Who you are!!!!!!
By EKOBERNIE
@EKOBERNIE (264)
United States
December 6, 2010 1:38pm CST
Hello
I strongly think that the way we are raised has to do a lot with who we are. Known fact that the way we grow up and get our personality is 25 percent of who we are is from our parents, 25 percent is from our surrounding(friends) and where we live and school and last is 50 percent is made up with whats in your heart. That is how we get to be who we are. So what percent do you think belongs to whom while you were raised. Until the age 13 I was raised in a bad neighborhood and remember not going to school and cutting classes, going with my friends to steal candy. When I was 14 we moved to a better neighborhood and all I wanted to was not go to school and pick fights with kids and after a year I settled down and never fought again because it was not that kind of a neighborhood, no one wanted to fight. I think if I stayed in that neighborhood I would have been in jail by now so I think 40 percent for environment 25 percent for my parents and the rest is whats in my heart which is 35 percent and moving to a better neighborhood has actually made me a better person.
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6 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Personally for me zero percent of how I was raised made me the person I am today. Except of course you look at it the way I do, as I was raised in the system with no parents. I was taken from the hospital delivery room to hundreds of foster homes. Where I cannot begin to tell you the horrific stories I have lived.
So instead of allowing my childhood vicious patterns to continue to carry on in my own family. I became a wonderful great person and raised two wonderful and respectful children on my own. As I was a single parent by myself.
So unless I look at turning negatives around then I can say 100 percent of how I was raised influenced me to be the great person that I am. LOL.. So true my friend.
@EKOBERNIE (264)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Thank you for your time workinggurl,
So you are saying that you did not meet any role models at all when you grew up, I never thought about being adopted with this question but where you were raised in foster homes did not influenced you at all you think. Are you saying so many bad things happened to you and as a result of that you are a better person now or the way you were brought up was so bad that you have reversed everything in your adult life because you know what you went through.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
6 Dec 10
As a child and teenager I grew up in the worst possible homes as I never had stability and all the foster parents were in simply for the money. I knew as a kid I could not allow this once I was out on my own and had to make the changes.
As once I became 11 and was on my own I knew life was going to be what I made it for me. So the whole time in the foster home I knew in my heart and my mind that life had to be sweeter than it was. So I suppose just my want to have a better life made me the person I am today.
I have to be honest and say I never had a role model at all, now I see my children and they make me so proud of who I became as they truly are both wonderful young adults that follow all my guidance and still look up to me for almost everything they need in their life.
@countrygirl82 (4)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Wow amazing to see all the different responses. Almost seems like there are so many different variables that it's impossible to break it down into percentages. I think of course parents have a huge role in who we are not just in their teachings but in their own actions. Neighborhood seems to play a huge role, those are essentially our peers. People in general are followers, leaders or independent. Think that is largely just personality. I grew up in a small rural town but there were still bad influneces, I just chose not to take those paths.
@zenkey23 (416)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Me im just me!
But i strongly tell`s you that the one who make me and made my attitudes is my parents.
For me, Parents are the one who highly contribute in making good attitudes.
Because they will always their for you and advice you on things you dont know.
They will tell you what is right and what is wrong.
They are your GUIDE to have a better life.
Second is my friends.
Friends influences you but if you`re parents are always their to change you it is possible for you to have a better attitude.
so its 75% family and 25% friends.:)
@EKOBERNIE (264)
• United States
7 Dec 10
Thank you for your time,
what about you don't you have any feeling, there has to be something inside of you that made the decision to agree with your parents or your friends. Did you ever influence someone to do something, think of it in that way someone listened to you and that is your personality and I think you are at least 24% of the equation
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
7 Dec 10
i believe that the society is made up of 3 structures: family, school and church (since i am a christian)... family is the basic unit of the society and every education should start from here... i think 80% of the education should start from family and 10% from school and 10% from church... those add up make who we are today and it is very true for me... take care and have a nice day...
@EKOBERNIE (264)
• United States
7 Dec 10
Thank you for your answer,
I do not think you nor I have choices, but you did not say anything for what is inside of you, Your personality, does not matter who teaches what but you have to agree with them also and if you are not a nice person you would have a bad personality and I do not think your parents could help on that situation. How about a person that is adopted what do you think about that.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
6 Dec 10
Hi ekobernie: I can't make an exact percentage of the influences that the other persons around us have. I think that 50% is both your parents and the persons around us. The environment influence the people. I am a shy person because I was raised with my grandmother and I can't play with other kids and she thought that everything was dangerous to me. I have many fears. I get my responsability and my academic skills thanks to my parents. For me the other 50% is due to our hearts because, even in the worst situations a person could be a good person if that's what he/ she really wants to be.
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@EKOBERNIE (264)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Thank you for your time star
So you are saying your fears are from your grandmother cause she said everything was dangerous to you. What do you mean by everything was dangerous can you list some stuff for me please. Example was playing with friends outside and or inside the house dangerous to you, is that what she said stuff like that or something totally different like the bogeyman is going to get you when you sleep.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
7 Dec 10
Hi Ekobernie. I think we are a product of our environment if we are raised up with good principals and good morals then we become good citizens. If we are raised and never taught the truth and have to fight most of the time we don't know any better. If our parents train our minds as young children that it isn't a good then stay away from it. If we as parents teach our children right from wrong then we did our job but if we don't teach our own children then we are to blame for part of it. But as a child ages he/she should be able to learn what they should and shouldn't do. I was raised to stand my ground and don't take any bull from anyone. I thank God that my parents taught me about The LORD at an early age. I was one that loved going to school it got me away from my mean mother....LOL I don't consider myself to be a bad person.
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello ekobernie!
i can't really say the exact percentage of the influence of some factors to my being me. However, i would say that my genes contributes to who i am, my being intellectual and passion for learning i got from my parents who are both teachers. However, the environment under which i have grown up and the way i was brought up, proved to have a great influence on my whole self. The same goes as to who i really am inside. A person who is innately good inside will always be good no matter what. He may stumble sometimes and do things which are bad but overall, his true self will surface when the time comes.
The environment where we grew up and the way we are brought up is readily the most influential factor comprising the whole facet of a person's personality.
