Does Money and time required in a relationship?

@xxj3ffxx (501)
Australia
November 24, 2010 12:37am CST
Once my friend told me... Jeff, if you want a girl you will need to spare some time for her and spend money going here and there... But in reality i really thing that once going out already spend lot of money paying her dinner, her movie and plus the extra thing that she needs. What do you guys all think? is there such things happen to pop out of ur mind once?
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@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
The Great disadvantage of men... having them to pay out dinner. LOL! I don't know where that started, but yes, I guess that come along with it. All guys that courted me is like that, they insist to pay everything. And i was afraid to let them down cause I might hurt their ego. But really, Whenever I am in a relationship before (and not just fling dating) I make it a point that I could also have my share of responsibility financially.
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@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
24 Nov 10
oh ok interesting point... Men actually behave like this because they think they are expected to do so.
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@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Yes, And I wonder who ever started that. ^.^ I have brother would always complain about why does it have to be the guys to always pay the bills? it's really funny though, but I think it's also depends on the women, especially if she already know what kind of lifestyle a men has. We shouldn't abuse it though.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
24 Nov 10
Both are depending on the girl and the men :P There are these type of people that like going here and there where money is required . But well i sometimes like to go out in the nature or just take walks witch cost you only time . I think every relationship consume time , more or less, there are all type of people , i prefer to spend as much time as i can with my beloved :P .
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@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
24 Nov 10
Yes, thats cool to the good people like you wants to happiness of your beloved ones.
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Yes definitely time is really required to have in a relationship. It is really true that you should have time for your loved one because as time goes by your lover would feel taken for granted if you will not have enough time for that special person you have. But money? it is not that important as long as both of you in that relationship is financially stable.
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@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
24 Nov 10
Yea, thats what i thought too, money is not important when there is love
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@p3ks626 (6545)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
If you want a girl then those things are necessary these days. Men will always try to do everything they can to impress the girl. But later on when they get married, men change and turn into a monster who doesnt even remember to buy gifts for the girl's birthday.
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
28 Nov 10
Ohhh... I can feel something is not right about this comment. I hope you are not talking about your own experience because it would be awful and so low from the husband who spoke about promises when getting married .
@fl0rencia (415)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
I think you can't avoid that. Ot maybe you could but ofcourse it would be more more fun when you do spend. But actually, it's not the matter of spending that is important. What important is you both are having fun. If you really don't want to spend money, you both could talk about that. As I said, money is not important, it's the love and happiness that you feel whenever you're together
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
28 Nov 10
Yes, thats 100% true, but nowadays, as you can see, everything is not free. Wherever you go.. even if you have to offer her a dinner, you must spend. On first date, is there any ideas how to spend the minimum of money? I dont want to be scarce, but as for someone who hasnt find any work yet, how can we date when we dont have money? Does it still call a date when just walking along the park and enjoying the talk?
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
It depends on how you courted the girl.the problem with boys is that when the court a girl, they pamper the girl so much, that when you're finally going steady, the girl is already spoiled. If from the beginning, you didn't spoil the girl, then you wouldn't need money for dates
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
28 Nov 10
haha.. i bet you are right! but there is more chance that the girl will like you if you spoil her right? or am i wrong? Well.. your comment make me think of a girl i use to pampered, she is unfortunately only like a sister to me. She is pretty but only a spoiled girl because of me. I think she's in love with me, but she never admit it.. too bad for her..
@SIMPLYD (90852)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
It depends on the kind of girl you will be dating. Besides, it also depends if you would like to cultivate a deeper relationship with a girl. Of course, when dating a girl you would like to have a lasting relationship, at first you should be the one to pay for your first and second dates. Maybe, if the girl has already liked you, she will be the one to ask you out and pay for it. That's how it is when you are already in a relationship.
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
28 Nov 10
oh yea.. it has always happen to me when a girl ask me out and pay for me.. but it seems very weird tho.. to have a girl paying for me.. I know that its a kind of sexism but its just the feeling.. what should i do about it?
@liuyh0619 (108)
• China
25 Nov 10
That depends on what kind of relationship you are involve. If you are serious, you are willing to spend as much time as you can on staying with her. Speak of money, except some vain girls, the others focus more on your attitude towards the money. They won't care too much for money if the love works. But you should own the stable income.
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
25 Nov 10
yes. very true. Stability is one of the important thing to be considered so as the let your girl know that she is with a person whom she can have some reliability.
25 Nov 10
Yes and yes to your question. The third thing needed is compatibility, if the relationship is to last. Shared interests, personality traits... Of course, it is great to have some differences too, to make life interesting and so you both have plenty to talk about. Of course the whole of life is a balance, so all of us, all the time, are learning what we like and don't like; increasing our abilities to share good times together and learning to take on the challenges that will always come in any relationship. (surprised I have even found the time to come on myLot, so much going on at present, but just felt I wanted to share!!!)
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
25 Nov 10
yea.. thats also true. but some people think that wherever they are of the same kind means that they are compatible... which actually means trouble such as One stubborn can meet another stubborn can be very disastrous!