What happened to taking responsibility?

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Hmmm, I'd say 20+ years now of not keeping score in little league, "no fault" divorce and accident insurance, parents who think their job is to keep their kids happy all the time, a society that considers failure the end of the world... That last one I think is the most important. Failure has become so feared that we are willing to do anything to avoid the very word. We're willing to lie to ourselves, our spouse, even our kids to avoid admitting to failure. Not only do we seem willing to lie to our kids, we are willing to sacrifice their future, as long as their present stays nice and pleasant. Why did little leagues quit keeping score? Because WEAK adults wanted a simple response to little Johnny's tears when his team lost. "Oh, your team didn't lose, there wasn't any score." Do we really think little Johnny is so stupid he doesn't know the score? All that did was absolve little Johnny of the idea that losing sucks and if he worked harder he could get better. People love "no fault" policies. It means they can lie to themselves and get away with it (at least financially). But in reality, it costs us all more. There are very few actual accidents. Most "accidents" are the consequences of bad decisions. But we don't want to hear about that. We don't care that changing the radio station at the wrong time cost a life, we want someone to tell us that is was "just an accident" and there was really nothing that could be done to prevent it. Yes, there are some accidents. Black ice (for example) happens, and there is really nothing you can do to prepare for it... so yes, that is an accident. The fact is, we have taught responsibility out of our society. We have made the very word a taboo. We have turned failure from a teaching opportunity to an excuse to throw up our hands and turn our lives over to someone else. We can't play these silly games anymore. What next, we'll celebrate when the government micromanages our lives to the point that we let them decide the proper temperature in our homes and how loud tv commercials should be?