How Will You Know When Its Time To Let Go?

Philippines
December 16, 2010 6:22am CST
When is it the right time to let go of a person you love most? How will you know if it is the right time? Are you going to hold on to someone who is saying that he loves you so much but is constantly hurting you emotionally and making you cry?
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10 responses
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
it's like making a choice chelzeea07. would you prefer to be together yet hurting or let him go? relationships have no guarantees. love does not end the moment the relationship is over. hearing the words isn't enough anymore. actions are so much more effective. so, how will one know if it's time to let go? hmmmnnn the moment you ask that question, you are actually starting to let go. the moment you feel the pain and you feel it more than the love for that person, you are unconsciously starting to let go. ask yourself if it is still worth it... if it's still worth fighting for... if it's what you really want or need. if you can say yes, then hold on to it tight and do what you can to save it. but if you are hesitant, try to let go. either way, both can hurt. loving can give extreme emotions, joy and pain. but you do have a choice... what do you want to have in your life?
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
thanks myles,,,i cant answer you...too consumed and very confused:(
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
it's never an easy question. and it's never an easy choice. but it's up to you to decide. i hope you'll be guided. this is a question, a choice and a consequence that involves your life. just whatever you decide on, be committed to it. tc
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
maybe its my fault...i really find it difficult to trust a person...I love him but I have pointless insecurities that pisses him off...at least when were together, we are the perfect couple but when he is away, I cant help myself not to doubt even If I don't have a reason to...maybe I am to blame
• India
16 Dec 10
when they r not giving respect for your feelings for a long time stop contacting them when they come back don't let them go but if they don't come back u let them go
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
yeah its very disappointing...
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
yeah you are right harshavardini...thanks
• India
17 Dec 10
i'm also in to your situation so i could tell you this be happy
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
I'll answer it with a quote from my blog and also posted on my profile here: "Sometimes to hold on to something, you must let go of another..." In that case it is time to let go when one starts losing respect for him/herself, in order to hold onto that respect, he/she must let go.
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
It isn't and it is. The hardest part is to admit to yourself that it's over. Once you have learned to accept that, everything else will gradually follow. It doesn't mean it'll be a smooth-sailing transition and not without hurt and pain, but you'd also find relief and freedom when you learn how to let go.
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
:) wish its as easy as that...
@rhizjen (140)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
Hi Mate! That's the problem with me. I don't know when its time to let go...Saying is never an easy thing.
@rhizjen (140)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
saying goodbye is never an easy thing
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
yeah i have said goodbye to so many people in the past, i am trying not to say it again this time...thanks...:)
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
hi, the right time to let go of a person you love most, when your heart is totally drain and empty, already exceeded your patience and tired to understand him. this is now the time that you have to let him go. you dont have to hold that kind of person when he always hurt you and making you cry.
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
thanks asliah, we should never allow anybody to hurt us and make us cry because we all deserve to have someone who will care for us more right?
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
yes, those people who always make us cry is not deserving for us.
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
I've been there,when he keeps on saying that he do love you but his hurting you and making you cry.I don't think he does,it just telling it to you because he knows how much you love him.I think his just afraid of telling you the truth,and all he can do is to lie.In that case, he has no choice and continue make you believe in false hope. One thing, if the man really loves you, he won't let you cry and most of all to hurt you right?Our questions and hesitation in that case show the answers.And he,our partner giving the answer by his action.But, we are the one whom being closed our eyes and blinded.Because we, convinced ourselves that he really loves us but continue asking why.I came up in a rationalization,it's not always our partner should be blame because We also are trying to force and convinced thing we know it's fading and doesn't work at all. Even it is hard to let go, we should.And the time to let go, is when we knew that his happy to someone.In additional, "If you really love that person then set him/her free,If he comes back his yours.But If not,he wasn't meant to be" sad but true.
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
thanks for this advice, be thinkin' about it:(
@dodo19 (47299)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Dec 10
As much as times we don't always want to, I think that sometimes you just know. Deep down, you just know that it's time, you have a feeling that it's time to just let go.
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
feelings can be deceiving sometimes:(
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
16 Dec 10
It can never seem to be the right time to let go of someone we love. it can be one of the most difficult choices we can make in our lives. No matter what we will feel the pain. sometimes we just have to let go and not think of the consequences. it can make it much easier to bear. Holding on to someone when it causes you both pain is not worth what it puts you through. the more painful the experience, he harder it is to let go.
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
even if it hurts too much?
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
Letting go is a choice when there is so much pain to endure. Why stay on if you're suffering? But then again, i think it is a question of how much pain you can endure to keep on loving someone.. there's no such thing as a perfect relationship, and pain and suffering are inevitable, and thus surviving these would only solidify the foundation of a relationship...
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
thanks obe...your words are sincere and inspiring...
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
Greetings Your question is very complicated. I hate say this but, this is very intuitive. Sometimes, you will just know. Deep inside you, you will know that the magic you once had is no longer there. The little moments you share together are seemingly don't mean anything anymore to you.The dissatisfaction on excuses given, the pain out weighing the pleasure you feel, the smiles that were replaced by frowns, and many other things. Be smart, don't waste your deals or break yourself too much to the point of numbness.
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
thanks joe...things are different when we are together...the problem sets in when he is away...I don't like what I feel...