how can we do if parents don't agree with our marriage?

Hi brucehu, really glad to know that you have such a beautiful gf We know well money talks in society, without enough money we couldn't cope with the hike daily expenses nowadays. And a house is a basic must to live a stable life. I believe your gf's parents wish to see their daughter to live comfortably and happily with the person she loves, and therefore they have such request. Since you are still very young why not you set this as a goal to strive hard for it. And at the same time enjoy heartily the sweet and romantic life for a certain period. I believe with the encouragement and momentum from you dearest loved one as well as your perseverance definitely you will hit the requirement requested finally. Wish you all the best and happy posting

Just think about the consequences for a moment. If you push through without complying to the girl's parents, you won't have a good reputation to them but if ever you complied, you'll have a better relationship with them. What i'm saying is, if what they're asking is do-able, then why not do it? :)

I think, the only way for them to like you is to prove them wrong. If you truly love her, then make an effort to be close to them. Although, it is not an obligation because they are not the one you are marrying. If your gf loves you too and accepts you and not because of what you have, then that is a good sign. As long as she fights for you, it is an encouragement on your part to work harder. It is not necessary at all that you have to have a house now, but at least you have a stable job and able to provide your family when you are prepared to marry her. Do not please them for what you have. Please then with your own way and your personality. Be humble and kind to them.

hey there brucehu i have to agree with frenzylady... you have to prove your worth and fight for your right to love her. i think it would also be best if you would spend some time with her family to get along with them well. so they would know you better as a person who is capable of loving their daughter and staying with her for the rest of your lives.. i'm just hoping both of you won't end on a break up.. you need to decide and think again if she's worth fighting for... best of luck to both of you...

You know what? It's not that you are not rich. Most of parents just want their daughter to be comfortable and not struggle with her future husband...That's all! Do as frenzylady said, tell her parents that you will try your best to get a good job, tell them a good plan, and follow that path as you plan. Keep it up! I'm sure her parents will understand. If you don't have a master degree, start with that. Find a job and work at the same time. When you go to her house, don't forget any small stuffs to her parents. Treat her parents as yours. As long as, you love your girlfriend. No complaint!!! Keep fighting....I passed through that.... LOL

I think you two should do what you want! It's your lives not theirs! They shouldn't have an opinion in the matter really.

Hi brucehu! In my opinion, if you really love the person, you will have to fight for the one you love, just make sure as well that your GF loves you that much, even if to the point of fighting her love for as you as well. The best thing to do for now, since her parents really just want to make sure that their daughter will have a good life, is that you talk sincerely with her parents. Show them that you really love their daughter and that you want also what's good for her, it may not me material things for now, but you may tell them of your future plans and also give them your sincerity and promise to them that you will take good care of their daughter, with your perseverance and hard work, I think you will be able to win them over. Good luck and best wishes! Cheers!