As a person do you hold grudges.or do you find it easy to forgive someone who
@littlefranciscan (18327)
United States
January 9, 2011 6:14pm CST
When someone wrongs you ..do you hold grudges?
Do you go to such extremes that you will not talk to that person any more?
What is your way of handling your anger toward someone who had hurt you
or wrong your. .? Are you quick to forgive? Are there people who you still
don't talk to?
5 responses
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
10 Jan 11
Hi little franciscan: I know people commit mistakes so even if I feel angry with someone, I know that in the end of the day I'll forgive him/her. Of course, actions have their own consequences but if a person really feel sorry I'll forgive him/ her. It's good for me and my soul and also good for them.
It's nice to be good and good to be nice
ALVARO
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
10 Jan 11
Very nicely written: forginess "good for me and good for them"
It's easy to not forgive but takes a very brave and noble soul to forgive.
@nayaz1625 (131)
• Mauritius
10 Jan 11
nice discussion. Even if I happen to talk to that person after much difficulty, I no longer trust him and I try as far as possible to ignore him.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
10 Jan 11
I don't think this is a good custom..
Avoiding someone ..ingoring someone.. that will never give you
all the peace you need .. You are only as noble and brave as you are
ready to forgive.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
hi littlefranciscan,
When a person gets hurt its not really easy to forgive and to forget but holding a grudges is not healthy and good.
I am the kind of person that i ignore someone who hurt me it is better to shut my mouth rather than talking to that person because i am avoiding telling rude words towards that person and make things more complicated, but if that person really bugging me and piss me off its the time to tell what i feel 
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For me it takes lot of time to forgive but i don't easily forget.
happy posting
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For me it takes lot of time to forgive but i don't easily forget.
happy posting
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
10 Jan 11
Do you know as long as you ignore someone for hurting you
you continue to allow the hurt to stay. Once you get beyond that
hurt and are able to talk to that person again . .then you are healed
and can move on.. Letting hurt of others cause you to ignore them
is hurting you more then them. it's keeping you slave to your emotions.
@marelito (3)
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10 Jan 11
I think it's a question of respect and the time you've known somebody-if they're somebody you've known for years and years and laughed and cried with them and they they betray you it's so much harder (especially if there's money involved) but respect is a two way street-I can forgive and forget if I can see even 1% of goodness and attempt to try from them; however if there's nothing there it's not worth the effort-you shouldn't need to spell things out to people, you need an inch so you can work towards meeting half between
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
10 Jan 11
As long as you put boundaries on your forgivness you are not
trying hard enough...
Not everyone is gifted alike in their re-entry into friendship. But if you have
laughed and cried and spilled your innermost secrets to a person and they somehow
"betray" you ..must be something not right..or you would not have lasted so
long as friends up to the point where you were "betrayed".
being betrayed is painful..but ask yourself..what made this happen
what made the betrayal happen from my friend..this is not the normal
way for him/her to behave toward ,me..something someone . .stepped in
and shook up our happy friendship...after all..'we were so close'
true friends can get back together even after apparent betrayal..may take time
but neither should say the door is closed forever.. simply say it's not opening
right now..
It's easier to hear with that kind of thinking then the thought that you will
never forgive .. that is bad for you and bad for them.. healing will never
completely happen in such an attitude.
