If your friend looked "ugly" in a photo would you tell your friend?

United States
January 14, 2011 2:52pm CST
If your friend posted a photo on Facebook and they didn't look nice or like the usual self {with make up or something} would you comment and say something rude like oh what the hec*k happen to you or something or would you message them privately and tell them? This actually happened to me. I bought a bunch of new make up and I don't wear make up at all and I was just experimenting and I thought it looked decent and everyone commented that they liked it/pretty but I don't really care, I just needed a new profile picture pretty or not and I had a friend who I am close to actually left a rude comment and everyone could see. I didn't delete it because I really don't care what she has to say but what do you think? What would you do. I know I would not leave a comment like that for the entire world to see. I would just say politely, it's like the phrase, if you have nothing good to say don't say it all. What would you do?
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21 responses
• United States
14 Jan 11
I would most likely not want to be cruel. So depending on our friendship I may or may not say anything but if I did it certainly would not say it to the world to intentionally hurt my friends feelings. If I just had to post something it would be somewhere along the lines that I prefer the other pictures as this one does not show your best attribute. Or something like that, but no way would I delete it as what kind of friend would I be to that person??
• United States
14 Jan 11
I would probably not tell it to her face but I would just think it to myself. I think most of my friends would either de tag themselves from the photo or just laugh and say wow I look horrible in that picture. If i wanted to say something I would try to say it along the lines of what happened with the night, say if we were drinking I would say "in the bag?" or something along those lines
• United States
14 Jan 11
Kind of to the extent of how I explained it. As while we are suppose to be friends we are not suppose to hinder a friend. I do see that you are new to myLot so a very warm welcome to you.
• United States
15 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing and I actually knew this girl for many many years. It was pretty rude of her to do but I can care less.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
Its rude to say such in a comment. If I find my friend's make up or what not nice, I will tell her somewhere private. But to leave a comment like that is not nice.
• United States
16 Jan 11
I agree, thanks for sharing [=
@toniganzon (69883)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
I would never leave such a rude comment to a friend like that in public. That's why i don't like facebook at all. If a friend asked me to give an honest opinion, I would in front of her but never in writing even on a private message in a social networking site. I think it was very rude of your friend to do that or she was so jealous of what you have accomplished she left such a comment. Anyway, don't mind it, just ignore it. Don't delete it and let it be a reminder of what kind of a person is that friend of yours.
• United States
16 Jan 11
I didn't ask for anyone to comment my photo. I don't mind and I am keeping it up, it doesn't show that I'm scared & more like shes jealous or something because why would you comment mentioning that? Kind of stupid & most of all shes judging another girl? Ha. Thanks for sharing!! I agree.
• India
15 Jan 11
if my friend is very close to me i would call up and say my friend to change his/her picture from that and i would make them understand how is that picture looking and i will see to that they wont get hurt :)
• United States
16 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing but the thing is its from a girls prospective and I'm a girl so she's judging a girl? Kind of stupid but yeah.:)
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 11
hi infatuatedbby, Some people have their say without considering other people's feelings. If the photo taken is not nice, for me, I'm ok with it. I may not taken it down. It's just a picture anyway. Maybe I will try to correct those pictures and improve along with times. Take your friend's advice as constructive advice. When you look at the comments as positive way, you'll feel better. Much...much...better. :) Cheers
• United States
16 Jan 11
Hello. I'm not mad or anything, I don't care just kind of stupid to imply if everyone elses comments are positive and the last one is negative.
15 Jan 11
Well, it actually depends on what kind of relationship you have with your friend. If we're really, really close, then any remark or comment would only seem funny for everyone. But if we're not that close, I guess not leaving any comment at all would be safe for both sides lol!
• United States
15 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing. Well I'm close with the girl that commented it but then that' just kind of strange because okay, she's judging another girl? Who's business is that. I wouldn't write anything like that to her. I don't care her opinion I just think that's pretty stupid especially when shes someone who is emotional and I'm not so if I did that to her. I am sure she will be hurt.
@ANIME123 (2467)
• United States
15 Jan 11
I don't think that I would do that to my friend because it just souns so mean to tell them in public that their pic looks bad like in facebook. It's better to tell them privately like you said like in a message that's the best way with out embarrassing them. T o cruel to just write a rude comment where everyone can see it. Still though when my friends post up pics on their facebook it's their decision on how they pose or what they put on their choice their pic their life so I stay out of it. For me I never like to give any negative comments or say anything mean not me for me I like to be kind to people and always say positive things because that is so like me. Anyway everybody makes their own choices come to think of it I need to post a new pic on facebook.
