is it really a big deal if a guy buys a sanitary napkin?

Philippines
December 1, 2010 4:00am CST
i have experienced ever since i got period that whenever i asked my brothers or guy cousins to buy me a sanitary napkin they always stare at me and look at me like i've done something horrible at them. of course i understand why cause it feels awkward for them if they are the ones who will buy a sanitary napkin for me. but what if you know i have a heavy day (means heavy period) and i can no longer go out at the bathroom to buy it. for me if i see a guy buy a napkin it wont be a big deal for me cause i know maybe he was just asked by her girlfriend or sister or his mom. for me i will find it sweet cause he didnt hesitate to do it. for me there must be no issue at all if a guy buys a sanitary napkin. why us girls, it doesnt matter for us if we buy underwears for our man or to our bothers or to our dad. for me i do it and its fine with me. for you is it really a big deal?
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@pokumon (645)
• United States
2 Dec 10
Guys just hate even the mention of a period. I don't like to run on my period and my brother asked me if I wanted to go to the gym. I said no, I'm on my period and he's like that's too much information. It's natural and I don't see it as gross. I have one brother who has bought me sanitary napkins and tampons, but I was with him in the store. He just paid for them, which was nice. No big deal, but my other brother it would be a big deal. I think my dad would be okay with it. It just depends on the guy.
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@thewayis (647)
• Bulgaria
3 Dec 10
My brother was the same. He would tremble and shiver with the very mention of the world "period" but as we grew up, we kind of get to hang out a lot (his girlfriend is a good friend of mine) and when we go out, he is always ith bunch of girls and 1 or 2 guys at the most and listening to our conversations he kind of got used to them. Now, he is even joking when we start discussion periods or whatever and he has no problem with buying sanitary napkins. Which kind of supports my idea that they are reluctant to do that because they are afraid of the unknown and since he was "forced" to listen, now he has more knowledge about it and he is not scared of it anymore
• Singapore
1 Dec 10
Haha, that really reminds me of those scenes where I watch in Korean drama serials. Hmm...I don't really mind buying it for my girl but then, she can expect a long wait if there's a lot of people at the store but if there's no people in it, then I'll just block my face, let the cashier do the admin stuff, I pay money, then I just walk off quickly, LOL. I don't know, but there's just this kind of norm that's kind of accepted that a girl can buy underwear for the boy but the opposite has been seen as embarrassing. LOL. But I think if I see anyone doing that, same thoughts as you, I'll understand that person.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 10
you know what judge? the reason why i have created this discussion because of the scene i saw from one of my fav korean drama!! it funny cause we have same thoughts about it. but i understand if you dont buy at the grocery a sanitary napkin if thers a lot of people although you were willing to do so. but im glad that its not a big deal for you to do it for your girl!!=)
@camposkat (306)
1 Dec 10
When I was back home and I was like a teenager, it was my dad who would do short trips to the grocery stores in the mall. Sometimes I would ask him, or my sisters will ask him, to buy us some sanitary pads. He would do it but we would always get told off a little because he feels humiliated at the cashier because the lady behind the till would give him these weird looks. But to my dad it was okay because he doesn't have any choice but to do it LOL. With my fiancee, if I was with him, it would be okay but he wouldn't want to be seen carrying it around even if it was in a plastic bag! I haven't really had the chance to ask him to buy it for me, him being sent to the store to buy some pads. I would like to see his reaction though after he's been to the store. hehe... I think it's just because they feel like they're going to get teased at by the people who would see them buying sanitary pads.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 10
yah your right!! that is the alibi of my bros whenever i asked favor at them to buy me those!!
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
Well I think it depends on the person. Because I remember my brother hates also to buy napkins. But in a big store or supermarket it will not a big deal for him but in a small or retail store he was ashame and I think some guys also and most of them are teenager, i think.
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@sender621 (14932)
• United States
1 Dec 10
Feminine products are sold all over the world. they are products that are used for the convenience of women. Sometimes women need men to help with the purchasing of these products. It should not be a big deal for men to buy feminie products for the women in their lives.
@thewayis (647)
• Bulgaria
2 Dec 10
Well, I have noticed that whenever I ask a guy to buy sanitary products for my, they are always like "Why should I go through THAT" but most of them go, reluctantly. I think that the problem for guys is not just embarassment /why are they embarassed, anyway?/ but also confusion. This is a teritory completely unknown for them and the very though that they would encounter something unfamiliar, like brands and sizes is making them anxious and scared. At least, this is how I explain their behavior to myself
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@patgalca (16781)
• Orangeville, Ontario
2 Dec 10
I think it is harder today with so many different brands and types to choose from. I am sure they are bound to come home with the wrong product. I think the only way I could make sure my husband brought home exactly what I requested was to give him the packaging to take with him. I have two teenage daughters so we have several different styles for different "reasons".
