afraid to fall in love again..
By audsalas
@prettyauds (258)
Philippines
December 18, 2010 5:51pm CST
Have you ever felt giving up on falling in love? Afraid that you might get hurt again? I am. After I have met my ideal man,it suddenly came up to my mind that I might get hurt the same way I felt years ago. I have been wanted to have this kind of guy,but I'm afraid that his family wont approve of me. What should I do? Should I avoid him now while it's early?
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8 responses
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
19 Dec 10
prettyauds,
One cannot attempt to love without risking being hurt again. Like two sides of a coin, it is just part of the deal as you accept love into your life. When you open the floodgate, you take in all things, both the good and the bad.
If you are wary about his intention, avoid taking and making hasty irrational decisions. You might like him, but it doesn't mean that he is suitable for you. Hence, your next course of action would be to figure out if he is the right fit or at least a comfortable fit.
Put your emotions on hold for just a moment first, sit back and enjoy the companionship naturally, without placing yourself into some self-construed commitment. Since the you both are still within the 'casual' zone, then behave and think likewise (albeit you probably will not be able to feel along this direction, but that's alright).
Take one step at a time with each passing of day. Remember, Rome was not built in a day.
@prettyauds (258)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Hi skysuccess, what you've said really opened my mind. Very well said and I was really touched.Good thing you posted you're comment on my topic. I fall easy,and the reason why I'm afraid that he's family won't approve of me is because he's a bachelor,and I have 2 kids and had a failed marriage. Here in the Philippines,some parents here having the conservative attitude and culture don't like having someone with my situation be committed with their sons who are bachelor. I understand them,that's why I'm afraid that I may not find the happiness that I want in having a for good partner. And it really saddens me to think of that. But what you've said opened my mind,and I really want to thank you for that. Thanks really.
@leeh2229 (85)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
After a long relationship and got it failed, i can still say that i still believe in love! But i'm still afraid most especially if i wont see it coming and love tries to knock me down again! Cause i wanna had a better future than i had in my past, and i don't want to make thesame mistakes again and fall back on my face again. This is i guess one of the reasons why i'm still single right now, cause i was scared to answer loves call! :D
@prettyauds (258)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Hi leeh2229! It's also what's bothering me,I'm afraid to get hurt again. I'm really scared just to think that later on when everything is doing good,the problem with his family will arise. I knew the feeling of being left because of my status. I'm just really praying hard that someday,my ideal man will come and accept me for who I am and what I have. As for you my friend,maybe loving again and getting a bit hurt will somehow add more color in to your life. ^_^ thanks for sharing! Good luck to us (in our love life)
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
20 Dec 10
We all have the power to choose what we deem important in this world. We can value all the good, fun, wonderful times or we can value the times we hurt. I value the good times so much more. Sure, we all have times when we hurt but they mean nothing to me. With every relationship, we risk getting hurt, yet the greatest joy in our lives comes through relationships. No one will escape getting hurt from time to time but how will you value that??? I choose to only see the best of times. I will never allow hurt to keep me from exploring a new relationship. After all, I wouldn't want to miss my next great love affair. It might turn out to be true love. It will be glorious regardless.
@tkonlinevn (6345)
• Vietnam
21 Dec 10
my friend, are you sure that you love him with a true love? If you love him, you'll know what you can do to live with his family. If you scare you'll repeat a hurt in love, you should say your feels to your boyfriend for sharing. You should believe in yourself.
@algenesisV (18)
•
19 Dec 10
love is like an investment.. you will first invest, and you don't even know if your investment will surely have profit.. maybe you will have now..but at the end, you will lost it.. It's really hard to fall inlove. In my situation now that I have my own family, I don't know if I still really care about being inlove.. All I know is I am happy when we are together, I am happy because of our daughter.. so far I am contented of my life situation now..and I don't even know what is the criteria of love..all I know is when your happy your in love.. Don't be afraid to fall in love over and over again..because it's the pain/heartaches that will show the right way to a better and happy life..
@ashish1487 (137)
• India
19 Dec 10
getting afraid in falling in love again because your partner family may reject you is wrong thinking because you are leaving your ideal man before facing the problem that you think may occur...in my accordance you should first go on and later on if this occurs than try to make them understand your feelings and convince them. yes bfore continuing you should ak you prtner wether he will support yopu or not and will not leave you in any case. i agree that earlier every one say and than ignore but as you are saying him ideal than he may no keep you in dark.
