Can you handle being famous?

feelings that come with being famous - famous yet lonely and bored
@bounce58 (17387)
Canada
November 22, 2010 1:49pm CST
I was watching a show on TV last night and one of the characters said that ‘being famous is the new world order’. It’s like a lot of people want their 15 minutes of fame. And with the internet, a lot are trying different ways to get to that fame. Now my question is, if you suddenly became famous, would you be able to handle it? Would you like having PR person or a publicist? How about having an entourage wherever you go? And having people do everything for you? And not having to lift a finger if you want something? Won’t you get lonely and bored?
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@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 10
I was an underachiever as a kid, so when I became a young man, I wanted to be famous. I didn't really care how; but I was talented; I could sing; and proved to be a good actor. I was also good looking. But neither fame nor success never came my way. Just when I seemed to come close to my dreams, I somehow messed things up. I lacked courage, and confidence; but I had the looks and talent; and charm. I feel i could have made something of myself. But then I started drinking, and that was the end. I sobered up (had to or die probably); and tried again; but once again, I messed things up. After a time, it occurred to me that I was tired of trying, and I stopped. But even now, I'd like to be famous; not very famous...just minor fame; some kind of success; to make people who believed in me proud of me. But I fear it won't happen. And that makes me very very sad. Money's tight; and it would be nice to have just a little bit of success after all my trials; to have that freedom; and that mark of success; but alas, I fear it will never be. So; yes, i could handle fame...I mean minor fame...for a while; it'd be all i wanted; but my chances I fear are gone. It's sad to realise you are a tragic individual; it's not glamorous like it is in the movies...it's tough to live out.
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 10
Hi Cynthiann, and thanks for your very kind comment. Yes, I tried, but not hard enough, and I made many glaringly idiotic errors of judgement. But you are right about the sobriety; I tried again, and am still trying. I like that: a man was always a man who kept trying. I must remember that. I hope my parents are proud of me. Thanks so much for such a kind comment. Carl.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
23 Nov 10
You do not have to be famous to be a success. You are a success already. Do you know why? It is because you TRIED. You gave it your best shot and that is a we can do. Give something our best shot. And then - what is even more worthy is that you sobered up and TRIED again. I aways told my husband that a man was aways a man who kept trying. You are a success. Yes, It woud have been nice to have had a bit of the limelight but you sound to me to be a very good man. A son to be proud of. Live out your life knowing that you gave it your best try. You are a success to me.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
Hello CarlHalling. First off, thank you for sharing a part of your life here. I know that for myself, even with the anonymity of myLot, it would be hard to put everything in writing. Specially to accept defeat, as in your goals. I would like to note though even if you didn't reach one direction, you did turn against one, and chose sobriety. And I think that is already success. Goodluck.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
22 Nov 10
With a son entering representational politics then, regretfully, I am attracting local attention in our small town. This is increasing but I ignore it unless people ask me directly and then I say that, yes, I am his mother. I do not answer any political questions so nothing really has changed except that people stare a lot. I have always treated people with respect without any distinction of class. Mt father always said that it was the mark of a lady or gentleman to treat all people equally. and this I have always done.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
22 Nov 10
And no, I do not want to be famous! Famous for what anyway
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 10
The ones that are in power are so corrupt. It is sickening. Bribes are used to buy votes. all my son is promising is justice, equality and transparency in all matters. He is honourable and my family are supportive to him - especially his MotherWe pray for him to succeed.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
I used to live in a country where all politicians and their family were famous. And yes, people did look at them differently. They walked and talked as if their were gods. But behind the scenes they did had some corrupt ways. Yes, cynthiann. You don't want to be famous like them. You're father was a very wise man.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Nov 10
I don't know if I would make a good famous person. I cherish my privacy too much for that and the paparazzi can be very nasty when they are given the chance. I also tend to put my foot in my mouth on more occasions than might be acceptable to the public..lol. I do think that it would eventually lead to boredom and how would you ever really know if the friends you aquired were really friends because they liked you or your fame?
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
12 Feb 11
Thanks for the best response! Being famous wouldn't be as easy as it looks..lol.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
I think that is the saddest thing about being famous. Being constantly surrounded by a lot of people, yet you wouldn't really know if they are friends or are just there because of fame. Thanks Jen.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Nov 10
I honestly don't think that I would really be happy to be a famous person. I like my simple life and I like having my privacy. I wouldn't want to have to deal with a publicist and the paparazzi. If I was to ever do something that would make me famous for some reason, I think that I would want to find some place to go live where there was no one that could care less about me than to have to be followed around all the time and to be waited on hand and foot.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
Isn't that what famous villas in Europe is for. Hopefully, with fame come riches too. So you could live your simple life out there away from nosey people and the 'local' paparazzi. George Clooney comes to mind. So it is possible, at a cost of course.
