Do you think it is harder to make new friends after your 40's birthday ?
@wildlittlefan (4680)
Hong Kong
November 24, 2010 3:42am CST
We can make friends easily when we were in kindergarten.Everyone can be your friends since you wouldn't know the danger of being hurt by others anyway.And the teaches would always protect you in a setting like this. When you grow older,things have been changed. You quickly learned that not everyone can be your friends and sometimes you got hurt from others or you might hurt others as well since everyone is different.By the time you got marry in your early twenty's or early thirty's, you are getting more mature and knows how to protect yourself more in relationship with others. There might be some old friends who will still have communication with you or some have already leave you.You will have some stable friends and you will probably feel satisfy with your old friends and don't even border to build up new relationship with others.Sometimes you will probably feel tired to make new friends .By the time you reach 40's,you might probably find it harder to build up a deeper relationship with anyone again.There are many reasons behind it but the fact you are either too tired to build up new deeper relationship with others or you think it is just don't need it anymore.Well, tell me about your opinion and your experience anyway.


6 responses
@annein (128)
• Singapore
24 Nov 10
for me, friends will come at different faces in life regardless of age. it's all up to us how are we going to welcome them in our life. friendship was build with trust, care and love as well. and through time, the relationship will grow deeper as we grow older. friends do come and go. cherish the old one and welcome the new one but of course vigilance. :)
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@titchy1231 (732)
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26 Nov 10
i think it depends on the person as everyone is different. i dont see how age would make a difference. when you are at school you make friends, when you start a new job you make friends, when you meet a new partner you meet their friends and they become your friends. when you become a parent you meet other parents, you can meet people anywhere. ive not reached 40 yet and hope i do still meet new people but i am a pretty shy person.
@wildlittlefan (4680)
• Hong Kong
26 Nov 10
Well, I think you will have a better understanding by the time you reach 40. I think make friend s with others is not just an art of interpersonal skills, it is also related to one's character and personality. Sometimes, it also related to outlook and physical fitness as well.But When I said by the time when we reach 40's ,we will experience many change in terms of psychologically and physical as well. Even in mentality will also be affected. It is a time that you will keep mlooking back and re-evaluted your past and starting to chase some old stuufs and the memory that you had probably lost. For example, you may call up some of your friends whom you haven't see them for a long time. You may also want to take walk in your primary school to check out if that scholl is still there.You will go to seek your past because you probably lost your way after your 40's. The dream you have chased before seems disappeared and even your look will be totally different from your young age. History and old memory seems to be a treasure to you and you wonder what you want to do in your next or perhaps the last chapter of your life.There are so many changes will take place within your mind. You want to be young again and starting to treasure the last lovely moment before you getting older. It is a transition process from your adult age to another stage,perheps the old age would be better described for you.Anyway. I hope you will understand and experience it yourself. But for now , enjoy your every moment of your time on earth and treasure everyone you have encounter in your jobs, family, friendship and whatever seemd meaningful to you. It is because life will only happen once. Have a good day and enjoy your time in mylot.




@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
i am a type of person who is quiet, and i dont talk that much when i am with a crowd of people i dont know, so since childhood i have limited friends. my wife on the other hand is a very out going person, if you will let her go out everyday i am sure she will gain friends by the minute. i am not yet 40 but my wife is, and she can have friends because of her trait. so i can say that even you are more than 40 even you are 60 or more you can still make friends. bu make sure you make friends with your crowd, sometimes making friends with younger people makes them think your up with something. har har har
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
30 Dec 10
I agree with annein. It depends on your situation and where you are. Working at the amusement park allowed me to meet many new people. Now they are my Facebook friends. And as a writer I am also meeing new people at my age which is way over 40.
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
24 Nov 10
I am not 40 yet, but I do think it gets harder to make friends the older you get. But I guess it is very much up to ourselves as well, if you are friendly and actively try to meet new people, I am sure it can be done. But yeah, as a kid it is much easier, you are right.
@dynzdolina (381)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
I haven't thought about it yet, I think that does not make any difference, moreso, you got even more friends because of more mature insights and wisdom that one 40 year old has..