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
i have realized something from what you have said. perhaps it was one of the reasons. i have been reading and answering all the comments from this discussion and you were the one who have the unique answer i've got. i think i understand more of those guys if they refuse to buy those stuff but still i believe it should not be a matter cause you can ask and its ok if you ask. me i have bought some male stuff for my dad and brothers and if i dont know exactly what im going to buy i asked the nad they answer me back but its a total opposite scenario when it comes with mine. they refuse right away if im trying to explain to them what they should buy.
@thewayis (647)
• Bulgaria
3 Dec 10
I am happy that you found my comment useful. We are all like thet when we encounter something unknown. And, furthermore, what scares them is not only the fact that they are unfamiliar with these products. What makes them anxious is the fact that we are so familiar with them and it gives us ... i dont really know... may be "power" of knowledge which is unreachable for them. It is the same if we go and buy something that guys always buy. We will be confused and feel out of place
@oligel (130)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
my mom asked when i was in 1st year college to buy a napkin for her, i went to a store and asked if they have an available napkin, you what the owner tell me: "what? you are going to use this? you have period?" then after that event i never do it again
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@Suggar (3609)
• Bulgaria
1 Dec 10
Hello Oligel, that's so rude that the seller told you these things. You had to answer him "I don't know if you are a good or a bad seller, but you just lost one client". I'm pretty good in saying the truth on that kind of people. It's because i have one reason to see them and this is to buy something from them. It's not their business why i buy something and what will i do with it.
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• Philippines
1 Dec 10
If I we're you I would say to the seller why are you the only one that knows how to use it? haha.. :P that seller was rude! & with low IQ..I'm sorry to hear that, a traumatizing experience :(, but I was lucky enough that so far if i ask my brother or even my husband if they could buy me a napkin they don't have any problem from it at all..
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@shaggin (55999)
• United States
1 Dec 10
Wow what an ignorant seller. I cannot imagine anyone being stupid enough to say that to a man. Of course the sanitary products are not for the man to use. Any one should know when they see a man buying them that he is buying them for someone else. That would be humiliating for the guy to have someone say that to him. If I was behind a man in line who was buying them and a cashier said that to the man I would have spoken up and said how ignorant the cashier was to say that. Its none of the cashiers business to comment on the products that are being bought. There job is just to ring up the merchandise and tell you how much you have to pay.
@Suggar (3609)
• Bulgaria
1 Dec 10
Hello friend, i don't think it's so big deal. The problem is that the same guys, who denny to go and buy you sanitary stuff, think it's a reason for some shame. It's all because of their thinking, not because it's something someone has to feel shame of. At the same time, we shop everything for them, because usually girls shop for their guys, so everyone takes it normal. Last New Year, on 31th december my boyfriend had to by me sanitary stuff. He was so kind, it was our second or third date, we were going to spend the new year together. Went on a little party with his friends, and when i saw that i need tampons, but i don't have with me, he went to the pharmacy to buy stuff for me. He had really funny situation there. The girl in the pharmacy asked him what size it will be? He said - mmm .. i don't know, i'm not the one who will wear them, so ... got to ask my girlfriend Then he called me, i told him which size and everything was o.k. I think that guys who feel ashamed of buying that kind of stuff are strange. Whoever sell them this stuff, this person would never think that they will use what they buy for themselves. I think it will be great for them to buy such things, because the person, who sell them, will think "Oh, what a kind guy, he cares about his girlfriend and that's amazing". Guys need to be more open minded for everything.
@patgalca (16781)
• Orangeville, Ontario
2 Dec 10
I would think the clerk got a good laugh out of that one - "I don't know, I'm not the one who will wear them". Honestly, I think any clerk would think any guy buying those products for their woman (even if it's a sister or mother because they would never really know) would think that he is a real stand-up guy for doing so.
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
your so lucky to have a man like your bf!!yah your right that would not be really a big deal!!
@MsTickle (25135)
• Australia
13 Dec 10
Size?? I've never seen tampons according to size!
@armie23 (145)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
I believe most guys is shy away to buy tampons because they didn't want to interrogate or asked some question about that tampons. Much better if you could store some tampons to your cabinet.
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@patgalca (16781)
• Orangeville, Ontario
2 Dec 10
Yeah, I stock up when they are on sale hoping that in that way I won't run out. But, I have two teenage daughters (who don't use tampons) and they go through those sanitary napkins pretty darn quickly. Makes me nuts!
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
well i have stocked some but you know cant avoid sometimes that you go out of stocks. especially on my case my date of period is jumping. before i know what week i would have a period but now im just surprised because i can no longer figure out when the exact time my menstruation would come and that's sometimes bring me to situation that i have no some sanitary pads to use cause i havent yet buy or im out of stocks from my cabinet!!
