Would you marry outside your race?
By theredquill
@theredquill (586)
Philippines
January 8, 2011 11:50am CST
Statistics show that the number of interracial or mixed marriages has risen over the years. This might be a sign that the world is becoming a global village, where people from different races build bridges instead of erecting barriers. It may also be a sign that the society is evolving and people are now learning to open up to new cultures.
Like typical marriages, mixed marriages also go through the same ups and downs that same-race couples encounter. However, cultural differences might also be a factor that interracial couples have to contend with. Although some societies are open to this union, a few people might not be easily accepting of it.
Personally, I don't have a problem dating or marrying outside my race. What about you?
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32 responses
@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
I can't agree more. I believe that it should be compatibility we should look into and not color of the skin.
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@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
8 Jan 11
Agreed.
I mean, there's a 90% chance I'll be blind as a bat by the age of 50 and that by 60 I'll have triple love handles, back boobs, walk with a hunched back, and ta-ta's sagging to the floor... so really, the color of someone's skin is the last thing that I am going to worry about in a relationship ;)
@calajane (1003)
• Poland
8 Jan 11
I don't really have a problem with interracial or mixed marriages. If I fell in love, it wouldn't matter what color the skin of my parter would be. I assume that despite how advanced our world is that there would be some problems, some people would probably not like the fact that my husband is of a different race. But I wouldn't let that stop me.
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@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
Exactly. You will be the one to live with the person anyway, not them. But I guess it takes a really tight couple to win against the odds, especially if the people surrounding them are negative about the union.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I would probably marry a hispanic or oriental woman
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@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
You (and me) are lucky, my dear. It makes things easier, doesn't it. But yeah, some traditions are deeply entrenched in some cultures that's hard to break. I respect that as well.
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@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I see a huge problem in the concept. But first I'll say, "yes." Throughout time people have married outside their skin color before race was defined. The Romans did it, the Spanish, etc., anywhere you had a meeting of cultures you had the joining of people of different cultures and skin colors. What's so ironic is that during times of slavery when intermarriage was being frowned on, we had two major authors, Alexander Pouissant (Russia) and Alexander Dumas (France) who were products of intermarriage. Only in America was intermarriage "illegal by law". And the most of the mullatoes you saw were the result of the slave master messing with the slaves. Thus, racial intermarriage was made taboo around that time. Now it's coming back to where it was before where two individuals can get together, if they love one another.
To show how silly the race thing is, there's an article in world science http://www.world-science.net/othernews/101214_drop.htm that tells how we still keep the same notion of the amount of blood that decrees race. A 1662 Virginia "one drop rule" is what makes things so wacky. If my freat-great-great-great grandmother was Black, then I am Black no matter how White I look (although I have a White ancestor.) But if I have no more than one-sixteenth Black blood (1/32), then I can be white. And there have been folks whose ancestors were Black who ended up passing for White. Thus in terms of interacial marriage, if a person (unknown to us) has a Black ancestor but who is classified by the 1/16 rule as White marries a Black person, is it an interracial marriage?
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Jan 11
I think that one little drop rule is silly and it did bring problems. I suppose it was to make sure that no Negro would be with a white person carnally for the sole purpose that one of their descendants may inherit the plantation or the property, but now with the Blacks with the slogans "Black is Beautiful" or "Black pride," it is now viewed as a method of pride and a way to increase their ethnic group. So in America, we have opposites attracting whereas in the rest of the world it is not so.
So in the rest of the world, and that includes, Canada, we have people who marry outside their ethnic group, but they do not look for the darkest Negro looking person, nor does an Negro (using the old term) look for the blondest girl. So in the rest of the world, it is love the determines the relationship.
We used to determine people as mulatto, mezato, octoroon to show that they were of mixed ethnicity, and then we went to bi racial, but then they were from a mixed marriiage, but to destroy one ethnic group, i.e. call someone black who has some Irish or Scottish ancestry is destroying that part if their background and that is wrong.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Jan 11
It is about love and compatibility. I live with my boyfriend for five years now and I am Hispanic and he is Caucasian. I see no problem in marrying outside of your race as the only ones who will have an issue is society and well my thinking is that I live with my boyfriend and not society.
@shaggin (71664)
• United States
9 Jan 11
I dont have a problem with men of different races although I am not really attracted to them necessarily. If I met a guy of a different race I could date them but after a terrible marriage I never want to get married again. I think the reason interracial marriaes are increasing is that people now know its ok where as many years ago it was not considered strange.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
You are right..the world is getting into global villages.
If the people united as one,this make our world a better place.
Hope this will end the war (nations/kingdom)
If people understands each differences,marrying other races is one proof that we can be united as one.
This only shows that we are all humans...no matter of race,color,religion,culture and beliefs.
I am never against of this inter-race marriages,i found it sweet and romantic
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@mercedlegurpa (955)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
I had a boyfriend/penpal before when I was a teenager; I really wished to marry at that time a Caucasian but my plan never push through because I married my own race, a Filipino. Well I was discouraged also to marry a white man because of so many weird stories from their country. I also wanted to marry a Caucasian before because I wanted to have a good looking children. But now although my children are pure not hybrid, I'm still proud to say that they are good-looking.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
10 Jan 11
Hi dear,
It is found surprising that most majority over here took part are of YES, commented and I feel happy to be with them. I think we all got a universal acceptance and open minded thinking also. After all, people can understand the language of love and care, race or creed or religion or colour is nothing, and here it proves!!!
I pray this motivation should be in all looks and thoughts. If we got such a positive approach to various other filed also, we can make our earth more beautiful and peaceful. Though there is legal and demographic issues around, once people love or like each other, to getting married to the person is nowhere blocked.
Thank-s
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@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
8 Jan 11
Sure, why not? Race is really not important or even an issue in any way for me, so I would not even think twice about it, with the right person...
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@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
Amen. Now the eternal question is, who is the right person? :)
@sardonyx777 (450)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
Hello theredquill,
Its not a problem for me in fact it send out an idea of really love conquers all. Culture, race, religion, distance can no longer a barrier for this getting smaller world.
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@getbiswa2000 (5545)
• India
15 Jan 11
Inter racial marriage is nothing new. It has a scientific ground too. Inter-racial marriage accelerates evolution. You're absolutely right. It's the love that matters here. 
@maxsuperman3 (2)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I don't have a problem dating another person on another race. It doesn't matter what race you are in.
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@kingatul (849)
• India
9 Jan 11
For me the race of a person will not be a problem big enough to not marry her. Though thinking from the social point of view my parents and other family members might be skeptical but I'll go to all extents to make them believe that its best for me to marry this girl whom I love irrespective of the difference in our races.
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@derek_a (10874)
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9 Jan 11
Yes, I can't see any problem with that at all. It is not race that matters to me, but personality. I would never interfere with a person's beliefs or religion and I would expect the same in return. I think the essence of a good relationship, is giving each other the space to form opinions and beliefs and not to try and change each other. We all change as the years go by naturally anyway. If my partner was of a different race and there was any attempt from either family to interfere in my relationship, I would resist this though. 
_Derek
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