Husband will be away, Time to Poly-affair with him :D
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
Philippines
November 28, 2010 1:10am CST
My hubby is leaving for a three week trip. well, we have saved a lot of money and kept a few since we won that Lottery jackpot last year. Yes, there's still some of it left since we never told any one. 
Before he left, we talked about things i need to do with out him. I swear i deeply loved him and it's not easy pleasing myself with out him. but of course, he knows i have feelings for some one else too. some one he and I both trust since he's the only one who NEVER betrayed our trust. after a few conversation on that topic, he agreed. provided that i should call him after doing that so he wouldn't have to worry.
Besides, He's been sad lately. I've been busy with work and I got no one to help me out with the house hold and *some thing else 
* He really doesn't mind since I also Deeply Love him too. It's strange but I've had same feeling for this other guy for years.
I think some one here misjudge for using him for fun. too bad she doesn't know me the way "HE" knows me off line.but I am sharing you this because I want to let every one know, am not ashamed of him or what I do. those who are oppose are probably close minded or jealous.of course, he thinks am just using him but I Love him too. and I am willing to let him go too if he finds some one else.
Before he left, we talked about things i need to do with out him. I swear i deeply loved him and it's not easy pleasing myself with out him. but of course, he knows i have feelings for some one else too. some one he and I both trust since he's the only one who NEVER betrayed our trust. after a few conversation on that topic, he agreed. provided that i should call him after doing that so he wouldn't have to worry.
Besides, He's been sad lately. I've been busy with work and I got no one to help me out with the house hold and *some thing else * He really doesn't mind since I also Deeply Love him too. It's strange but I've had same feeling for this other guy for years.
I think some one here misjudge for using him for fun. too bad she doesn't know me the way "HE" knows me off line.but I am sharing you this because I want to let every one know, am not ashamed of him or what I do. those who are oppose are probably close minded or jealous.of course, he thinks am just using him but I Love him too. and I am willing to let him go too if he finds some one else.1 person likes this
8 responses
@carolscash (9491)
• United States
29 Nov 10
I do not believe that any man is willing to share his wife with someone else unless he is doing it out of desparation to keep you as if he is afraid to say no. I know that my husband leaves town a lot for work and I never think of having an affair with anyone else. I appreciate my husband and the work that he does and having a wife at home for him and no one else means a lot to him.
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
i understand you're opinion.. maybe I was raised and lived a life compare to others. probably we were free than anything else. but i do understand that not every one can do this. am just merely sharing my experience here but i guess i shouldn't share this in teh first place
. maybe I was raised and lived a life compare to others. probably we were free than anything else. but i do understand that not every one can do this. am just merely sharing my experience here but i guess i shouldn't share this in teh first place1 person likes this
@toniganzon (77120)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
I admire your husband for allowing you to do this and I think it doesn't fall on the category of cheating at all because cheating is when you're having an affair with someone without your partner's knowledge. I'm not here to judge you or anything because it's your own choice and because I hate it when people judge me too when they don't know anything about me at all except what they have read. And you're just sharing here and not asking for advise. So thanks for being honest and i hope you will all be happy with that situation!
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@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
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Thank you so much for the admiration toni, but you know, it ain't easy i thought it would be.if it's cheating, then my husband would have known about it. he's a lot smarter than i am when it comes to busting cheaters. and letting him know that made him realized the trust that i bestowed him.1 person likes this
@shia88 (4570)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 10
Hi,
It is kinda a complicated relationship that you have with your husband
and another party.
Since you mentioned that you love your husband so much,then you
should not love another man in your heart.
Although both of you are trusting each other,but then do you
ever think if your husband betrayed you one day...what will you do and how
will you feel about it? It will be very pain for you.
From my point of view, If I love someone,then I will live for him, and love
him truly with my heart. I won't compare him with someone else.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
Hello Shia,
I wouldn't do it if He didn't agree to it. at least he knows that he doesn't to worry about me cheating since he knows whom i should be with. well, that's his choice. we had a rough time he and I, i believe my hubby had become more mature now than ever.i guess it's something beyond you're level.1 person likes this
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
For me you must subject your husband because if you are not doing that you get sin to Jehovah God the owner of the married life.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
thank you so much for you're guidance. but i have made my decision. something that people within the "RELIGION" would never understand
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@vicereine (451)
• United States
28 Nov 10
I hate to offend and I really don't mean to but how do you know your hubby doesn't mind. I mean he says he doesn't but does he really have the option of saying no to you because from what you wrote you will cheat anyway. You didn't really give him a chance to be "honest" to you. I agree with Visavis you are just lonely and making up for him being gone with someone else. I personally don't believe in loving two people exactly the same at the same time. You always love one more than the other and one day this will come back to bite you in the butt. As far as being part of the dark ages I would be proud to be monogamous instead of being the town bar wench.
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Another typical conservative person. then, you're head is no different from him. people say those thigns like you said now because you always wanted the safety belt. i have nothing against that, how ever, you have already offended me so either you mean it or not, it doesn't freaking matter. besides, why bother responding if you find it disturbing.1 person likes this
@vicereine (451)
• United States
29 Nov 10
For the exact same reason you felt the need to share it. Just to voice my opinion and make a comment for some extra cash. You do know even though you feel one way there are bound to be people who will post here thinking different. You set yourself up for it when posting this discussion so you should be able to take the comments that you get with a grain of salt. Besides if you are as you say "proud" of what you do then it shouldn't matter what I or any one else types. Best of luck to you and I really hope you and your hubby are truly happy and not just playing happy.
@sriroshan (2584)
• India
28 Nov 10
You are lucky lady since you hubby had the faith on you. Advice you not loose the faith your hubby have on you Remain in your control
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Yes, I have faith in him and so as he does to me. most specially that he knows i can only do it with the one he and I both trusted and not with strangers.
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
Hello Mika,
It seems that most Lotters have obviously forgotten who the person was you were talking about.although i admire you're admitting into this, but of course, i warned you before the implications of some users might take it negatively. as some will use religion or principle in the relationship to disagreed with what you did.
But it's you're choice and you're a grown up. am sure you know what you are doing, specially if hubby agrees to it.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
Hmmm yes I understand that you have a freedom but if you said to a guy that you trust him it should be true to be true not only when he is around but specially when he is away. Sorry but I don't believe that you love somebody on the same time you love another, you cannot do it on the same time with same lavel of feelings. I don't believe that you deeply in loved in onother guy the same as your hubby, the other guy may be you want only to make over the loneliness from your hubby.. see you around.. 
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
typical men. you think it's funny right when am only being honest here. am sorry if you're one of those who got stuck in the "DARK AGES" of monogamy. we aren't like those who hid in shame while they cheat. at least my hubby understand what am going through.
Personally I don't give a crap whether you believe me or not. 1 person likes this
