How hard is it to say thank you?
By megamatt
@megamatt (14292)
United States
December 16, 2010 12:48pm CST
Apparently it is about as hard as teaching Kindergartners Calculus for some people. Okay, now based om certain people I know who will remain nameless, my dander is properly up, so its time to rant about one of the lost arts of the world. Thank you, two words, eight letters, only takes one second to say. I think that when I do someone for someone to help them out, I don't think its really too hard to say thank you. I mean, its not like I'm asking for a ticker tape parade in my honor, a statue made of diamonds, or a lifetime supply of chocolate. Just two simple words that take two seconds to say. Just really makes me less inclined to help out next time. For all of the people who do say that simple phrase. Its going to take me longer to post this discussion than it does to say those words.
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12 responses
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
16 Dec 10
You're quite welcome. And yes thank you is slightly easier than sorry. In fact, very much easier, because sorry requires a bit of time to muster up. Especially if you want it to have some meaning. Which does take some time if you think about it. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
17 Dec 10
Pride can be the downfall of many greater people. It is hard to admit that you were wrong and in the end, some people do justify their actions to an almost obsessive state, myself included every now and again. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@wiggles18 (2506)
• Canada
16 Dec 10
I find it is easier to say thank you to strangers, than to people you know and live with everyday. It gets a little tiresome saying thank you for the same thing everyday to people you live with...
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Perhaps, but I don't think that you're going to be in the position to say thank you for more than a few things a day. I can see where you are coming from however, but at times, we do take family for granted. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@wiggles18 (2506)
• Canada
16 Dec 10
I currently live with 7-9 other people. There is a lot of door opening, reminding, chores etc, that would have to be thanked for.
When you say thanks to a family member, spouse, very close friend etc, it just seems... Cheesy....
@septemberxue (138)
• China
17 Dec 10
i think it is easy to say thank you to everyone ,not only friends but strengers.in my opinion,it is a manners behavior.those who do not want to say thanks may be thought it would not be natural and unre strained.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Dec 10
I just think with me it does seem natural. Perhaps some people have not been brought up from that environment. Perhaps they have, and they have forgotten. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
17 Dec 10
Thank you is a word of gratitude said by someone when he/she appreciates what the other party has done for them. Well, as for me, I find it easier to say thank you rather than sorry. As from the song---'sorry seems to be the hardest word', it really seems to be the hardest word in the world. Thank you can be said casually, as casual as you can be
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Dec 10
Sorry can be hard, because let's face it, people are rather prideful in general. It takes a lot to swallow our pride and to say that we're sorry. Not to mention saying sorry can take some thought, while thank you just comes naturally. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@niara25 (147)
• United States
18 Dec 10
Unfortunately, we live in a very selfish society. This saddens me. Gratitude is almost nonexistent. People often say thank you in a manner that you were obligated to them in the first place. In our society, those words have lost meaning to most. They just toss them around casually.
Courtesy, like gratitude is hard for most people. People expect you to bend over backwards for them, while they are rude and nasty to others. They feel courtesy is something owed to them, but they are incapable of extending it to others.
"Please" and "Thank You" are very common in my vocabulary. The difference is I know what those words mean and I am actually grateful when I use "thank you."
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
17 Dec 10
Saying thank you has never been difficult for me. it has always been an easy thing for me to do. i try to always show my gratitude. Saying thank you just comes naturally.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 10
I was taught to always say thank you since I was a child so I really have got used to saying thank you to anyone who help me or gave me something. Some people will tell me to not say thank you because what they did for me or gave me was nothing but I don't care, I still say thank you. I have met a lot of people and even some of my family members who do not say thank you at all but complaining a lot when one thing is not done according to their likes. But I'm used to that too and I never mind anymore. Thanks for sharing and have a nice day
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Dec 10
It is true, people do like to complain. They like to complain a lot, more than I ever care to remember. I try and lead by example by showing gratitude, but it is an uphill battle. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@dawnald (85130)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Dec 10
Are you sure you wouldn't like a ticker tape parade? :D
Now what gets me is when I do say thank you, and the husband's side of the family comes back and says to him, "Dawn didn't say thank you". Well yes I did, I just didn't tap dance. Apparently if you don't make a huge deal of it in that family, they don't hear it or something.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
16 Dec 10
I wouldn't say no to a ticker tape parade. However, I'm not about to lose sleep. I think that the other part, people expecting too much. Thank you for your response, it is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Yes, it is not that hard. I think that people can take a breath. That takes as about as lot. So it is easy to form the motion to say those words. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Apparently it is harder for some almost like pulling teeth. The way I see it, it costs nothing to simply say Thank you. I am one who will Thank someone even when a You are welcome is necessary.
However some people at times are overcomes by their moments of rage and loose their manners. I have jokingly stated to some in advance when they ask for a favor, I have said Oh you are welcome in advance before you finishing asking.. LOL..
In my culture it customary to assure a Thank you comes behind even the simplest question. Not thanking some one you are found to be uneducated, rude and with no manners.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
16 Dec 10
I think that it is just one of those things that are really a dying art. I think that people just lose all sense. If someone's parents taught them right, they should have at least learned that. Yet, you just wonder sometimes. You really do. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@stillnessspeaks (6)
• India
17 Dec 10
Gratitude is something not everyone feels. Its important to feel a sense of gratitude for what we get. So even if you people dont thank yo, just think they've not evolved and maybe one day they will learn to thank.. so its not you. They need to know.
@juneevee (106)
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
This is a nice discussion. Its true that some people don't bother saying it, but there are also things that is counted as thank you. For example, inside the house..you wouldn't say thank you all the time, but doing a favor to a member of the family is another way of saying thank you right?
From my personal view, if I really mean it, I would say thank you in a different language.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Dec 10
It doesn't take that much effort. Still, if you show some appreciation in some way, then I guess that would be good. Of course, most people do not even do that to show their gratitude. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@murd99 (7)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Now a days, societies common courtesy is really something that has left most peoples live, the way children have been brought their parents don't teach their children common courtesy which eventually leads to an expanded community of impolite people. I am sorry to hear your issue, and if it makes you feel better, thank you for addressing this problem :)
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
16 Dec 10
It is nice to see I'm not the only person seeing this. Perhaps it is just something that people are not taught. Or it is not taught enough. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
