How do I like a small children?

@gengeni (3308)
Indonesia
January 6, 2011 11:53am CST
I feel stiff when with small children, whether it be in joke / funny, I was not too keen to joke with them. any suggestions? for me more affection towards young children, even if not familiar. sometimes feel jealous, why do other people (especially women) are always happy when with small children. Am I not the kind of a mother? I'm afraid it later if I already have children, I can not give happiness as a mother.
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@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
6 Jan 11
I love young children too. They are so innocent and one thing you get from a child, no matter how many or what mistakes you make is unconditional love. Your child will love you, no matter. We learn parenting from our parents, most of us try to carry on the "good" things our parents have taught us. And with the help of the community, we can become great parents. Be yourself. Always make eye contact, rephrase often instead of using baby talk. Mothers and fathers (and other care givers) will naturally have a higher "pitch" when speaking to children. This is referred to as "mother-ease" and "father-ease." It's not baby talk, babies just happen to respond to it better...and it is natural for us to speak this way. Just love your children and that will bring the most happiness.
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@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 11
Sometimes I feel there is no maternal instinct in me, but really in my little heart to say that I always love a child.
• Indonesia
19 Jan 11
I like small children, especially infants, because in the future I will also have a baby, well, the baby will be a small child, right? In the past, we had experienced childhood, right? Then how we feel as a child if it is not preferred by adults? . Try to meditate a little, life is not beautiful without a child.
@jhartana (1084)
• Australia
7 Jan 11
I am not a father yet however as a person my wife said that I am being a serious guy and hard to take jokes. She said that I need to change it, especially if I want to have children. It will also be very crucial in the development of children as my future children will learn from me and I need to be a good father who can play around with children. I wholeheartedly agreed with her that I need to change so I can get around with my future children. I like children because they are cute and adorable. So I need to prove that my liking of children can be seen. I will try my best to raise them in a happy family and will try my best to be a good father.
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 11
nothing remains eternal. The eternal was just one,that is change itself.All must change, but hopefully that changes toward goodness.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
7 Jan 11
I think the situation would be different when you are a mother. I know that somebody would not be good at showing their love, no matter male or female. Just show what you feel. Maybe it need time to change this, but I am pretty sure that you could get well along with the kids if you like. I DO think that my mother are not adapt to showing her love, thus I would not tell any secret or life feeling. I know that she loves me, but the stiff feeling would occur if nobody would step the distance. I always think that love or affection should be presented by oral or body language.
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 11
Maybe you are not yet mature in attitude, you'll change if you're already married.
@pastigger (612)
• United States
6 Jan 11
You may decide to not have children. You may you can not know how you will fill until you actually hold your little baby in your arms. There are lots of different types of mothers. It really is different when it is your child. They are part of you there is more of a bond there. It can be difficult to be with small children they require a lot of attention and you have to do a lot for them. I have one daughter and I always thought that I would want two children. Well between some medical reason and the fact that I can not imagine having the amount of work that it would take for two children I am pretty sure I only want the one now. I love her more than anything she is my world and I don't want to have to share my attention with two children. I wonder if I would feel differently if the medical part was not there, but again we can not know. You have to make the choice if you want to have children or not do not feel bad if you chose no or yes it is your choice and you need to do what you feel is best for you and a child. If you feel like you could not be there for a child it is probably best not to have one. If you are just scared, know that we are all scared. Having children is scary and it is not easy and it is a 24/7 commitment. Good luck with your choice.
• India
7 Jan 11
Hey!! Probabaly, this is the first time I am hearing that in a real life a person feels uncomfortable with children. I have always heard this kind of things in book. I feel very very happy when surrounded with children. It gives me an immense pleasure and take my word, they can make a person happy at any pointof time. WHether you are happy or unhappy, your mood will be happy whenever you meet them and play with them. I think you should meet lot of children, and try to mix up with them. Play with them, try to tell out a comedy story, you will notice that they have been already attracted towards you. You will feel very happy!!