When you say sorry, do you really mean it or it happens automatically?

India
December 5, 2010 8:21am CST
We would to say 'sorry' to other due to many reasons. Sometimes silly mistakes or bigger in other times. Even though, a sorry may not undo the matter. However, we feel sorry and mostly we say sorry for it. But as it a common word and usage, whenever we say sorry, do you really feel so or just say like that? What do you have to say on this?
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
8 Dec 10
I say sorry sometimes...though after growing up to this age i rarely do things where i need to say sorry....but yes i still say it sometimes...and when i say it i really mean it to say...but i will honestly add here that the mistakes which happen even at this age are not becoz i do them purposely...but becoz they happen by my nature..and so even if i said sorry once its very likely that the same type of mistake is possible to happen in the future again....
• India
13 Dec 10
Hi dear, Thanks for you comments. Whenever we say sorry, there may be a bad feel in our mind which hurts and we always tempted to say sorry, as we have done a mistake. Most often it cannot undo the fact, we apologies for it. Also, there are incidence we are done a mistake and realizes after a long period of time and we feel sorry to it. When I was in the school, some of the boys used to say bad words to some rash teachers. Even though it was not in public, we were aware of it. But after many years, when this friend of mine completed this colleges once we has to happened to meet at a place for an interview and we stayed together for one day. By the time he reminded me of the incident and he was telling he felt very much sorry on the incident and never do such things to them, as they are teachers and he tried several times to find that particular teacher, meet him and say sorry. Unfortunately, as he got retired and gone to somewhere else and never got a chance to meet and say sorry for it. So, it is natural to do error but while correcting it by apologies and feel sorry of the same, we and the other party also get relaxed and soothed. Thank-s
@rupa123 (43)
8 Dec 10
when I think that I have hurt anybody's sentiments then automatically the word 'SORRY' comes to my mouth.I feel it by heart.
• India
8 Dec 10
Hi dear, Even though it s natural, we mean to say it and the word sorry comes from our heart. We areaise that we are wrong and we try to reduce its strength by saying the word, sorry and if it works, both the parties get a kind of relaxation by forgiving and forgetting. Thanks for your comments. Regards, Thank-s
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 10
HI, When I do any mistakes, I will say Sorry to another party. But I knew sometime the word of 'sorry' may not just clear up the problem, I still need to rectify the mistakes I have done. But for courtesy, a word of 'sorry' is always needed when mistakes are done.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi, Yes, you are absolutely right. When there is a mistake it is associated with a sorry. It should be and it reduces the pain of mistake. Although it is just a word, when it appropriately associated, it gets pure meaning and a single word can make magics. Thank you for your comments. Thank-s
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
6 Dec 10
I don't say i am sorry if i don't meanb it. A hollow apoloogy is worse than no apology at all. To say you are sorry is to come clean about being wrong.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, When we say it by knowingly, it mean by heart. There may be a bad feeling on our error and we really apologies and express our feeling by saying sorry. It is natural and genuine. Most often, it sooth the other person who suffered, or the victim of our wrong doing. So by saying a sorry, and if it can help to reduce the pain to an extent, it will be a pleasing moment for both the parties. Thanks for your remarks. Thank-s
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
6 Dec 10
Hello friend, i don't say sorry on every step i do. It's kind of manner for me to say sorry, because of my behavior, i'm trying to keep my relations with the people in their good way and i'm always thinking if they like what i do for them or not. But most of the time, when i say sorry, it's because i mean and think it. For little stuff i always say something like "ooops", because if we use the word sorry all the time, it will loose the meaning. We have friend, who say sorry all the time. If he touch me by accident he says sorry. If i walk around him, and touch him by accident, he will say sorry again. It's kind of annoying, but i think it's because of his parents education they gave him. So ... i take it as a good habit.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, You are absolutely right. We used to say sorry when situations comes up. But the way of repetition make us annoyed. As you said, many a times, we use different expressions with similar words or rhyming pronunciations. In fact it make really sensible and appropriate. However, we used to communicate our feelings according to the situations. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s
@syoti20 (5293)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
Sometimes I really mean it. Sometimes It just come out naturally or automatically.
