Have you felt your relationship with some of your friends drifting away?

Like all things in life, there is no permanency in this world. Friends come and go and we have to accept that at every stage in our life we find new contacts and bond new friendships. Friends that are out of sight does not mean that they have left you permanently, it is just that you are walking on different paths now but the sweet memories of your friends in your highschool days are never forgotten and are well recorded in the early chapters of your life history.

Yes! But meeting new friends made me realize that whatever was made before and whatever continued until now means that it was worth keeping. If time and distance and changes in our lives made us lose touch with our other friends, facebook was made! haha...

Yes, I think this is one of the worst things about growing up. We may not lose contact with friends, but, in the ways of growing up we have to abandon them to start our own lives...

Yes, I felt the same way too. Though I'm still in touch with my school friends, the feelings are so different now. We are no longer as outgoing nor opened like before. I'm afraid it's the closeness we shared that pulls us apart because we understand each other too well over the years. We are old friends, but not belonging to the group of being comfortable with each other. It's a weird change which I didn't know can happen.

Friends are forever if you're really friends with them. If you're really close with them for a long time, then I don't think that the friendship that you have will just go away eventually. Like you, I'm a college student already, but good thing is that the friendship that I have with my highschool friends is still there, and I will not let that relationship . Now that I am in college, I also have my own group of friends but I still don't consider them as the group that I have when I was just in high school. I remember during our recollection for the past few months, our mentor said that HS friends stay longer than college friends. At first, I agree with that, but I later on realized that friendship does not depend on how long/old you've been together, but it matters on the moments that you spend together and the happiness that you feel when you're with them. Taking for instance your high school friends. Now that you're in college, can you predict that they suit you more than your college friends? Even though your college friends are "new", you can still tell that you are more comfortable with them than with your hs friends. For me, it's the happiest moments that count, and not the number of days.

mee too..when i was in college i used to have so much with my friends.but as i have entered in professional i have become an articial man.i meet with the friends they have become artificial too.they always wear a layer of professionalism so do i.so miss the life.i think i have lost those days..

I've lost almost all of my high school friends. I talk to & hang out with one friend now that I knew from high school. Everybody else seemed to have dropped off. I don't make new friends easily anymore. I also still hang out once in a while with a girl I used to work with. Then there is a college buddy I hang out with. So all in all, I have 3 people I hang out with on a regular basis. There are handful of others but it's here & there. I do understand because they have now families of their own & they don't have as much of free time as they used to when they were single.

i've lost so many friends that, every time i'm real happy with my best friend and only friend, i get scared. this is fear of losing him as well. i lost every best friend i had. that is why, i dont make friends anymore. the current one i have never left and i really wish he never does :/ time is such a bad thing, i cant blame anyone but situation and how time ws running so fast couldn't have control on anything. hat ethat i cant bring back those happy times and everything. i just dont want to go through all that again, i do scared but i suggest all we can do is be positive and hope for the best.

I feel exactly that way now. i used to have this high school friend, but now i transfered to another school and we seem to be distancing away. thinking about it cant tell when last i talk to him. - really am now starting to wonder how he is doing. sigh. i miss my friends.

Oh yeah, I felt exactly the same too. I can't help, but I just want to be alone sometimes. I sometimes not even want to take my friends' calls too. I just don't know why, my mind just getting complicated when I am getting older.

I feel that way these days too. I felt like some of my close friends from high school are drifting away from me- since we don't go to the same college and I can't even see them anymore. We can only contact each other once in a while, by chatting. Maybe i need to exert more effort in our relationship....

Yes, but I do not want to dwell on it as there are lots of things to think of than drifting friends, I mean why think of them when some of them decides not to be a friend of yours anymore? There are a lot of people out there who will stay with you. Besides, there you will know and see those people who are worth the friendship right?

Yep. Unfortunately, this is something that happens in life and there's not much to do about it. People who at one point have a lot in common evolve in different, sometimes opposite directions, and their friendship has to suffer. For instance, I had a very good friend in college and we were almost inseparable. But after college we just drifted apart, because there wasn't much left for us to talk about and we weren't interested in the same things anymore. Now, I haven't talked to her for over a year and I feel sad when I think about it, but I suppose that's life.

I completely agree. My one and only best friend growing up is still a wonderful person and there is nothing I have against her but we have grown apart a lot. This is just a part of growing up and since high school I've moved eight and a half hours away. Even when I visit home I have no desire to see her as we don't have much in common anymore and I have a completely different life now.

i do feel that sometimes people who we think are best friends it is not actually our real best friends because once you are in a situation when you are detached from him/her, you still feel close to him. My real best friends still will be closed in my heart even though some of them are in a country far away from me. The others, such as my college friends, I feel I close to them in the past just because we always been in the same class and that's why always interacts all the time. Nowadays I feel drifted away from them, we go on a separate life and sometimes if we meet, I just feel there are gap or space between us. Real best friends will not be like that.

yes, of course. I felt this with some of my university friends. We used to be closed together.. And don't know how.. suddenly, we are all getting far to each other. I do remember them as my good friends. But I don't know what they think about me. Now, I also gain some good friends at work, I wish it will not drift away again..

yep ive experienced that before bcuz she felt i wasnt giving her enough attention and i stopped seeing her. i know she got mad at me when that happened but after a year, i broke up with my bf and she did the same to me. i felt she dont need my company anymore. shes together with his bf 24/7...i feel like im intruding everytime i visit her. but now, were still friends. we still see each other once in a while.

Hi chiyosan! Definitely! I was really close to my friends in high school, we would call each other after school and talk for hours on the phone until our moms got mad. After we've graduated high school, we managed to find time to catch up with one another for several months. But as school life gets more hectic each day, we couldn't be bothered to talk to each other anymore. I mean, it's sad how we once were such good friends ended up not talking to each other for about 2 years now.