Will you forgive your lover when he cheats on you?
By ellebj
@ellebj (784)
Philippines
November 20, 2010 1:54am CST
what will you do you found out that your lover has another woman? will you able to forgive him.. think of this situation.. you are deeply in love a guy/ girl. you are then in a relationship for at least about a year.. you did everything to make him/her happy.. you even give yourself to him/her just to please him/her. one day, you found out in one of his/her text messages, a message to another person, showing affection and is very sweet.. no doubt that they are really in a relationship too..
of course you are hurt badly...
so with a deep pain in your heart.. what will you do to the lover? will you able to forgive him/her?
6 responses
@la_chique (1498)
•
26 Nov 10
Everyone deserves a second chance, but just not 10 or more chances. its hard to build trust back up, and there has to be a line that you have to draw otherwise, you'll end up becoming his doormat.
I'd not be so quick to snoop through his phone though and draw my own conclusions. I'd at least have a chat to him about that.
@Budettesky (95)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
yes, i would forgive him, and i should!
we all know that everything has its own ending. though the relationships gone bad, we must accept it. if we dont forgive how are we able to move on?!
when we are still in that gone bad relationship, we do lot of things, we even gone crazy, but remember its our choice.... so its our fault too...
it really hurts when someone cheated on you especially those people you love most, but thats life...
@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
thank you budettesky..
you are right.. we have to forgive people for every mistake they had done to us even if it is cheating.. it may be the harsh thing to do but i think they had reasons by doing so.. a partner, as far as i now, do it for a reason (maybe dissatisfaction, disappointment, feeling of being unloved). but the main score of this kind of problem is on how you are able to handle it.. for me, it is the turning point of every relationship because this kind of problem is a test and the judgment of how strong your foundation is.. though it is rude, you have to get over it... and forgiving is one way to let go of the past or else you will forever be haunted by it and be unhappy..
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
That's actually the thing that I fear most with relationships...I guess now that we have a baby...I'm gonna widen my understanding...try to forgive him and give him another chance. If he ever does it...and God forbid...I hope it doesn't happen. But if he does it again, then I think thats the time to leave things behind.
@Vnyard (286)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
Once a cheater, always a cheater...yeah, people change, people realize their mistakes and they do deserve a second chance..but that second chance is not coming from me when a man cheats on me... there are plenty of humans for that second chance concept to go around with...it's not a make-up exam is it? hehehhe
@rayverkyle (18)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
That would be the least thing you could do for that kind of lover of youras. Because in the end he will realize that he had done the wrong and the most awful thing, that is to cheat you.
