there was banging on the wall / myLot

Philippines

December 4, 2010 9:04am CST

i was doing mylot and i felt my privacy was invaded when i heard the banging on the wall just on the other side of my room. i was wondering how come there is a carpenter at this time of the night. i should ask the neighbor to make it stop because it was making so much noise. when i went there, the people were around their door watching. i got curious and also tried to see what was happening. the wife crying.. she was her hitting the husband. she was so angry she boxed her husband several times and was hitting the wall with a bat. although she was not using the bat on her husband, she was hitting the wall, it was a terrible sound getting to the other house.. which happened to be my house.

there was already a police pacifying them. so i didnt bother ask her to stop banging on the wall. i later learned that the husband has depleted his salary just drinking and probably having a party with some friends. wife was very angry because they have not paid the bills yet and other obligations, and then the husband came home very drank and without money.

i wonder why people especially husbands could be so irresponsible. do you think a wife should do what she did? any same experience about couples fighting and making a scandal? ann

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9 responses

dorannmwin

@dorannmwin (36392)

• United States

7 Dec 10

My husband and I have been lucky in that during the nine years that we've been together we've only had one fight. However, my brother is not so lucky with his wife. They are constantly fighting with each other and there have been times that I'm not comfortable at my mother's house because of the fact that the two of them are fighting. I really don't know how it is that married couples get into fights like that. I would much rather maintain the peace.

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tigeraunt

@tigeraunt (6326)

• Philippines

27 Dec 10

hi dora, talking about a couple who always fight, i wonder why they suffer staying together when they could not find in themselves to be civil? i too would rather maintain my peace. if there are things that needs to be settled, one should wait for the other to cool down before talking it out. because when both are angry, nothing is going to be settled, and more hurting words would come out and add up to the hurt. have a nice day. ann

JudgeIronFist

@JudgeIronFist (2472)

• Singapore

5 Dec 10

How can such men exist? Why doesn't he care for his family? Does he even know how his wife is suffering? I don't know what these people are thinking. Instead of making money or doing something constructive, there he is, drinking away all his money. Then what for is he making money?

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tigeraunt

@tigeraunt (6326)

• Philippines

5 Dec 10

hi judgeironfist, this husband is very irresponsible. he probably had that in mind to give the money to the wife but friends weighed much more so he used all his money to make them happy. which of course is very much wrong.

i dont even think what happened to them would make him change his ways. its just too bad a situation.

thank you for your comments and have a nice day. ann

Nic

@academic2 (7000)

• Uganda

4 Dec 10

When it comes to making a woman bang her butts on the wall and on the door, then you know the most serious obligation not met by the man is not just the unpaid bills, but the "other" one! So a counselor should tell the man to style up! Am sorry for the confusion and disruptions those buttings on the door caused your mylotting!

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tigeraunt

@tigeraunt (6326)

• Philippines

5 Dec 10

hi academic, i hope you dont mind me correcting you but i mentioned bat (as in baseball bat) not butt.

there are lots of husbands like that. i find them very selfish. thank you so much for your response. have a very nice day. ann

saphrina

@saphrina (31552)

• South Africa

4 Dec 10

No offense sweetie, but she should have used that bat on him. Most men only think of themselves. They tend to forget that they have families at home. I am not saying he cannot go out with friends and whatnot But you care first for your family and then you can go and have fun with your friends. TATA.

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tigeraunt

@tigeraunt (6326)

• Philippines

5 Dec 10

hi tata, guess she knew its no using the bat on her husband. it will just become another expense in the hospital if she doesnt kill him.

and there are too many witnesses around.

ann

achilles2010

@achilles2010 (3051)

• India

5 Dec 10

I do not think her action would reform the husband or anyone one from the audience would bail her out of her situation by giving her the money. She should have resolved the issue either by leaving him or by talking to him. All she got was neighbor's lip sympathy and nothing more than that except frustration for herself.

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tigeraunt

@tigeraunt (6326)

• Philippines

5 Dec 10

hi archilles, we are thinking the same. even if she complain to the authorities, there is nothing much they can help her of. your options are the real answers to her problem. thank you so much for your response. have a very nice day. God bless. ann

jer2911

@jer2911 (57)

• Philippines

5 Dec 10

first of all, I'm really sorry for your house. :( another is, I'm grateful that nothing really bad happened (except for the wrecked wall ofcourse). well, I can't blame her. especially with her husband not doing his responsibilities. but atleast she didn't kill her. It's actually good that she's releasing her stress (bad in the sense that it has to be in your house) or else she'll get mad for sure.

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tigeraunt

@tigeraunt (6326)

• Philippines

5 Dec 10

hello jer. its not my house walls. it is her wall still but the noise she made was really terrible. but she is a very sweet lady. i didnt know she had that strength

i guess when people are angry, they can do impossible things.. and that lady was really pissed.

thank you for your comment. very much appreciated. have a very nice day. ann

Rhazelle

@Rhazelle (356)

• Canada

5 Dec 10

Wow... that... I feel sorry for the wife. Holy crap. I wonder if he was like that before they got married. =/

tigeraunt

@tigeraunt (6326)

• Philippines

5 Dec 10

hi rhazelle, i guess the husband placed his foot very much forward that the wife caught it before she can check his background.

so it is best to always know the man you are going to marry. never marry in a hurry.

have a very nice day. thank your for your comment. very much appreciated. god bless ann

Kalyni2011

@Kalyni2011 (3496)

• India

29 Dec 10

Thanks for sharing, my maid servant bits her husband with a broom usually, he is a drunkard and a gambler both.. these people spend the entire wage the earn in a day, just in gambling, never care for the wife or kids, but produce kids every year, strange habits!! happy posting, cheers HAPPY XMAS kalyani

Kalyni2011

@Kalyni2011 (3496)

• India

8 Dec 10

our maidservant fights with her husband most of the days, he is a drinker and lazy oerson, what ever he earns spends in country made drinks, thease are cheaper compared to foreign drinks, but said to be more powerful.. some times she asks me to settle, but i never enter into that.. kalyni

tigeraunt

@tigeraunt (6326)

• Philippines

8 Dec 10

hi kal, the feeling of sadness just gets to me when i see this type of husbands.

it is very good that you didnt get in between a couple's fight. let them settle their issues.

have a very nice day.