Should I go or not?
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6414)
Vietnam
November 24, 2010 2:43am CST
We have a colleague whom left his job because the contradiction with our boss. Instead of paying the salary for our colleague, our boss keep it. Then,he invite all staffs with a party. He say that our colleague's salary will be used to pay this event. I don't like at all with this idea. But should I go or not?
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9 responses
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
25 Nov 10
As i said in other posts too, I hate injustice! And this is a perfect example of it. First of all, let your friend know what your boss said and convince him to sue the company. It's what they deserve. Also, If they are a small company, talk to your colegues and think up of a plan to get your friend the money back. He was one of yours until recently, remember that.
I'd try to convince them to threaten the company that you all quit in the same day if he doesn't pay the money. He can't make his company work without 90% of his employees and by the time he finds replacements, he'll have to close the company first. So bottom line, force the guy's hand and make him pay up your friend.
And try finding a new job..I this happened to him, who is to say it won't happen to you too in the future?
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
26 Nov 10
If you want an honest opinion, I think it's lame and cowardly. If your boss is that absurd, no matter how good you behave around him, he will still do whatever he pleases. As long as you people think this way and not stand up to him properly, like your colleague did, he will never stop. You have the advantage of numbers, use it properly. He can't fire you all so if you make a common statement of dissaproval he will think twice next time when he decides to treat you like garbage.
You people have rights too, you know? You work for him and he has certain obligations towards you. Make him keep them.
What do you think about my solution?
@tkonlinevn (6414)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 10
In order that I won't repeat my colleague's case, I should go to the party to keep the good relationship with my boss. How do you think about his idea?
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
25 Nov 10
I don't think you should go. You should try to get the others not to go also. I would let the boss know why you don't think it is a good idea, if you can. There is always the chance that he will fire you also, but he doesn't sound like someone you enjoy working for anyway. I would start looking for another job!
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
26 Nov 10
What does him inviting your boyfreind as well have to do with anything? It just goes to prove he wants to spend your colleagues money in one blow so that when the poor guy/girl comes to ask for them, he's gonaa say he spent it. Which is a lame excuse, cause frankly, if i were to be hired by such a guy I'd tell him straight : don't care where you get the money and what money you spent, you'll give me my salary. Or else I'll see you in court. If you have a legal contract with the guy, of course.
@tkonlinevn (6414)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 10
There're many people said like you. But my boss suggest me inviting my boyfriend together. I don't know what I can think and do.
@tkonlinevn (6414)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 10
No, of course. Why must my boss invite my friend when he leave him?
@tkonlinevn (6414)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 10
Do you think that our relationship with boss will be worse if we don't go to the party?
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
24 Nov 10
If he worked and is owed that money, that is illegal. I definately would not go, or you will find yourself perhaps as an accessory to theft after the fact, or charged with benefitting from money you knew was stolen.
@tkonlinevn (6414)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 10
You look have many experience in this issue. But I want to say the my colleague also have some wrongs while he talk to my boss. So, he left her jobs. So It's difficult to me to decide to go or not.
@oligel (130)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
if i were you, i won't go.
boss is a boss but, if that is the event he is not honest. why he keep the money that is not his, and want to share the said salary to his subordinates? just to get your attention, so that he will not be the one to blame why your colleague left his job.
@tkonlinevn (6414)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 10
I think so. But I still work here. I must keep the good relationship with him. So, I'm very confuse now. How do you think about this?
@inday_lorna1970 (1268)
• United States
26 Nov 10
I had been to that situation working in an office with a crooked BOSS. it is really hard that if you don't go by the flow everyone will look at you like you are an itch to them. But I always make sure I am honest with myself. I talk to my BOSS one to one and told him " I cannot take to eat the food you gave from stealing perhaps if I didn't know you steal it I will but if you do it so I will sympathize you..! you are wrong.!
Next day, I resigned..just two weeks after I resigned trouble sparks out in the office just like happy new year! until the office was closed.!
If you can take the situation, and can't leave your job then you need to go by the flow. or else you will have an enemy everyday at work! or you'll be kicked out!
good luck and have fun!
@Chiniona (327)
• China
26 Nov 10
I think your boss is very detestably. Why could he do that? My God, does it often happen at your company?
@ldloverose (64)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 10
Oh, tell all your college friends to make a strike, and you all can get back your money ;))
But if i am, as your boss, i should spend all if i wanna make a party for staff ^)
@cuckoosnest (250)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
The idea of using the money that your friend rightfully earned for a party he's not even invited to seems a bit odd. Your boss is not being professional at all and should not be encouraged by everyone going to that party.
You can always make an excuse if you're afraid you'll get in a fight with your boss. There's always a good excuse for not going to a party.
@tkonlinevn (6414)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 10
It's difficult to make an excuse. If I don't go to the party, our relationship maybe will become bad :(
