it's complicated
By acey76
@acey76 (1276)
Philippines
November 22, 2010 5:42am CST
I have a friend who said she will not have a relatinship over a man who has a family or married, but she just ate what she said and they we're seing each other for 2 months now. In your opinion, or if your in to that situation will you fall for a married man/woman?
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7 responses
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
You are right. It is complicated. She ate what she said because we cannot control out heart whom to love. I have my own guilt of cheating and so did my husband. Though if ever our marriage would end, I don't want the reason for it is a third party. I have been thinking and wanting to end my marriage but it's not because of someone else. I don't think it is right to leave your husband/wife for another man/woman. If that is the case, why did you marry her/him in the first place when it would be that easy for you to replace him/her?
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@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
23 Nov 10
Who wants to make wrong decisions? Who wants to be the baddie? I DON'T want to fall to a married man/woman and it never hapenned to me before to do that. However, howcan you control your feelings? Your friend is not the only one to blame. The man who's married is also faulty. If he had this good conscious, he wouldn't have an affair for the sake of his wife.
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@durgabala (1360)
• India
22 Nov 10
in my opinion its wrong. if u do not like a relationship end it and then go for another. if ur marriage is not working divorce is the answer, not extra martial affairs.
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That is totally wrong and indecent action. Tell your friend not to do that in the early as possible as long as not yet really strong and deep their relationship. It may cause trouble to your friend... see you around.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Well, she had her reasons why she fell in love and seem to swallow what she said in the past. It's a matter of decision that she indulge herself into such a relationship, and if you would be kind enough to your friend, gently make her understand that she shouldn't pursue such a relationship. Because we know, it is not right, and no matter how it feels so good, it wouldn't make the relationship right. And, make her realize, that she is not just destroying a relationship or marriage but she is also making her life miserable (well not for now, maybe she's enjoying) but later on she'd realize, so as early as now, give her a piece of a friendly/sister's unsolicited advice. God bless you! and may your friend be awaken with the reality of her situation, and move on towards what is right! :D
@tragicbeauty (50)
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22 Nov 10
If its behind the wife's back no. but I am free spirited and I believe in polyamory (loving more than one person) but I would never use it to break up another marriage, that is cheating and dishonest.
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
30 Nov 10
Sometimes people do things that they never intended to do or never felt that they would ever do. Most the time its when they meet someone who sweeps them off their feet and changes the way they feel about that certain thing. I did hook up with a guy that was married because he told me that his wife and him still lived together but he was looking for a house because they were getting a divorce. I felt bad after thinking that could have all just been a lie and how would I know.
