if he was your bestfriend he should be happy for you guys, not trying to break you guys apart. He's allowed not to like it but he should just be happy that you two are happy. I would have to continue to ignore my friend until he were to come to his senses and apologize for other the negative things he has been doing. If you guys are as good as friends as my bestfriend and I are things will make up in due time. Just give him his space to think it through and I'm sorry if he doesn't come back that just means he was a true friend to begin with. Good luck to you with your girl.
19 Nov 10
heheh thans thuynhu, yes i do love here! im just angry what he did to me and to my gf, she was trying to blackmail her and me so he dont deserve to be my bestfriend and i told him that, and he ask forgiveness but its too late, i realized he dont deserve to be my bestfriend, he even make some stories that were cousins to many people even tho its not true