• India
8 Dec 10
Hi dear, Yes, it is there in our blood, once we commit a mistake, as a response to it, we say sorry, it is quite natural. Even though it is a normal curtsey, we all tend to do it. Thanks for your comments. Regards, Thank-s
@shaggin (71678)
• United States
5 Dec 10
When I was younger I said sorry all the time. It was like a force of habit. But I dont do that anymore. I only say sorry if I really mean it. That doesnt mean that I dont say it very often because I do. I say sorry to my kids a lot. I think its important to fess up to your mistakes and show people that you know when you were wrong.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, Yes, as you said, even though it is just a word and it has many meanings as per the context. I like they way you deal with kids and if we say sorry to kids, they will feel proud and at the same time we also feel relaxed. Even I got the point in saying it to kids if it is required. A mistake is a mistake once done with the children also. Many are thinking that children or small kids are just 'kids' and there is no need to show any manners. Also I like the way you said and thanks for your comments. Thank-s
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
6 Dec 10
Often yes. The word sorry maybe a default and not a conscious choice each time, but the feelings of repentance behind it will be genuine many a time. Of course, there will be situations otherwise too when you say sorry thoughtlessly but those will always be light insignificant miscues and apologies would purely mean a matter of courtesy. Life's too short to constantly wage time expressing regrets for actions you didn't do out of your conscious and conscientious volition.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, I really like the way you presented the situation. Whenever we really feel sorry about something, the reaction comes from our mind and the way we present 'sorry' also tend to change as per the mood. It has been observed that some people say sorry with deep sorrow and it comes from their inner heart and there is no other way to express the feelings. A small word, but has a wide hearty feeling hiding behind it. Thanks for you comments and response. Thank-s
• Singapore
5 Dec 10
Sometimes it takes great courage to say sorry. But sometimes in a not so serious situation like playing games---badminton, when I make a mistake, I say sorry to my partner.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, Mostly it is like that if the matter is something serious, we feel really sorry for it and as you say the silly problems, it is always advisable to say sorry so that it wont feel bad from the other person. Thank you for your comments. Thank-s
• Mexico
5 Dec 10
Hi thanks: I understand your question becayse it's clear that some people say things that they don't really feel just because it's what people use to say in those cases. In my case I only say sorry when I really feel bad about an action I've done or a word I said that wasn't appropriated. Otherwise I just explain what I've done which is different from saying I'm sorry. ALVARO
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, Yes, say sorry from the heart. At many times we won't intentionally says, it comes from our mind by saying 'sorry', because our mind tend to say and we don't have a substitute for it. When we feel the pain, it comes out from our mind, and by saying so, the other persons mind also getting slandered and they also feel good on our act. Thank you for your comments and best regards. Thank-s
@steelfist (175)
• India
5 Dec 10
Well,This really depends..Most of the times i am! But there are some circumstances where you think you are right but you still say sorry just to make your friend happy or you don't want to lose him/her..I really love all my friends..It Hurts a lot losing someone in you life..It really hurts! Please tell me what do you think about this I get emotional when this topic comes
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, Nothing to worry on anything. Normally when we say sorry? Whenever we are wrong or we do something bad to someone knowingly or unknowingly. Once we realise the fact and we felt bad on that, it is the language of the heart that to feel sorry about it and we are expressing our pain and want to share the other persons loss or pain by sharing it with others. So if someone hurt due to our words or acts, we really felt sorry for it and we express by saying it. In no way we can compensate the same. However, you need not to worry for such things and if we done something, we really feel sorry and what else can we do. Also, be good with others at our maximum that is what we can do for our friends. Thank you for your comments. Thank-s
@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
It will be a good gesture if it comes out to us naturally. But as for me, when I say sorry i really mean it with my heart. I am always aware when I did something wrong to somebody and saying sorry comes out to me naturally.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, Nice comment. This is what I want to hear from everybody and it should be like that and this is the time the word 'sorry' is getting fruitful. Even though it is a simple word, when it comes from the hear to hear, it has great values. Thank you for you comment. Thank-s
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
I usually mean mean what I say when I say it and 'I'm sorry' fits on that category. However, it also depends on the situation where the word is being used. In casual situations like bumping into another person by accident, it's very easy to slip an 'I'm sorry' to deflect any offense but there are also situation where 'I'm sorry' can't be as easily said.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, Yes, depend on the situations, even if it is a simple word, it has wider meaning and consequences. Even I heard that if you can just say 'sorry', he will be comfortable. In such cases, this simple word has a lot of meaning. Thank you for your comments. Thank-s
@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 10
Happen automatically..it become habit went i do something wrong, i would apologize with sorry word.
• India
6 Dec 10
Hi dear, Yes, at many times we say automatically when we feel sorry about something. Thank you for your comments. Thank-s