In a relationship, how essential is having a sense of humor?
By eM
@eLsMarie (4346)
Philippines
8 responses
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
4 Jan 11
I think it is very important to have a sense of humor, but sometimes some people take a joke way to far and that is not funny or very nice at all. A sense of humor can help you laugh at the silly things the two of you do in a relationship, and bring you closer. If a joke is taken to far though, it can tear you apart forever.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
4 Jan 11
I guess it's really is important but what's with the sense of humor?
is it really where the relationship works? is that the real sense why you love the person? not every can do what other men do when it comes to humor. the fact is that I've lost it (humor) a long time ago due to some issues i can't disclose. well, i can say hello now to forever single
hood if every women in the planet demands sense of humor as a requirement.
Seriously, it's supposed to be from instinct and something that shouldn't be expect unless he or she does it with you expecting it, for me that makes a humor. it's different when you expect something better.
is it really where the relationship works? is that the real sense why you love the person? not every can do what other men do when it comes to humor. the fact is that I've lost it (humor) a long time ago due to some issues i can't disclose. well, i can say hello now to forever single hood if every women in the planet demands sense of humor as a requirement.
Seriously, it's supposed to be from instinct and something that shouldn't be expect unless he or she does it with you expecting it, for me that makes a humor. it's different when you expect something better.@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
This is something that I have to disagree with you. I'm not aware about your issues but thanks for opening up. I don't expect him to be humorous right from the start. We've been together for quite sometime and still he has no humor. I guess he should thank me for advising him to have one.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
that's sad. but if you feel you don't want him anymore i suggest you start closing it slow or straight away. i still find it weird why such had to make humor though, although some really has that instinct through either experience or other things. maybe you should tell him that straight. i think something he seriously needs to think it up since it's a issue for you.
@primeaque86 (8105)
• Philippines
4 Jan 11
yes, for me sense of humor is an important factor. i am a serious type of person, but i need some humor at times. i am sure it is very boring for a relationship if you are both serious and has a very little sense of humor at all, and ops, i did not mean being serious is being no sense of humor, i guess every one of us has our own way of making things alive and kicking, but somehow there are people who are lazy of doing so, and those are the people very hard to deal and kill joy.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
Well, guess in this case you want your boyfriend a bit like you're dad who likes to joke a lot. only if every one can joke and make each other happy. unfortunately not every can't.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
4 Jan 11
This is the one thing I have to have in a man to be able to have a good sense of humor. If either of the individuals in a relationship lack this its definitely not good for the couple and it could end up with a very unhappy relationship. Having a sense of humor gets you through the hard times and not having this will make living with each other even worse. A man with a good sense of humor to me is very sexy and so much fun. That is why my relationship with my significant other has gone on now for almost 22 years and that is without getting married but that is what we both prefer. Not to mention that laughter is great for your immune system too.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
5 Jan 11
He had asked about three times after we were together for about 4 years. I just felt why bother at this point. Over the past 10 years we have come to now feel it would just ruin the whole thing. We don't need a piece of paper or the church to tell us who to love. We have also seen many marriages fail after 10 or 15 years. However, the ones who are still together are the ones that have not gotten married. That says alot to me.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
13 Jan 11
Hiya eLs,
Very important to have a sense of humour especially if you go out with a Boyfriend that does not have your particular sense of humour. He probably does have a sense of humour but very different to yours. Could be that he is a bad mood for some reason. Work problems and so on.
My Son´s sense of humour is very different to mine they cannot appreciate my sense of humour very much either.
It´s a question of keeping true to yourself and learning in a way to appreciate their´s better.
It does take time though.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
20 Jan 11
Hiya eLs,
Oh sorry about that I don´t mean to be your Mom just giving my opinion and the nearest example I had are those surrounding me.
They are a good example how different we are in having sense of humour. My Husband will laugh at things I would not dream of laughing at. But I appreciate his sense of humour the same as he does mine.
Hope I don´t sound like your Mom now I have enough with the ones I have to look after here
Yes you are probably seeing my photo too I suppose. But I did´nt think of it like that (grin).
Hope you see the other side of your Boyfriend´s humour if you can.
Yes you are probably seeing my photo too I suppose. But I did´nt think of it like that (grin).
Hope you see the other side of your Boyfriend´s humour if you can. 
@Takemyhand (25)
• Romania
6 Jan 11
Sense of humor it`s a must in life , not just in a relationship.In a relationship you must be funny but no silly.I quess if you don`t have sense of humor your boy(girl)friend will be bored so much that someday you will be alone as hell.
