Freedom on social sites such as here... facebook, etc...
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
December 13, 2010 10:30am CST
Should we all be free to say what we like without fear of repercussions from nosy and snooping others? I see so many people who almost walk on eggshells and censor themselves instead of REALLY saying what they want to say.
Why don't you say what you really want to say? I'm listening.
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6 responses
@34momma (13882)
• United States
13 Dec 10
I know for me, for the most part speak my mind. I will admit that I do hold back sometimes. For me, with me in the process of starting a business, I can't really go in on people the way I would love to. You never know who is watching, or reading. Besides most of the time it's not even worth it.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
14 Dec 10
I don't always 'go in on' somebody, but neither am I going to be or say what someone else wants or expects if that's not what I think or how I feel. If I did that, then I would be doing myself a disservice AND lying, and I'm not going there. I suppose to make a point I might do it and then point out that I had just lied in order to make someone think something, and hopefully embarrass them out of it.
As far as never knowing who is watching or reading? If it's people who are doing it for ill gotten personal gain, in order to snoop around, 'dig' up info, ruin somebody's life, etc etc, then THOSE people ought to be punished for their behavior. I don't snoop around and dig in people's stuff in order to screw them over, and you all know that the golden rule is absolute. If I don't do it to you, then you BETTER not do it to me. Either way, I'm the better person in the end since 9 times out of 10, it would NEVER occur to me to snoop around and get information JUST to screw somebody. I don't know how those who actually do things like that can live with themselves. I just don't know how!
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
14 Dec 10
I pretty much say what I'm thinking 99.9% of the time. The other 0.1% I choose my battles. I have one friend here on the Lot who is soooo freakin sensitive that sometimes I just can't say what I'm thinking because it's NOT worth the heartache!!! Then I have some friends who know & understand me enough to know I'm just going to say what I'm thinking & I unload on them when I don't like what they've said!!!! Occasionally I temper what I'm saying because it gets my point across much better than ranting!!!! So, all in all, I feel I say pretty much what I'm thinking!!!!
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
14 Dec 10
I'm not on facebook yet, but I think I can respond on this issue. If one has a very short term focus, then they are likely to just say what they want. But I am assuming that once you say it on facebook it is there (or can you take it off?). If you post something that is a little bit 'in your face' or harsh or unkind, you probably know exactly why you are doing it and believe you are fully justified.
Now, advance one or two years down the road and see a new friend reading what you had posted before. Will they see and understand enough to come to the same conclusion you had a the time, or will there be difficulty in believing your response was necessary.
@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
5 Jan 11
I really dont care what people think of me so when I have something to say I just say it
If people dont like what I have to say then they can stay the hell away form me LOL
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
15 Dec 10
This actually has only been a problem that I've run into one time and that was on facebook. I simply posted that I was thinking about quitting one of the playgroups that I was in and I had a couple of people from a group ask that I remove my post. I'm sorry, but it is my facebook page and I have a right to say whatever I want to say on my page and if someone doesn't like it, then they should just unfriend me. I believe in freedom of speech.
@jeanneyvonne (5500)
• Philippines
14 Dec 10
I agree and disagree on you on your point. The concept of freedom is to express what we really want from other people. However, even freedom have consequences like other privileges and rights we enjoy. Also, as a person, you might not want to be perceived as a loose canon. I guess there are still room for being tolerant of others. Besides, these sites you mentioned are communities and they prescribe rules for the benefit of the majority of the community, not just for a singular person. At least, at that kind of system everybody is equal.
Rules are not meant to silence but meant for moderation. people should always think before they speak because words are powerful and they can hurt other people sensibilities. It's just a tool for having a system and order in a certain community.