• United States
15 Jan 11
I definitely agree. I would never say anything mean or rude to someone in a public comment that people can see and if you don't like the photo then that's your problem not the person posting it. Thanks for sharing. :)
@phoenix8606 (4942)
14 Jan 11
well, I actually don't think it is my job to judge who's ugly and who's not, that's why I'd never tell them they are ugly or something, even if I think they are. *Powered by PhOeNiX8606*
• United States
15 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing & yeah If I have nothing good to say then I wouldn't say anything.. I just keep it to myself.
• United States
14 Jan 11
I would leave the comment privately ...but I have made comments about someone's picture to their face. It just didn't look like her, and I said it was weird looking. I didn't mean in a bad way, just that it wasn't what she looked like at all. She got hurt by it. Lesson learned. You have to be gentle about other people's pictures.
• United States
15 Jan 11
I would leave the comment privately as well not for the entire world to see. I am not sad or anything just mad she wrote it for the entire world to see. I am sure if I told her something personal she would be hurt. Thanks for sharing. But I see it, if you have nothing good to say don't say it at all.
@SIMPLYD (90836)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
I am a frank person. But i weigh what i have to comment, when and where to do it. In FB, i think it is not nice to broadcast a negative comment to a friend. It would be better if you just say it thru private message and say "in my opinion ....." and that she should take it as a constructive criticism.
• United States
15 Jan 11
I agree, in public no but in private then yes. Thanks for sharing!
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
hi, i am frank person especially in my friends, because they are my friends, i will tell that they are ugly in that photo without offensive, instead i will tell that in the way of jokes.
@Messyrax (147)
14 Jan 11
its very rude to actually tell your friend that they lood ugly in public! if you gotta tell them then there is private messange where you can politely tell that person they dont look nice in the photo and you give your reason why you think they look ugly. i wouldnt do that because though also i wont care if somebody did that to me, i know it hurts and i hate hurting people
• United States
15 Jan 11
I am not hurt by her commenting but more pissed because I don't comment her personal stuff and I know she wouldn't like it if I did it to her and I agree. If you type that, think if someone did it back. She doesn't post any pictures of herself so I mean, I'm not scared to express myself, if she doesn't like it, I don't care it's MY PHOTO. Thanks for sharing. :)
@joystick (1675)
16 Jan 11
I would not care what your so called friend has said or put as a comment on your picture, as long as you are happy that is all that matters.I think that there are alot of nasty people out there that we can all do without, but there are alot of nice people as well.Just ignore that so called friend.I would never say anything nasty about a person to the way they look.
@Lance26 (956)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
There are very sensitive friends who can easily get hurt by simply being honest towards such unintentional remark. Well truth hurts as they say. Hence, if I haven't asked for my comment I'd rather keep silent. But if a friend who don't mind such remark then I'll tell it in a friendly manner.
• United States
15 Jan 11
I agree. I am with that too if you have nothing nice to say don't say it at all.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
15 Jan 11
Hi, Who loves to be ugly to look at? Now to your situation I woulds not people flattered but use tautology. Even if the person is not good to look at you have different expression to carry the message to the person in question. And those who understand, they understand.
@sender621 (14898)
• United States
15 Jan 11
I would never have the heart to tell a friend that they looked ugly in a photo. Life can be tough enough without discouragement from a friend. We should support our friends and not bring them down unnecessarily.
@lady1993 (27151)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
I think I would if we were close enough. I normally wouldn't comment on a not so close friend's photo- if she looked ugly. maybe she's just jealous of you or just wanted attention. If it was my close friend I'd definitely tell her and we'd just laugh it off- nothing serious or insulting. No one looks pretty all the time.
@katie0 (5204)
• Japan
15 Jan 11
i don't think i would cause i always find my friends gorgeous, am i blind? maybe :D i know most girls hate to hear they are unnatractive, i think it would only hurt, i would warn about other stuff maybe, something that is bad to have in the picture or something that she might missed and posted but i wouldn't lie like saying "wow you are amazing here" when she actually isn't, but wouldn't warn "you're ugly" you know
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
well i guess even though you have a close relationship with your friend, you just can't post anything bad against her.maybe send her a private message instead or make a call.we should respect & think of what the other person may think about it.
• India
15 Jan 11
i like ur attitude!! Even me i dont even care what people got to say about my uploaded pics or what pics my friends upload or what comments they give the pics. One comment will just lead to another and it goes on and on and on !! It gets boring at the end. so best thing is dont even comment about anything to any pics. unless u have some strong reason or feelings to express :D If ur friend had expressed something reasonable then thats her opinion,live with that Otherwise if it was a stupid comment just to hurt u then s/he is wrong !!