did you ever wait an ex to make a move to you and he didnt and you felt bad? T_T

i wish you could not let me go - boy is still holding on to girl he loves
Portugal
December 1, 2010 2:40pm CST
hi guys did you ever wait an ex to make a move to you and he didnt and you felt bad? about me yes my ex he said before he would wait till the time we be together but now he said that i can change him now that he doesnt have the right to make me wait for him. but i said to him i loved him and just wanted know exactly what he wanted from me and he answered that he loved me but those things. i wanted to trust that he still loves me but just is two days since i answer his message and he came online and didnt comment me and comment his friends. i guess he really wants to move on right? but i dont understand bcs before i didnt love him for a year he wanted me and when we were together after a month and few days he gave up on me. i was waiting he said he cant be without me or at least send me messages saying he loves me but nothing. i cant accept that he doesnt love me anymore. i just doesnt seem possible bcs he waited one year for me to us be together. i know he is so busy he said sometimes we have to let go even we love but he didnt have to bcs he knew i love him :( i just feel sad about this. i worked so hard to go and meet him even i went alone and never travelled by plane how could he give up so easy? what about you guys? your love lives? are like mine or better i wish so^^ Cat
9 responses
2 Dec 10
im really confused after reading this. in answer to your question in your tile discussion i would say that when a relationship ends it is so hard to go back, if it didn't happen the first time then what makes it work the second time around? Yes some people can make it work but very few as many many people fail. Sometimes it is just fate that your not meant to be together.If i am to speak freely then i would say a relationship should really be called that when you have actually met the person, online or via webcam is nothing, as much as you may trust someone when you are in different countries anything can happen, people don't always tell the truth, many say things that the other person wants to hear even if it is a lie. FACT, nobody can state that someone is telling the truth unless they are with them all day everyday. Your right to ask him what he wants from you. I think he blows hot and cold, he is nice and then another time he ignores you, he says he loves you but then says he shouldn't ask for you to wait for him, he is what i call a player, he sems to prey on your need for wanting him. Fact, he doesn't try to work to see you, and he could join sites like you have to earn money, he ignores you sometimes but yet speaks to his friends, he deleted all the things from his computer that was to do with you. Get the hint and move on, he is messing you around and your falling for it. He is like one of them guys that just has to say the words "i love you" and it sems all is then forgiven. Don't be treated like this, your far better off without him. As you say above in your discussion, he gave up on you, you wait for things from him but get nothing. Sometimes you do hurt the ones you love and sometimes you have to let go. The best thing for you to do is to delete his number and email address and movee on with your life, he is only going to drag you down. At the end of your discussion you said that you worked so hard to go and meet him and you even went alone. Does this mean that you have gone and seen him? If so then if he has told you to go, even in a nice way then you have wasted your time and money, he does not want you, get that through to your head.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
2 Dec 10
Unfortunately this does happen. People change their minds. Time can do funny things to people. I would be sad too.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
2 Dec 10
no i never actually... when i break up with somebody, i will never think of that person ever again and i won't even think of going back with him again... that's me... but i am also a person who value relationship a lot and won't say the word break up so easily without a very valid reason... take care and have a nice day...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
I think you right, friend. Your ex maybe want to move on that is why not talk to you much that way
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
I even do feel bad even if my bf doesn't call me back after a small fight. I really lose my temper when he is so insensitive with my feelings so i call him and get even more angry..heheh. He would calm me down and i would only tell him if he really loves me then he will have to show it by going after me. Right now im so mad at him because we had a fight, i waited for him to call me but he never did. Im so tired being the one to run after him already, i guess this time he should be the one to find a way to reach me. I went offline after a few minutes when he never did call me. And i even changed the password of my ym so he can never open it and set the status as im mobile. If he really wants to say sorry for everything then he has to find a way. I won't make things easy for him..im so mean but this is also a way for me to test him.
@ansi09 (151)
• Tunisia
2 Dec 10
Wow sweetloveforever, you took the plane for him, you traveled just to see & met him, no offense sweetloveforever, he doesn't deserve you at all. am a man, & i can tell you this, if a man treat woman the way he did, he's simply a big lying jerk. The move you did, going just to his hand to meet him & know him & then he turns his back on you, saying " i love you but we need to move on ", that doesn't make any sense to me ?? If you 2 are able to be together, even ii chances are 1% , why not especially. What i think, is that he shouldn't do that, if he's a man fearfull of commitment, he shopuoldn't start a relationship in the first place, breaking a woman's heart, or man's also, isn't good thing to do, emotional wounds are ghard to heal & takes sometime. I wish you luck in forgetting this guy for good sweetloveforever, from what i understood, you fullfiiled your duty in this relation, it's his turn now, if he still loves you like he " said ", he'll fight for you to get you back, if not, just forget about him like he did.
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
hi sweetloveforever..im sorry to hear about your love life. What I can tell you right now is that if he does not want it anymore..let him go. he will come back if you are really destined to be with each other. Its hard to commit in a relationship if you are the only one wanting it. Remember it takes two to tango. I hope you will find happiness in other ways and I hope you will find someone who will be better and will not let you feel that all your efforts are wasted. good luck and keep us posted.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 10
I am really very sorry for what happened, but it is really very sad, I can feel it but I think and wish he would think about it and call you back for his wordings. I am unable to give you any suggestion regarding this but you know better about him, you understand him and he surely understand you. I have not experienced such situation but I think for me, if I love some one and wait for her this much time, I shall never give up, if she is already in Love with me, then I ll never lose her, I shall make her mine on any cost. For you, I think you better understand him and you know that if he said some thing or do not comment on any thing then what does he wants, so be brave and try to face every thing, this is life, ups and downs are always there, if some one is not yours now then s/he will be yours in future, do not worry about any thing, just focus on your future and take yourself to a position that every one would wish to be with you. Do not worry, at least we are with you, you can share any thing, in discussion in private message. Have a nice day...:)
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
1 Dec 10
Well i felt bad when we brake up but she just was not for waiting and other stuff . She even said to me to forget it and stop trying , cuz its never going to work even if we tryed (witch she did not wanted). Well at the end our relationship was not bad (well i loved her so much but) but she just did not wanted me anymore and that was it .