Giveing discipline to child

The best way to discipline a child is to talk to them. Ask them why they do that thing and how do they feel about doing it. Let say your 3 year old child tantrums in the table and throw away all her food. After they are done with the tantrums talk to them in a nice way. Spanking them or shouting at them instantly will only worsen her tantrums. Communication is the best way to discipline a child. Never yell at them regularly because they will not be scared of yelling anymore or spank them. They will be used to it but if you show then that you are in the authority without yelling or spanking then they will be easier to discipline.

There are a lot of proactive ways to discipline the child which works way better than paddling! I should know, my mother used one on me as I was a very hard child to handle, she used to paddle me(I'm from Philippines and paddling was okay, even expected by the mass), but saw that it had no effect on me whatsoever, I would only get angry and sullen. She then found a better way, she made me clean the mess I made, or stand in a corner, revoking my T.V time, etc.; then later talk to me about what I've done. This worked better, and this works better for those hard to manage children, they just don't get it why their parents who love them would purposely hurt them.

I don't think that paddling or spanking is a means of discipline that one should use on a regular basis. However, I also don't think that it is a means of discipline that should be outlawed. The reason that I feel this way is that I think there are certain times that I think discipline like this needs to be used, like when a child places themself or others in immediate and potential danger. They will never learn in those kinds of situations without some form of pain.

Is there a reason you need to hit a child with an object? Is spanking with an open hand not enough? The problem with frightening and painful discipline is that it does not teach a child not to misbehave; it teaches him not to get caught. It also teaches the child that the strong make the rules, so when he grows bigger and stronger than you he is likely to hit you or threaten you with violence if you try to give him a curfew or take away a privilege.

I feel children need to be disciplined. They need structure and stability. I do not feel that the government should by any means tell us how to discipline our children unless we are abusing them.