When Your Best Friend Falls Terribly In Love
By Bannybanzie
@Bannybanzie (1397)
Philippines
November 23, 2010 4:57am CST
Hi fellow myLotters!
I had this friend who always asks me things about love (even if I really have no experience about this at all, as in). She always fells badly in love that she would do anything for that person she fells in love. The first one she loved was her ex-bestfriend. When she told the person about her feelings, that person drew away from her and left her. But she would not just let that person go. She would always follow her (yes, it is "her") wherever she goes to the point where the poor girl would say anything just to push her away because she does not agree to have a relationship with my friend. It took about two years before my friend let the girl go on with her life... and the reason is she found another girl to be crazily in love with.
This next girl, on the other hand, would accept a relationship with another girl... the problem is not with my friend. She (the new girl my friend) likes another girl too which happens to be in our circle of friends. It really created a tension between all of us because two of our closest friends are waring because of that girl. It took three years at least before she forgot that girl...
Just like why she forgot the first girl is the reason why she forget the second one. She is again in love with a new woman now for two years.
But this time, she has totally gone mad. She even told me she would kill anyone who would try to take this girl away from her. She has become very possessive. The girl really pushes her away but she would not let her live in peace.
In all these cases, I did nothing but to tell her to think what is right and do it. She knows what she is doing is wrong especially warning that she can kill for her. I always try to help her by giving her the best advice I could give her, but she just would not listen to my advice. She always asks for my advice but never listen to it. She would always hold on to what she feels and would do anything to fight for that.
I did not tell her but she really scares me. The way she has been acting frightens me because of the thought of what she may do to herself and to others. I really don't know anymore what to tell her. In fact, I sometimes think I should move away because I don't want to experience what those girls experience from her.
If you're in my shoes, what would you do? How would you help her? What would you tell her?
3 responses
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Hi!
Yeah... Any advice I give her she just would not do... She always asks me what to do but when I tell her, she would not do it. All she wants to do is "show that person her love"... She should have not asked for my opinion, right?
By the way, thanks for dropping by!
@sweetmary86 (822)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
my friends are kinda crazy bout their men. when their guy isnt around, they keep talkin bout them 24 over 7. i use to but now i learned to control my blabbin but i still talk bout someone im inlove with. my friends and their men are havin autism. its like they have their own world. they like their men to be around always..within their sight. and im sure their really possessive. they keep on checkin and monitoring the boys. i do fall inlove intensely but not as showy as them. im a discreet type of person. aheeee..!!
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Yeah... girls really seem to be more showy than guys. A lot of girls really get mad and crazy when in love... Thanks for dropping by!
@stewiekillslois (64)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
I have a friend like that, falling madly inlove and not letting go (even if the guy is not into her). She is very very annoying, always updating her status (on Facebook) on how her life and love life sucks! Damn! its so annoying. I care for her, so I told her to stop it and simply move on because nothing will happen and that guy will never ever come back to her.. And because she's making a fool out of herself, like she's so desperate. Ugghh.. BUT, she did NOT listen. Still dramatic about her crappy love life.
I think what you should do is tell her one last time, what she should do. To move on and go on with her life. Tell her there's plenty of fish in the sea, and once that fish comes to her it will be the best she'll ever have :) Then tell her that this is the last time I ask you that. After this, you're on your own.
Thats what I told my friend.
And PS. I am into girls too. And I think the reason of her being possessive is because homosexuality is discriminated in the Phils. so some homosexuals tend to hold on or to cling to someone they are attracted to. Its like only few people here are into that kind of relationships so grab it now or never get it again. And I think because Lesbians fall the deepest. (inlove) :)