• United States
22 Nov 10
Just like the new celebrities always say when they hit the spot light it is like being in a fish bowl with everyone watching in. I can imagine life being a bit glitzy at first, then as time goes by it becomes a bad annoyance.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
23 Nov 10
It would become a right royal pain in a certain part of the anatomy that we cannot see unless with the help of mirrors
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
If by annoyance you mean you will not have any freedom to do what you want to do. Or feel like in a fishbowl all the time, then I wouldn't want that kind of freedom for myself too. And yes, I would need mirrors to direct where that pain is coming from.
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
I think I can't handle being famous! I don't like getting attention. I am really a shy person. I am very much happy and contented with my present status as an unpopular person. :)
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
Hello mariacecilia. Some people are just not cut out to handle fame. I think that is you and me included. We'd rather be our own 'unpopular person'. Thanks.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
22 Nov 10
although i would love to have the money involved, i would hate to be famous. you couldnt go anywhere without a crowd, what a drag that would be!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Nov 10
It would be a drag! Having all the means to do everything and buy anything, yet you couldn't do it as it may affect your reputation. And to be followed by the crowds all the time without any privacy.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Oh, how I loved to be famous one day even for just one day I got to experience when people were screaming for your name. People want to get their photos taken beside you and you will see your poster in every peoples bedroom or living room. That would really makes my day something to remember for the rest of my life. Being famous with all the power and money you can spend is like a dream come true. But honestly I would rather have lots of money and live in privacy than having money yet you are surrounded by paparazzi all the time.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
Hello reckon21. From the first line of your response...to be famous one day, I think I would like to experience that too. If there was a guarantee that it'll just be for a day, then maybe I'll sign up for that. Just to experience the madness. And be back to my private self the following day. Thanks.
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
22 Nov 10
I wouldn't want to be famous. Everyone is always speculating about you, talking about you, taking your picture, following you around. That is not for me. I wouldn't want an entourage, at least not all the time. I like being able to go wherever I want, whenever I want without carting around a bunch of people or having security. Some people want this life, but it is not for me.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
29 Nov 10
I guess it is the same with me. I would also like to have everything I want, but not all the people and hangers-on that is involved. It's amazing how some people chose this kind of life. Thanks.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
The last thing that a famous person enjoys is "freedom". So,i think being famous is stressful than enjoyable. Of course they enjoys the praises and all the comfort that a famous person has. But privacy is one thing that they misses in their life too. I don't think i can ever handle being a famous if i lost my freedom and privacy. have a good day
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
Maybe that is the price of fame... losing your privacy. I know a lot of us wouldn't be able to handle it, but I think a good many people can handle it, and have chosen this kind of life. But, like you, I wouldn't be like one of them. Thanks.
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Being famous is a whole new lifestyle for me if ever. I've always wanted to hang out with friends and meet other people i don't know. If i'm famous, yeah, i can do all of it but the treatment will be different. I'd still prefer to be who i am right now.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
I guess we will never know how we will deal with being famous, until we get there. And we would all like to have a different 'treatment' of handling it, but we would never really know. But it is great to think about it. Thanks.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
I would really love to feel being famous. I think I will be able to handle it very well. Like all the actors and actresses here in our country they are just like enjoying their popularity.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
My comment above just described differences in people. While I and a few others would not be able to handle fame, I think you aaronfyzeon are part of a few who wouldn't have any problems being famous. Thanks.
@calpro (930)
• India
23 Nov 10
Hi, Certainly, I would like to become Rich&famous. I try to put my maximum efforts in accumulating wealth. When you have money it is not so difficult to become famous. Being famous earns respect wherever you go in your city,state and country. I wish it lasts long, Not famous for day Cheers Calpro
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
I must admit that there is a certain truth to what you wrote. That being famous earns a certain amount of respect wherever you go. People seem to get awed by someone famous that they end up affording them all kinds of respect and attention. I just wish people put it to good use. Or handle their fame well. Thanks.
@MasonM (107)
• United States
23 Nov 10
If it involved alot of newly found money, I wouldn't mind at all(:
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Dec 10
Hello MasonM. I guess those two come hand in hand. Usually there is a lot of money involved when you become famous. Not sure about the extra attention, but like you, I also wouldn't mind the 'newly found money'.