a question for men...... about the truth!!

@ren1982 (341)
December 25, 2010 9:33am CST
i really dont understand why men find it so hard to just tell the truth about things. i would rather hear the truth and go from there but no when it comes to men they think about it and then just tell you what they think you want to hear grrrrr! also if your not that into someone why cant you just say it how it is and say what your really looking for again not what you think we want. so men of mylot why is this? is it all men or am i just picking the wrong ones?
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9 responses
• Estonia
26 Dec 10
I think that not all men are so untruthful. Some are more and some are less. I think that it comes from our nature. Sometimes we lie because we care. Some things are better to keep untold, like the ones that can make women sad and are not really big deal or worth mentioning. I mean like times when a man has some kind of problem but says everything is fine. But of course there are cases when lying is unacceptable. Like times when it comes to relationship, cheating and stuff. These are delicate topics and men must be honest here.
@ren1982 (341)
26 Dec 10
yes that is what i am talking about little things like does my bum look big or how many pints you had yeah ok i get but big things about what you want from a person and how you really feel now that you have to be honest about but the guys i have been with have just messed me up more then anything else
• India
26 Dec 10
May be its the not with all men but with few ones I feel. May be the ones you picked are not telling the truth. Not all men are same. Few people are truthful, or may be saying themselves truthful.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
Hi, Ren.:) It is true that men are having difficulties telling the truth. Generally speaking they have that tendency to forget the things they did especially those that we think were offensive. For men, telling the things in complete detail is kind of stressful.They'd rather tell the truth to make it easier for them and brush away whatever doubts we have on them. Base on observation and experience, here's an article why men lie... http://authspot.com/thoughts/hurt-me-with-the-truth-and-not-with-the-lies/ Have a happy holidays.:)
• Bulgaria
25 Dec 10
Hello i think that you mean is typical for the most people.I know a lot of womans that doing the same.I don't think is wrong.Usually the people strive to pleased each other.So the one of the way is to say what the other wants to hear.I'm not that kind of man but i understand their motives.Marry Cristmas!
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
26 Dec 10
I can understand that you don't understand man and then I really don't understand your question.. . Please can you clarify me with your question?
• Ghana
26 Dec 10
truth is that women too do lie the most so is like, lying is a gender syndrome we are so lie is a natural inherent of human nature, truth sometimes kills lol..
@chillpill90 (1936)
25 Dec 10
I do not think that all men do this, most men will think and say what you want to hear so as not to hurt your feelings. However there are some better men who will tell the truth, i think it depends on the type of person the man is.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
25 Dec 10
Hi ren, Not all men are like this. I mean you can not generalize men as to be not telling the truth. We have women too who hide the truth more often. That men do not tell the truth might be due to the reason that it could create some problem and why create one? And biologically men are not as open as women are. Just take an example. When one woman tells her friend something secret she would pass it to others without thinking about th consequence but men do not do so.
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
Hi ren! It's not true that all men are like that. Generally,men doesn't want to hurt the feelings of their women. I'm saying this because that's been my observation to my friends who are men and also to my husband. I guess there are really things better left unsaid for us girls not to be hurt about the truth. It's for us on how we are going to handle things regarding their reasons. I know my hubby when he is not telling me the truth but it's fine with me,I know he just doesn't want me to get hurt but I do. I just have to resolved it to him at once like if he does it again I might as well give him the ultimatum. See you around!