Burning question: What do you do...?

United States
December 20, 2010 7:50pm CST
My boyfriend and I met in college and have dated for almost 2 and a half years. We are very close and still enjoy one another's company. He has a job that allows him to work remotely, but he would prefer to live near his work which is far away from where I live (16 hours). He loves the area and has made many new friends there over the school breaks. He continually tells me how beautiful it is and how much he wants me there to enjoy it with him. I am an engineer, and I am looking everywhere for work, but my parents are not too keen on me going far away(as any parent would) and have outspokenly been against me basing my work decisions off my boyfriend's (aka finding a job where he is located). They prefer anywhere else in the world BUT where he is working. They indicated that should I find a job where he is, they will be very disappointed and if I raise a family, I will regret ever moving far away. I am so stuck because I want to work things out and make everyone happy, but I keep tearing myself apart finding a solution to this issue. Any suggestions? I never really do this, but this inner battle is just too much to bear...
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
21 Dec 10
If you are 18 ( the age of consent) you are old enough to determine your own life. When you reach this age it is time for you to make your own decisions. Your parents can advise, but should not try to manipulate. If you are deterred by their preferences, your life will pass you by. You can respect their wishes, but when it comes to living your life you must take the bull by the horns and do your own thing. They will be unhappy with you in the short term, but eventually, when they see how successfully your life is unfolding before you, they will forget their fears and become very proud parents once again! All things work together for good!
• United States
22 Dec 10
that is very comforting. Thank you. As always, it is easier said than done. I am 22 years of age, lol. I have come a long way and been slowly achieving my freedom; my parents are both very old fashioned and are very determined to have all their children stick together. My mom is going with the fact that my future children will be a handful and she would be willing to help IF we should live around the New England area. I mean, it is nice to have that commodity, but is it really necessary? I want my kids to know my mom and dad and be very close with them as grandparents. It's a deep tearing feeling to think of all this...