Would you hold a gruge or forgive someone ?

Well,after read your post and answers from others,i feel i am a person who can't easily forgive others. Though we all know we should not be so narrow-minded.It is easier saying than doing.In my opinion,if a person who hurt you unintentionally or by mistakes,i can forgive him or her if our relationship is not so close,in other words,just ordinary friends.While if i have a very deep relationship with him or her,i will not forgive him or her easily.It is really strange,maybe it is as we always say:you will hate a person more when being betraried if you love him or her very much.

I think it is better to forgive, because then you can let it go. If you hold a grudge, all the bad feelings will still be with you, for a long time.

I would be hypocrite if I say that it is really easy to just forgive someone who hurt you that much. Though it is not a healthy thing to hold grudges but we are only human and sometimes we cannot control our emotions. As the saying goes "Time heal all wounds". It may not happen over night but for sure in time you can forgive the person who caused you so much hurt.

I am a person who will forgive however I won't forget and I definitely hold grudges. I have grudges from 12 years ago and I still keep it and for things that people hurt me, It will subtract my trust for them.

Unfortunately I have noticed that I am the type to hold grudges. I know I shouldn't because it's not good for you, you should learn to forgive, but when you get hurt especially by the people that are suppose to love you it kind of gets difficult to forgive them. But how do you know if someone has truly forgiven you? In other words, people can tell you don't worry about I forgive you, but how do you know they are being sincere, how do you personally know that they actually did forgive you. I mean for me, I've told people that I forgive them, but when I get upset with them again I kind of dwell back into the past and sometimes even bring it up during an argument. So really I don't think I have ever really forgiven them, it always sticks on my mind. Some people say it easy to forget, but for me it's not I tend to hold on to things and dwell on them.

It also depends on who it is. I can only take so much from anyone, but I do let my little sister get away with getting under my skin. If it was anyone else I would probably cut ties.

I think forgiving is always hard at first, but once you have learned how to forgive, it's one of the most rewarding experiences, I don't know why but I presume maybe God taught man to forgive that's why.