Do you like setting your bar low?

In life..I expect the worst. Too many times that I have been anxiously awaiting and then be disappointed. As far as setting standerds..well...that's different for me. I expect better from myself than I do from life. Sounds weird huh...but the thing is that I know I can do better than that. I am not willing to accept less of what I have control of. My grandfather always said accept what you can't change but change in masses what you can.

Hope for the best, expect the worst. I like this way of thinking. It's very "realist" if you ask me. I mean, that way when something good happens - you'll be super-surprised - in a good way, rather than disappointed. I second your notion. This is how I live, too. Nothing wrong with it..Just being realistic!

I think setting a low bar of expectation helps and one does not feel disappointed if one's expectations are not met. I also try to set my bar well below the average point and if I can I better not expect from people who are not reliable.

I think I am like you I don't have much expectations because in life I have met many untrustworthy people so I always set the bar low after all it's better to expect the worst and hope for the best this way I get to be prepared for both situations

Well with me, I expect people to be sweet and kind back to me when I am the same with them. I have realized that not everyone will be this way with me. Everyone does not carry my love and thoughtfulness. I have been burned tremendously by expecting people to do like I do, when it concerns treating others with respect. But people are going to do what they will do, regardless of how I feel like they should do. What amazes me, is that, I know that people have some good in them, but they still choose to be nasty and grumpy. I don't understand these types of people. I really don't. I try to look at life and see the great in it and in people. I have to do this so that I won't fall into the state of being depressed and miserable.

I really set expectations that are attainable. Not too high but not too low either. That way I can really expect something out of the situation but at the same time, it is not too big of a fall if the situation is really not what I had expected it to be. Expectations are a rather funny thing, given the fact that you need to be careful with exactly how they set them. I mean, you set them too low and you're really just being a bit unfair but if you set them too high, then you really do set yourself for a lot of disappointment. So a moderate level of expectations need to be adjusted. Granted, it can be a bit difficult to find the point where the level is attainable. And it does vary with certain situations. There are many situations where I expect a lot but there are some situations where I pretty much have come to the conclusion that I would be a fool if I had expected way too much. That is just the way things go with expectations. You got to adjust them accordingly.

i set my expectation-bar moderate... not too high and not too low... i don't want to set it too high as i am afraid to get disappointed if i can't achieve it... but i don't want to set it too low as well as i don't want to look down on myself... i believe that i have the hidden talents inside me that i can dig out if i want to... take care and have a nice day...

At least you had expectations. Me? I was always surprised when things worked out. I would hope but that is all . To have even a bad expectations means you are looking forward. Me I always just looked back. Now I am just enjoying the day!

Hi bounce! Happy New Year dear friend! I am always on the negative side, I'm afraid. Even if I set the bar high I have always ended up proving the worst. I wish I could be more optimistic, but when things seem to go wrong your entire life it is difficult to change.

I definitely wouldn't go to the extent of saying that I am the kind of person that sets my bar low. However, I also wouldn't say that I am a person that sets my bar really high. Instead, I think I am the person that will access a situation and think about what I will be able to accomplish. Then, I will set the bar that I would like to attain at least a little bit more than that so that I am still able to have a little bit of a challenge.

I use to set it way over the top high as I did enjoy the challenges. With my financial difficulties now I am just a tad over as I have to be realistic and remember where I am and so this way I am still challenging but at the same time I am not over exceeding.