Love Hurts, do you believe so? Why?

I would have to agree with what you have stated here in this discussion of yours. Its those failed expectations in such relationships that hurt, not the very abstract idea of love. We tend to be illogical when it comes to such things but, the feeling is something which is often sought after by most people. When things don't work out the way we want them to be, we get disappointed and the very cause of such affections would often be blamed. Well, if it was an equation, if love was not there in the first place, a person wouldn't go through such emotional roller coaster and be upset when the ride doesn't turn out to conclude into a good ending for them. That's why it is often blamed. Then again, I could recall a colleague of mine who asked everyone at the office if love hurts. We often said 'yes' but, as a surprise, he retaliates by saying, 'Love doesn't hurt. People do.'

I have asked that question to myself many times and just recently. And even if a part of me tells me to stop loving in order to protect myself from getting hurt, a stronger part of me says I should not be afraid of getting hurt. Loving is hurting. And I believe it is better to feel love and get hurt rather than regretting of not trying if it would work or not. I keep saying to myself, I'd rather risk my heart and be happy today, treasure the moment and the feeling while it last. Get hurt tomorrow and cry hard, then be strong and move on. That's life. It is not all happiness. What's important is you learn how to deal with it. Move on, be happy and love again.

very well said..I actually believe in a saying, YOU HAVEN'T LOVE IF YOUR HAVEN'T EXPERIENCE GETTING HURT. It's actually the risk we are taking when loving again after the painful experience but I guess its life's nature...

love is the beautiful thing in life. it is not the love that hurts you. it is the misunderstandings or uncompatibilty that hurt. All these points arouse poeple's guess and then cause the untrust. so cherish your beloved and give them assurence s that you can make the family well and give them a comfortable life. Both enjoy of that life.

Love is a responsibility, as well as a privilege. True love is very powerful and beautiful but it must be fed and sustained. You have to share a genuine caring for/ with another person. Their pain becomes your's, and your's becomes theirs. I feel the reason why it is so hard for people to keep a relationship alive these days is because most people want the best deal. They always want the most while giving the least. It is a tug of war that some people never grow out of. Good luck friend.

Yeah, you have a good point there, it's not actually the LOVE that hurts, it's those we love tend to hurt us. If you have already encountered the statement "the one who could hurt you the most, is the one you love the most" That's it we don't get hurt because of LOVE per se, those we love that hurts us. Nice post! It made me think too! God bless you!

Dear friend, It hurts most when loved one expires, get hurt. May be love do have to be handled carefully, if not at times it becomes irreparable injury. I fee we all like to get love that too sincere love that do not hurt us. Yes most problems arises due to those failed expectations and betrayals

yes i agree with you. Actually if we don't love something or someone. we will never get hurt.but since we usually love a person, a thing like car, house, then if we not get it.. we will really hurt. Love is always accompanied with sacrifice.

Yes i agree with you. Since the time we were born our parents loved us. They don't know who we are, they don't know what we would turn up to be but they loved us no matter what happened. They even still love us today for whatever we are and whoever we ant to be. Hurt only comes when there is no trust or faith with one other or each other's love. If a person starts to doubt some other person they forget that they are loving that person and start spying on him to get to know him/her better. We first learned to love from our parents who taught us to love together. Betrayals happen when we lose our trust in the person we love. That he/she could do something without our knowledge there comes the sign of betrayal. That is really mean and not so good. There after betrayal trust earned is easily lost and takes a lot of time to regain it back! Cheers!

Love requires a lot I guess. They say that your greatest sorrow is also the one that can give you the greatest joy. I dont know if its just betrayals and failed expectations but in any case we are all bound to get hurt because of love since we're not perfect and one way or the other we are going to hurt people that we care for even if its not intentional.

I do agree with you, it's the person that hurts herself by the expectations that were not met. That means, it's not the love that hurts, but the lovers themselves. It might sound sad but people who give all to loving sometimes are the ones who get hurts because the love was not reciprocated. Love is indeed so complicated, there are a lot of angles that we can discuss here for that matter, for now, that is my stand, cheers!