How is The feelings Before getting LOVE and after loosing it ???

@Ritmon (118)
November 18, 2010 10:53pm CST
When a face always moves around of our mind and heart,we think that we are in love...then we try to express our love to that person in many ways...the feelings of that time is nice to us..that time we think in our mind,"if one day i get my love i cant let him/her go"...if one day he/she can realize our love and accept it,we are flying in wind like a feather...feelings of that time is priceless.. it continues few months in a smooth way,but sometimes misunderstanding,jealousy create a distance between them...at a final stage we can't control our self and the relation became in trouble and we lost our love....... we realize the pain of separation,when all is finish...then we pray to god to get back him/her in our life and wait for our love to come back.....
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@annein (128)
• Singapore
19 Nov 10
arguments and misunderstandings are part of the relationship's evolution. its all up to you how you handle this trials, and once overcome then it will make your relationship strong. for me, love, respect and trust are the key elements for a relationship to grow. if one of these elements is missing then it will bring destruction to your love affair. as saying quoted "you only realized the importance of a person once he/she is already gone". don't take such thing to happen, take action as early as you can.
@Ritmon (118)
19 Nov 10
Till now i love her inside my mind,but she can't realize my love or cant want to realize my love....may be she thinks in her mind that i am now dont love her...but my position in that stage from where a man cant reach the level of understandings.... when we are in a good position,i was always talking with her about misunderstandings,believe etc....now she leaves me alone.....what should i do??
@annein (128)
• Singapore
19 Nov 10
maybe you tell so many lies to her that she don't want to believe in all you says already. show to her how sorry you are and let her know that you are sincere in saving your relationship. if needed then give her some space but reassure to her your love and you will always there for her when she needed you most. tell her that you're just a hand away waiting for her. there's a saying that "if you love somebody then let her go. if she comes back to you, then she really is yours. but if not, then she's not really meant to be yours."
@Ritmon (118)
20 Nov 10
When our relation going on smoothly any problem can't touch us...but after an incident she can't believe me,my fault is that i was selected in a company and my office partner was a lady....from that time she followed me with a doubt all time and i cant handle it any more... some hard words came from me and she leave me.....what should i do in that situation????
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
The feeling when love starts is the most intense. Butterflies in our stomachs starts to fly and euphoric emotions starts to fill us up. After love we get disoriented, at most, big time. Drinking and eating non-stop and all. It's like love can cause us to go bipolar.
• India
19 Nov 10
Before falling in love, it is full of expectations and also you will feel like the whole world is behind you, its such a nice feeling. Loosing one is the worst feeling in the world. the pain of separation is seriously horrible. I hate it like hell man. both are 2 feelings which everyone will undergo
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
20 Nov 10
Before we have love, there is an emptiness we don't realize that we have. there is always the longing for what could be. When we have that love, we are fulfilled. When we lose that love, the emptiness returns. Now the empty feeling is much stronger and is often mixed with despair and regret. Even those these feelings of loss will hurt us more, it is better to have experienced the love than not to have experienced it at all.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
19 Nov 10
Hi Ritmon, what you said is all correct. Before love we may not have any feelings, but come to separation is much pain he/she cry for being separated from their lover, they cry and cry to make themselves calm down or to control from that pain but still it pinches, how much we cry also that pain will not go from our heart, it may take many years or a life span time to forget them. But it is also true if we love a person we always feel for their good and betterment of their future for which we may be praying that gives little happy.
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 10
This is the problem in our life, Get and Lost. When we are ready to get something, we must prepare to lost it. Nothing can be forever in our life. Just be mature and conscious. This is just a matter of Get and Lost.
• United States
19 Nov 10
I don't think there are any feeling before love because you don't have any feelings like that to go on. Its not the same love as for your siblings or parents, there is an allure, or draw to somebody because they seem to be the missing piece of you. Not all relationships are fairy tales, some are nightmares. When you do you loose love its not so much the feeling but the feeling the person gave you. You could find another and feel in love but it would be new feelings.
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
Before getting love, I think of the person constantly. Everyday, I couldn't miss thinking of that person and it feels so lonely. So depressing too. After loosing love? hmmm, I don't think about that person constantly anymore, spark is gone. Or if I'd still like that person, it breaks my heart in a millions of pieces. These part is where I can't sleep anymore.
19 Nov 10
The situation is like a mirror, but this mirror is not showing how are you now is shows totally opposite thing... the sweet times are when you are with your partner, but sweeter when to want to propose him/her, thinking of her like mad, giving cards & gifts etc. i.e. before the relation get started... the most bitter one is when you are loosing him/her. what ever can be the reason but it hurts.... but i want to say that sometimes break up is good for the relation, it gives you a way to know about proper love & a experience that matters... if you really love the guy then you wait after break up, when trust works, but if the trust get hurts then don't think about it second time......
19 Nov 10
Look buddy, falling love and stay with my love is most happiest moment in our life. Before getting my love we always pray to god, please help him/her to realize my feelings. Then all time s/he stay in our mind. It must be effect in our studies. We can't concentrate in any work. Which effect our carrier. And when we get our love then we spend our most beautiful times in our life. When we loose our love then also it effect our carrier. And i personally think if my lover can't believe/trust me, break up our relation for miss understanding or to believe other than me, then I'm so lucky that my love leave me. In which relation trust is not present, it's better to finished. Other wise, it spoiled two life.