What have you learned from loving more than one in your poly relationship?
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
United States
November 27, 2010 12:32pm CST
This is for our poly friends and those who have been involved in polyamorous relationships: What have you learned from loving more than one?
I have learned that I am capable of loving more than one individual with the same passions I love my primary partner. I have learned that regardless of the level or type of love that it all comes from one central part of my soul and it is agape. I simply love them in all of their being for better, for worse, in sickness, in health, and all that makes them who they are as a fellow sentient being. I have learned that I have an endless supply of love and that it never goes away.
I have learned to be more accepting and tolerant of my fellow human beings. I have learned how to be loving of myself with all of my flaws, as well as all of my gifts. I have also learned how to stay true to my own beliefs and not be pressured by the society around me. I have learned to love those who do not approve of our poly lifestyle.
Overall, being poly has changed my perceptions about what it means to be married, committed, and love.
Namaste-Anora
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2 responses
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
28 Nov 10
hi anora,
i think it is some what difficulty relationship with more than one, if any of two will interact and discuss about you what you will do,keep both friends separate,and donot real one relations to others,maintain like that,do difficulty,now a days most of the people are having poly relationships,here to also,have a nice day
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
29 Nov 10
Namaste Anora,
thanks for the response,you have lot of interest in our tradition and language,how many Indian languages do you know,if you know Telugu also,we can have a chat in telugu also,i could not join in accult site,which was in your profile,have you added any thing new to your profile or site?have a nice day
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
28 Nov 10
I think that is why communication is so important. However, it is outsiders of the relationship that seem to have issues with the "terms" used to define and often confuse such relationships with polygamy.
Namaste-Anora
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 10
Since poly relationship is not acceptable by our culture and our conservative society here, one needs to be discreet and should not be known to the public if one is in a poly relationship. Once it is leaked that a certain person is in a poly relationship, others will try to avoid any contact with that person as if she is a dirt or a leper and associating with her is seen as immoral. The only channel is through the net where one is able to have a distance relationship without triggering public outcry. I don't know whether I can be considered to be in a poly relationship as I have a long time friend online which has been my constant support emotionally when my real world relationship goes lunatic.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Zandi-
I think this is true of anything that is not accepted by a particular society is at risk for being spoken about in the community. For example, if the majority of the population is heterosexual than anyone outside of that is spoken about. If the majority of the population is White, anyone outside of that is spoken about. If the majority of the population is Christian than anyone outside of that is spoken about. So, in this case I think that the way to acceptance is through education just as with these other areas of life. I am glad that you have a friend you can confide in though.
Namaste-Anora
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