To ask forgiveness..
By Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
Philippines
December 14, 2010 8:48pm CST
Have you ever tried asking forgiveness to the people you have hurt but then they turn you down? How did you feel? What did you do after asking forgiveness but just ignored by that person?
I felt really sad being turn down after asking for forgiveness. You know it's really hard to say sorry, but since i know i was wrong, and i admit i was wrong, so i asked for forgiveness. Many times actually, but the person just ignored me. I feel really sad right now because Christmas is fast approaching and i really wanted to have a very nice Christmas, without enemies and problems. But now, i don't know if those i have sinned will ever talk to me again or even just forgive me for what i did =(
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7 responses
@desertsong (94)
• Philippines
17 Jan 11
I have tried asking for forgiveness to my friend who went cold on me for a reason I don't know. And when I said sorry to her she did not budge and didn't even respond to my forgiveness, I was like being poured a bucket of water right then and there. I asked her the reason why but she won't tell. Until now, we are still in a cold war and merely nodding eac very other's head when we cross paths. It's really very sad knowing that the person is still mad at you even after asking for forgiveness because those words are not so easy to say by, it takes a lot of self arguing and preparation.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
3 Jan 11
A few times I have found myself in the position to do this. I do wait a little bit of time, so I can give them enough time to cool down and think about what happened. I know that if the tables were reversed, I would not be able to forgive someone right away without thinking about what happened at all angles. So it is only fair that I offer others the same curiosity.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
17 Jan 11
Yes, i agree, time will surely help us think more and feel the tension loosen a bit. Time heals a broken heart as the saying goes..pain will be healed by as time goes by. Hopefully if i have hurt them, time will heal it somehow. Tnx for your response.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Dec 10
Sometimes people need more time before they can forgive you. If you really are sorry and they realize they will probably eventually forgive you. I have had this happen before a few times. I learned a lot through these times. You don't know what you have until it's gone. You don't know who you care about until they are mad at you.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Maybe they needed time.you are right. Well i do pray that they really would accept my forgiveness before Christmas because i really want to no enemies during that time :( And i am learning how important they really are to me now that is why i really really feel sad if they won't talk to me ever again 
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Dec 10
It's hard enough to ask forgiveness when you have wronged someone. i know from experience. It's a devastating blow when the person refuses you. It can be a slap in the face you did not expect. Being turned down for forgiveness can make you feel less of yourself. You can't make someone forgive you. If you have a sincere heart, that person should come to see it.1 person likes this
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
I think i have a sincere heart, or at least my bf said so. I tried to communicate with the ones i have sinned or hurt, did my best to apologize and even posted on facebook how much i really am sorry and that i have learned my lesson already, but still no response from them. Maybe healing really does take time. I will just allow time to take its course. If they will forgive me before Christmas then much better. But if not, i think i will just have to move on and be happy with the people i am with who really cares and understands me more. Thanks for responding :)
@stepje (35)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
gaiza,
Take this as a simple advice...Rejoice and be glad for you have life to enjoy and not to live a life full of sadness, recentment, and pain.Well, I congratulate you have done a great job, a most humbling job by asking forgiveness. What is important is that you make a way for you and your friend to restore the broken relationship. That's it!It's up to your friend you have no control with your friend's feelings. God will deal it. Relax and enjoy Christmas free from anger.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
WoW, now im feeling so much lighter. Thank you so much for your very kind words. I really appreciate it. Now i will just try to feel the presence of Christmas and enjoy it like my previous Christmas with my family and my understanding friends who are still there by my side despite what happened. I will just pray through these coming days that somehow they will be enjoying Christmas as well. Thanks you SO much Stepje!
@wonga94 (218)
• Singapore
15 Dec 10
Hi gaiza12! I believe that there's nothing unforgivable in this world. It all depends on whether the individual is willing forgive them and let the hatred go. I was being turned down by someone I've hurt when asking for forgiveness. I think that it is absolutely rude to ignore people's plea for forgiveness. Everyone deserves a second chance and should learn to forgive and forget.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
That's what i always bare in mind when someone asks for forgiveness, that everyone deserves a second chance. Maybe they are just too hurt at this time and only needed time to think. Hopefully they will be able to realize that i too deserve to have a second chance. Thanks
@astommacrissandra (85)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
I always asked forgiveness whenever I have done something wrong. Most of the time these persons accept my apology. But there are still some who seems so hard for them to forgive. I know I have done something wrong to them but I am here asking for forgiveness and trying to ask things that I can do to forgive me.I guess it will take long for me to be forgived but I am willing to do anything for as long as I can do for me to be forgiven
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
3 months passed and I still didn't receive the forgiveness I have been wanting. But it's fine, I have lived without worry about them even if I wasn't forgiven. But even so, I still wish one day they will be able to talk to me and say we're friends again.
