If this happens to you, would you cry?

I don't know if I'm getting this correctly...You have a girlfried, someone you've known for years, and now her parents found a groom for her? Is she cheating on you with that other guy? You should add more information. I would cry if I was with someone and they prepared to marry someone else, everyone would.

To put it simply :P If they love each other so much they need and will tell them anyway eventually but well the situation requires now :P And after the family knows there are a lot of options :P If the parents decide that the love of their child is more important then some don't know how to call it wedding its simple . But if they dont there are two choices , or the she/he loves you so much that she dont care for the stupid decision of the family and ignore it (you know the rest of the stories - runaway blqh blqh) or she/he just says with the family ;) Well the situation is mostly dependable on the person that the people want to force marry :)

If you truly are in love then you should let it be known we spend to much time keeping things secret when it only causes more pain something has to be do so do whats in your heart to do your heart can't steer you wrong.

Just run away together, children are meant to leave their parents anyways, arranged marriage is a terrible practice.

I would definitely cry but will muster every strength to face my beloved's family and admit to them that we are in love. Will ask them to stop the arrange marriage to give way to our love. I will do this regardless of whatever the outcome will be.

WHen u are in love, don't hide. Love is something to be proud of, and when it's hidden, consequences are often unthinkable. IN this situation here, if parents are understanding, they might call off the wedding, and fulfil both of their dreams of being together. If parents are strict and care more about their ego, pride, they will force the two to break up, allow the wedding to go on instead. If i'm the one involved, i will be sure to tell my parents right from the start to avoid any misunderstandings.

Hi Jayzee, This is a tough one. For one thing, I can't imagine keeping such a big thing from my parents. If we did, however, and his parents went ahead and made arrangements for him to marry someone else then I would expect my husband to stand up for his rights as a person and to let them know that I was the one he loved and chose to marry. They would have to cancel the plans. Is this a real situation? How would it even be possible to be with a person and the parents not to know about it? I live in the US and we don't have arranged marriages here so that could explain my lack of understanding on this one.

I think the best thing in this case is both of them sit the two sets of parents down and tell them the truth from beginning to end. That they both have loved each other for years and were married already. The truth is the best way to go so they can continue to be happy. If the parents aren't happy oh well. Its their lives and they need to live it for themselves and no one else.

Hi, If this kind of situation happened to me,meaning that my lover is also my childhood buddy,then when come to staying together under same roof, I will let my parents know about this case and also introduce him to my parents. They have the right to know who is the man I am dating now and they are welcome to give any comments on my choice. I don't see the point why the couple should hide about their relationship. SInce they love each other so much and have decided to stay together and get married,then both parties' family have the right to know about their relationship and of course, they have to get their blessing from both side families.

Nobody can ever be truly happy if they are living lie. Not telling how we feel in a situation is being just as dishonest. The best way to live life and be happy is to express our true feelings no matter where they may take us.

Tell our parents everything. They will sure understand it or the worst case, they should accept it. This case, the relationship thing, is a matter of individual case. We are the one who will go through the days with the spouse, so we are the one who make the choice of our spouse that we wanna live with. Unless, you are fine to sacrifice your feelings, noone could hold your happiness but yourself.

I think it will be sad to have that kind of ending. You have to tell the parents and if they don't agree don't care about them and get married. I have only this suggestion for you. Your girl friend must tell you before getting engaged because you said that you love each other more than each other. So in that case I think you will get aware of the situation. You have to tell the parents before the engagement. I wish you good luck.

I was in a little similar situation, my fiancée now was my long time friend, my family knew him, I had a very dependable boyfriend which my family really liked and expected me to marry...even his family already expected us to marry...then I realized my bf and I's big differences, and I broke up with him...my parents kept on pushing me to take him back, but I realized also that I'm in love with my best guy friend and he felt the same way...since my family are still hung up with my ex-bf, I didn't tell them right away that my friend is now my bf, then my mother learnt this from someone else and got disappointed at me and my bf (now my fiancée)... I think that no matter what you do, no one could ever understand you better than your parents, so if ever anyone asks me what to do in this kind of situation I always tell them to be open to their parents...they might be indignant at first but they will always understand...