Big family versus an only child.

The most dangerous problem of having an only child is that the child has every chance of being a pampered child.

Hi mayrah. Yes, you are right that it happened to my family too. I have big family because my grandma or her brother and sister have children in a big number. Maybe their need at yesterday has different situasion. Nowdays, we know, everything is competition, to get money, education, chanche and etc. So, having children is having preparation so oneday they grow as good person because we can give full attention. But if we can make sure than we have good preparation to having more children, why not. It will better to create good generation.

Hi there! Yes its true. Its not very practical nowadays to have a very big family. Before, its quite normal for any couple regardless of their economic status to have big family. Its because, its lifestyle before was much simple and the earth was not crowded and polluted. THe nature was so bountiful, you could live and stay alive by just doing simple ways to have food. Nowadays, its much different and so complicated. The earth was overly populated and you have to exert lots of effort in order to live comfortably. Two or three children was enough, and considered as big family already. Its much harder to support big family, furthermore, the environment now is different from before so I guess, its really an advantage that every one should have a small family instead of a big one. HAve a nice day ahead!

I tend to like small families. Not from an economic point of view, but rather for a parenting responsability, as I think parents don't end often caring about all the needs of their childs. Of course, economy plays an important role, but good parents will keep their childs happy regardless money and only thinking about their will of being parents. But nowadays, big big families are rare, and only happen between those that don't really care about their sons, sadly. For me, it would be enough with one, two or at most three. I can't do a good job with any more. Lucky, there are many ways to control this.

Yeah, not a bad idea, especially that nowadays isn't like what it was years ago. It's good to have many kids, lol, but thinking of life's hardship makes you think twice. I gess each person can decide what's best for him/her. There is something important about kids, psychologist says, if you want to limit the number of kids, than don't make it less than two, coz if you plan to have one only, they say he/she might get the feeling of loneliness, they also encourage the minimum to be two coz it's very good & healthy for a boy or a girl to have a brother or a sister. They also say, if you really want just one baby, than make sure you give him good time to play with the neighbor's kids, so he doesn't feel lonely.

See...I seriously believe if I cant afford something...I should not go for it. And its about a human being. The responsibility is mine. So seriously if I cant give my future generation a good life then its better not to have a child. Bcoz I have no right to spoil their childhood. If I can look after properly only one child, I will prefer to have only one kid. Having a big family and not able to afford their education and their childhood will make everybody's life as a disaster.

I think that finances should not limit one's children, health should. We had only two children and they were twins and were through adoption since I miscarried easily and also I had gotten vd before I met my husband. I wish I had had more, like five or six because I felt that no one would trust me with looking after children because I only had two and I did not give birth to them. So when they put the names for babysitters for our church and I wrote and asked that I would help out if one of the other ladies was sick, they did not put my name on it even when there were other grandmothers who were acccepted. I think it was because I had no large numbers of grandkids. Most of those who have large families, their children help a lot and the wives are good at budgeting, and yet they often can afford to visit the old country every two or three years. Yet we were unable to and we only had two and my husband had a good trade where he made a lot of money.

I love a big family, but I also agree in responsible parenthood. Yes I believe that although kids come from God, God also gave us the wisdom to bring up families responsibly. That is being able to provide for their needs for good education and life. For as long as you can support your family and able to bring them up to be responsible citizens then I don't have any problem with big families.

I do not thnk that we should limit the number of children due to the financial crisis.I simply suggest limitation to our greediness for more and more.Our children should learn to live with less expenses.

hi, i think the level of the family could say if how many kids will they have, if your family is rich, you can have kids one or more, coz they can support their kids, but if your family is poor and not that very rich, they have control or minimize the count of their child or kids. it maybe depend upon the status of their life in society.

course. we should think ahead, because we have a long life. can we better manage our finances early on, because if not our future what can we do if there is no money. we therefore have to be set aside / us save a little money for the future.