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
I don't think its a big deal after all. Sometimes men who buy sanitary napkins for their girlfriends or wives look cute :) I don't think something is wrong with that. Some men are just too macho that their pride couldn't take it. Well, they are not called men anyway.
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• Philippines
5 Dec 10
yah you are right. and definitely it wont make them a less of a man if they buy those stuff. sure did they are not real men at all. not trying to offend them but it is what looks like having to refuse something that is not really shameful right?!
• Vietnam
2 Dec 10
With me it's not a big deal. haha. Because my mother always asks me to buy a sanitary napkin for her. When she took a path, she forgot to bring underwear. So I always take it for her. ^^. I think some guys will shy when you ask them to buy a sanitary napkin. lol
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
ok=)
@toniganzon (59719)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
I had no problem with this. My older brother used to buy our sanitary napkins because he was responsible for our grocery shopping! He never complained about it and it was not a big deal to him. I remember my sister's boyfriend also buying my sister's sanitary pads for her because she was in pain and couldn't go out of her dormitory. That was really cool. And my boyfriend who's now my husband does the same thing for me and up until now he's still the one buying my sanitary pads without no qualms at all. You should tell your brothers and male cousins to grow up!
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
yah i would tell them!! i hope like you i would find as well a husband which is cool and considerate that it doesnt matter to him if he buys you sanitary stuff!!
@dpalais (130)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
You know I think with our generation today it's no longer an issue. Actually I shared your discussion to my friends while reading it and they all answered as if in a unison way saying no because they experience buying one for their girl friend. Men buying napkins for ladies, I think it's kinda gentlemen thing and I appreciate it very much.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 10
well thanks on sharing my discussion to your friends! me too\11 im super appreciative whenever i see a guy buying some sanitary stuff for her girlfriend or sister especially for her mom!!
@asyria51 (2864)
• United States
1 Dec 10
It took 5 years of marriage, and having a kid before my hubby would buy my monthly needs. Even now, I try and stay stocked up on them so he doesn't have to go out and get them. Even if I give him the exact name/brand style or even the box that the others came in, he just runs into the aisle grabs the first ones he sees and runs back out. I think it is an embarassment issue. It is not something they have to deal with, except our mood swings.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 10
well that is also i have observed from boys i have seen buying those sanitary stuff and even with my brothers. yes your right that its kinda embarrassing for them to deal with it but you know actually there is no shameful about it but yah boys are boys!!
@SViswan (12065)
• India
20 Jan 11
I don't even bother to see what others are buying and don't even notice if a guy is in the aisle that stacks sanitary napkins..in the supermarket. I don't think anything about a guy buying a sanitary napkin. We are two girls and my dad often would pick up sanitary napkins for us or mom. But I don't think my husband would be comfortable doing it. I now have 3 males and me the sole female...and since I know my husband will not be comfortable pick it up for me if I run out...I'm always well stocked. Though I don't mind buying underwear for the men in the family, my husband isn't comfortable and he buys his own underwear. We might accompany him but he gets his own stuff....same as with me. He accompanies me but I get my own stuff.
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• United States
22 Dec 10
to some guys it is.usually the same type that get grossed out in general by it. i usually don't ask unless i'm feeling just that bad that i don't want to go out to get more.
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@MsTickle (25135)
• Australia
13 Dec 10
When i was young it was a big no-no for a girl to even talk about her period. There were various euphemisms that were used. Asking a guy to buy that sort of thing was just not done. In our house with Mum and 3 girls, there was always a ready supply. I always carried tampons in my purse and I also kept a good supply in my home too. Let's face it, a guy doesn't exactly have to even ask for it these days...they go get it off the shelf, put it on the counter and pay. No big deal.
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@buggles64 (2712)
• United States
5 Dec 10
No, it's not a big deal for a guy to buy sanitary napkins for someone that he is dating or his wife. Naturally, I wouldn't send someone to the store to buy such personal items if I had only been seeing him for a couple of months. My husband use to buy them for me quite often when I needed them.
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@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
It feels kinda weird to buy sanitary napkins for my sisters when I was still a teenager. Maybe because of the feeling as to where to napkins are going . But it's not just the one who buys it but the people who will see a boy buying that thing. Peers would usually tease a friend if they see you buying a sanitary napkin.
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@jinjer168 (1598)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
Its not a big deal I guess for a guy to buy sanitary napkins for the ladies in her life. But I must admit that not all guys will agree to buy napkins when requested by a female person. I am lucky that my husband is shameless and I could request him to buy or do things that not all male would agree to follow. HAve a nice day ahead!
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