friends or girlfriend/boyfriend?
By jamuls
@jamuls (530)
Philippines
January 14, 2011 12:04pm CST
we were in a very awkward situation a few days back when me and my girlfriend went to visit some old friends in Cebu City (Philippines). apparently, there's rift between the group because these people hates our friend's girlfriend. they think she's using him(financially). she's a single mom and her background is somewhat questionable. the guy's career is in jeopardy already because of this girl's influence and etc. etc. well... that night ended up with a bang. this dude walked out on them/us and chose his girlfriend over his closest, dearest friends. we were not involved in this because we're the newest in the said group. i understand why he did it but i just couldn't see myself doing that. would you pick your partner over your friends who stood by you, helped you and guided you all through the years? and knowing that without them, you wouldn't be what you are today. that was a very sad night for all of us. 
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4 responses
@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
14 Jan 11
Hello Jamuls, I haven't seen you around lately.
I think love is blind. When we are in love, we can't see the imperfection of those who are the object of our love. They can be ugly or bad or out of character, we can't see any fault at them.
And we are ready to chose her/him over our lifetime friends.
But when we are back on Earth (if I can say so) we feel sorry for our choice and we try to regain our true friends trust.
This must have happened to your friend, don't judge him, he's only... in love.
And we are ready to chose her/him over our lifetime friends. But when we are back on Earth (if I can say so) we feel sorry for our choice and we try to regain our true friends trust.
This must have happened to your friend, don't judge him, he's only... in love.@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
hi there, Inu! it's been a while indeed. i've been very busy spending time with my girl, she's leaving leaving next month and i don't know if she's coming back.
i didn't do anything... i merely watched them from a distance, didn't even talk to the guy. i did answer his mail and told him my opinion about the incident. he's head over heels with the girl and i can't say it's wrong but he should at least listen to his friends. ahh... to be young and in love... 
i didn't do anything... i merely watched them from a distance, didn't even talk to the guy. i did answer his mail and told him my opinion about the incident. he's head over heels with the girl and i can't say it's wrong but he should at least listen to his friends. ahh... to be young and in love... @inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
15 Jan 11
"ahh... to be young and in love..." Oh, you are already living with memories? C'mon, you're not so old!
What happened to your girl, why is she leaving?
I think you must be very sad that you don't think if she's coming back. Have you considered following her wherever she's going?
C'mon, you're not so old!
What happened to your girl, why is she leaving?
I think you must be very sad that you don't think if she's coming back. Have you considered following her wherever she's going?
@rushian09 (139)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Such a bad Girl, but if the girl really loves him she wouldn't do that thing.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
7 Apr 11
Hi. jamuls. As sad as it may seem, your friend will have to make up his own mind on what he wants to do as your friend. I know that he has hurt you all. Let him see for himself, on what this girl is really about. He will have to learn on his own. And when he does find out the truth about her, do you think that you all will welcome him back into the friendship with opened arms? You all was so good to him as his friends, and he knows this. He is just so caught up with this girl that he is going with. Let him see for himself on what is really the honest truth. I would not be surprised, if this girl is not the truth at all.
I know that he has hurt you all. Let him see for himself, on what this girl is really about. He will have to learn on his own. And when he does find out the truth about her, do you think that you all will welcome him back into the friendship with opened arms? You all was so good to him as his friends, and he knows this. He is just so caught up with this girl that he is going with. Let him see for himself on what is really the honest truth. I would not be surprised, if this girl is not the truth at all.
@maezee (41997)
• United States
14 Jan 11
This is very sad, indeed. I agree to a certain extent that this guy should at least try not to take sides. I have had friends ditch me for their boyfriends, the type of people who - once they have a boyfriend - shut the rest of the world out and isolate themselves with their boyfriends. Make their partner/boyfriend their LIFE and forget about their friends. I seriously HATE this. Back when I did have a boyfriend, I made time for my friends. And the last bf I had didn't have a chance to meet my friends (it didn't last that long LOL) so they didn't have an opinion on him. I've never really been *head over heels* for anyone before like that, to the point where I would shun my life-long friends to be with him and only him, though. But it doesn't sound right at all. Hopefully your friend will come around and learn what he did was wrong.
@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
i really happens... it happened to me before, my then girlfriend hated my best bud but i never turned my back on him because of her. it's just wrong... i hope he comes around soon or else he'd lose those friends of his... and judging by the way those people treated us (coz we were the new ones as i've stated above), he's very lucky to have them since the beginning. we're just sad that we had to leave that place and cannot spend enough time with those people. they're nice to hangout with. 
how do you do it? i mean, not get "head over heels" with your partner? i seriously need this trick coz my girlfriend is about to leave for the States and i don't know if i can take it.
how do you do it? i mean, not get "head over heels" with your partner? i seriously need this trick coz my girlfriend is about to leave for the States and i don't know if i can take it.