The End of the Line

actually, love is complicated. i dont know how to understand it. i grew up in a family that didnt show up love inside. my mother never hug me and never kiss me, she never told me a bed time stories, never do a mother and daughter think. but i kow that she loves me and my siblings. about my father, although he still married with my mom but he has another woman and has sons from that woman. so, my father loved his son from that woman much more than he loves me. it is so unfair for me. how many times i broke up with someone i love just because my father. and it is hard for me. it broke me inside and outside. it made me hate man. and sometimes i imagine to slap them and punch them. and now i have my boyfriend. eventhough i knew that he loves me so and sacrified a lot for me. but we have a hard time now. because once again my father insult this boy. and me and my boyfriend always fight because i am stress and he is stress too with this situation. so, i dont know what my next move, and dont know how to praise love. i just need time to think about what is the real love.

I agree with what has been written here. But in my case, I would say it is really hard just to give up what you have had invested for so many years, but saying to stay and believe that in due time we would reap the fruit of fighting for that love, is like putting lot of burden in our shoulder, pain in our heart and punished our emotion. But I think giving up is the right thing to do, for we never know if that will happen, and if so...how soon or for how long we have to wait? Especially if we are not sure of how strong is the invested emotion to that relationship. It would be unfair if we are the only one who wants to fight for that, and it would surely survived if the feeling of fighting it is mutual.

Hi there, Bokal.:) I can only speak for myself, others may have a different points of view. I think if there is already a third party involve who is clearly putting walls between the couple, then it is time to let go. There's no use to continuously fight for the relationship. If my husband or I will fall in love with someone else,despite of the emotions and time we invested to come this far and stay this long with each other, I can honestly say it is the end of us.No further explanation. Letting himself or myself fall fr someone else is a clear indication that we never truly love each other. There's no point of staying together, we will only hurt each other more. Loving someone else while we are still together is a silent yet clear way of saying that we gave up on each other.This kind of situation can never be reverse, there's no turning back once you're into this. This could be painful especially for the children but he will never be happy with me knowing that his heart belongs to someone else already. He will always feel incomplete with me. He can never make me happy either knowing that he betrayed me and our children. I can never forgive him....and I will carry that pain in my heart in my grave... Ah, I hope and pray that if ever this thing will eventually happen to us (husband and I) we are no longer together. This is the only way we can remain friends for the sake of the kids. What is the next move, then? Move on with my life no matter how painful it is. He used to be not a part of my life and I was doing well. I'll be fine again if he disappears from the picture as long as I have my children with me. Without them, I can't continue living. That is one thing I am so sure of. I can lose a husband, move on , be well and find love again but I can not survive without my kids. I'll probably die of depression and misery for not being with them... I am praying to God that if this is the end of the line for me and my husband,this will not be the end of my being a mother to my two daughters and them being my children. I need them because I love them so much... Only I can not protect them from getting hurt... (blame it to my husband for being weak and selfish) ...:(

The course of true love never runs smooth. There are always twists and turns we are sometimes not ready for. As long as we stay committed and true to the love in our sights, the best will come of it.

i have a friend with the same situation. some issues came across them. my friend thought they broke because of just those issues like frequent fighting and being in a different school but she just discovered there was a third party. the guy had a girlfriend in his school before they broke up. at first, when she still dont know about the third party, she still wants to hold on to their relationship, i supported her. but when she knew about the third party, i told her its not worth fighting for anymore. this is what you should do too, move on. he/she is not worthy. after all, he/she decides to be with someone else rather than being with you. dont be stup*d, wake up to reality!

that love is making us dizzy, because love can make us blind eye heart will love. so do not be too much to give your love to your spouse because your spouse does not necessarily have the feeling that more of you.