how can you be a bestfriend to your ex?
By christian1
@christian1 (134)
Greece
December 4, 2010 2:11pm CST
She and he finds themselves not compatible to each other.they had a good relationship but it turns to arguments and cold wars when one of them has done something that one of them doesnt like.so one of them decided to be a friend only.and the other since was loving unconditionally respects the others decision.and now theyre just friends.they other who wants to be friends wants the other to reveal, to trust, to share and to confide everything wanting them to be bestfriends.how could they be best of friends of the other trying to hide something that about the feelings of being inloved?
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9 responses
@camposkat (306)
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4 Dec 10
I think if there had been misunderstandings that have not been sorted out before the couple parted ways, it will be very difficult to be friends. You may still casually say hi and hello or greet each other during special occasions or add him/her on your social network site but apart from that I think it's best to not confide any personal stuff anymore. It's always best to move on and just stay friends casually.
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@christian1 (134)
• Greece
4 Dec 10
Thanks for the response camposkat!
but what if the other one who decided to be bestfriends only wants to know everything bout the other and dont give advise and dont want to meet the other but still calling as friend.if you were on the others shoe how could you deal with a partner trying to be a just friend?
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@nahNiku (17)
• Latvia
4 Dec 10
Best Friends is too strong words for almost all relationships.
But how is it so easy to change the labels - we are a couple and now we are friends.
Were they ever in a good relationship? Or they always were only fiends?
It is not so easy to uderstand these things.
But i can say that everything is possible :)
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@christian1 (134)
• Greece
4 Dec 10
do you believe there will be still a way for them to be together? each of them are showing love and concern to each other but they prefer to be friends when they speak no one can try to open it as the other wants them to be just like that.until when they try to hide their feelings and to hurt each other by some means of being 'just friends"
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@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
5 Dec 10
I feel arguments and cold wars are good in relations. It makes the relations more stronger. So its better to have more arguments than keeping to themselves and just suffering. A healthy argument is always good for a good relationship. It leads to more understanding also.
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@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
5 Dec 10
I feel the best thing to do before that is to clear away any redundant feelings you have about the other party, put them into the recycle bin, LOL. After that, give yourself some time and then gradually, tell your ex about it. Make sure that he/she has no more feelings for you, same for you too, before you become good friends. Well, it's possible to be good friends even after you break up. Provided that you think rationally and clear out all past feelings.
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@jornz87 (139)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
its possible for both of them to be best friends they both of them have moved on from their feelings, if not i doubt cause best friends are known to be opened to each other. but if one them have not yet moved on and keep it secret it means they are not open to each other.
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@corrappyka (21)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
I can be as helpful in a way that I am out of my ex's range such as through online chat or mobile texting. It'll be a little bit awkward to meet up personally just to be helpful just like her bestfriend. That way, I can somehow show how much I would like to be a shoulder to cry on and someone who's always there to offer help and advise.
@shaggin (71634)
• United States
5 Dec 10
Well I know with my ex there was no way I could stay friends with him. I tried I really did but after awhile it just wouldnt work. Hes obsessed with me and in order to try to get him to leave me alone I cannot talk to him at all. If I am not he just gets to clingy if I'm mean then he just says I'm a b*tch so whatever at least if I'm a b*tch he leaves me alone and doesnt harrass me and stalk me as much.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
5 Dec 10
how can you be a bestfriend to your ex?
No, I can't but primarily because my ex hurt me so bad I can't even imagine being friends. After a few years he tried contacting me but the emotional scars are way too profound and anyways if he loved me he would not have hurt me the way he did.
I have heard of many of my acquaintances say they are friends with their exes and to be honest it is more havoc then good. All I hear is complaints after complaints and I ask myself is it really worth it?
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
4 Dec 10
I don't think a relationship like that could exist after a break up. at least i couldn't consider a person i used to love my best friend. even if you don't love him anymore something special you'll feel in your heart for a person you once used to love.
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