How do you control your anger?

i barely want to control it XDD but when i do want, i just do what i like most, which is singing or writting poems calms me down. you should do what you like most too when you're angry

I have been known in the past too totally lose my control. I have learned that not only was I irritating others with it I was also hurting myself in the process, as Anger is something that makes me think in the negative direction. So I have learned to tell my self silently to stop, and remember I cannot control the entire world's actions and or what people say and do. So I try to simply stay as busy as I can to forget and or put it aside for the moment. Or I will simply await bedtime with the hopes that the next day will be better.

I used to have a bad temper when I was angry. And when I was angry it scared people because of aggressive I would get. I would break things or punch something to let it out, but it would take so much. It felt like uncontrolled rage. It was like trying to control an animal, and it didn't help because I am such a strong person. Muscles and anger do not mix. This was not good for me, or anyone else. Now, I did turn it into complete focus when I am working on something, and anger carries a lot of energy, it has helped me a lot when I need to focus. Also, I lift weights to control the anger (yeah, get bigger and stronger to control anger). I must have had a lot of anger because of how much I grew. But is also a reminder to control myself since hey, you are a big guy, and you intimidate people easily with the size alone, so try not to scare them. People do feel intimidated at first when they see me, but find out that I am a docile creature. Finally, I try to find some relaxing music and sit somewhere alone, where I can't be disturbed. If I can give my head a getaway some time, things would be easier. My iPod has saved me so many times. Once at work, it was so hectic and crowded that I was willing to sit outside in freezing cold weather to get my head away from the madness.

Anger is really difficult to control. It sucks you in even deeper if you feed it. The best way to control it is yo revert your attention or just simply move away from the source, the thing or person that makes you angry.

A lot of people lose control when they are angry is because they are not aware of their anger at the very momnent. If a person develop stronger awareness of his/her emotions,like anger, he will be aware of his anger and start to do something about it before it get too worse to be controled. One secret is to take deep breaths when you are angry and imagine the anger goes out with your breaths.

I think controling is not ok , since it stays in you . I release it by yelling (here in the wood no one hears or who cares :P ) Or hit the table rapidly or something else . Let it out but not on someone :P I think its more healthy then jest keeping it withing and trying to control it :)

I become angry sometimes but it's never a problem. I might express my anger towards something in a discussion but I don't take the anger out on anyone.

Hi devijay78, Your post made me think about a Pastor that I had years ago. I remember her telling me that if it wasn't for anger, she would never get any housework done. So, when she got angry, she cleaned house. It is not unnatural to feel anger, it's how you deal with it. I will admit that when I get really angry, I cry. Sometimes I hate that fact because it's hard to talk when you are crying. Then there are times when I just take a deep breath, and walk away. I believe that stress takes a toll on the body not anger. A person that is really stressed out can become angry at the drop of a hat. So, if someone gets angry all the time, they need to step back and take a look at themselves to figure out why they get angry so much. And it is probably because they are stressed out about something or things.