today is my 2nd anniversary and we are fighting each other
By annawen86
@annawen86 (545)
Indonesia
January 18, 2011 5:32pm CST
i suppose to be happy because today i'm gonna celebrate my second anniversary with my boyfriend. but, we fighted from yesterday and still fight today. he even go to another city for duty, and we keep figthting. it made me feel so horrible. is this relationship can be fixed, or it is gonna end. i dont know. i feel sad in my happy anniv day. i dont think i want to celebrate it. and i affraid to face next year's anniv because of today
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16 responses
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
Well, as far as my opinion and observation is concern. There is a little bit of misunderstanding. This is also the start of the bitterness of your relationship. I think your bf have someone in his mind but not reveal unto because he feels so bad to tell it...he did not want to hurt you that is why he hide things...
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 11
i can guarantee that he doesnt have another girl in his mind. well, cheating is the most important thing that i'm affraid about because my mother was cheated by my dad. so, 1 year ago, my bf brought me to church and then hold my hand and what a surprise, he pray to God and mother Marry that he will be faithful to me, and he ask God to kill him and let him die if someday he is cheating me.
well, word to God is a heavy promise, although sometimes i still affraid that he will cheat but i think i have to consider what he told me at church that time. if he did that, i'm sure God know. and i believe that he is serious, or i will kill him by my self hehehehe just joke :)
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
its sad hearing that!! well for me the only thing for your relationship to still work if you both of you will be willing to make things work out. for me if both of you or even one of you gave up on the relationship..its really hard to bring back the relationship you had when you were still on the start of it which intimate and warm feeling towards each other..i hope you can fix things with your partner..=))
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
actually, me and my partner love each other and we dont want to break up because, he want me to be the first and the last in his life, and i...i cant forget him since 12 years ago the same like he did.
the problem is we both are stubborn and fight a lot for a small problem. i just hope we both can face it well
@deliciouslyjuicy (364)
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
Anniversary is just a date. If your relationship is going to crumble it would probably is if you stick into your head what had happened yesterday and today. I ain't a psychic. But two years is short enough and even it takes a lifetime to know a person.
Therefore, it would be best to settle your differences, take compromises, know the real score and do not be afraid to know the truth. As for your anniversary, happy anniversary better you stayed this far compared to others who were together for months or weeks only.
As for me, we don't celebrate anniversary it is just another regular day for me...
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 11
yes it is only a date, but remember how we start it hapilly that day make me feel so sad. beside i've been knowing him since 13 years ago when we still in elementary school.he was my first love and i was his first love too. i never think that it will be miserable like this. do you fight a lot with your partner?what do you do if you are fighting?
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
It's sad that he can't be with you today especially to your anniversay... it's going to be okay if you'll talk and ease each other's heart. then have your post celebration...
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 11
the think is, not only he is flying away hundred miles from my city this hour, but we had fight too from yesterday. i asked from something and he madly answer me. i try to calm down but he wont. and i cant think more :(
really not a good day for a celebration :(
hope it wont happen again
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
hi,
its ok my friend, your boyfriend will realize it,
and dont think so much about your anniversary,
your relationship will be ok and dont give up just for that.
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 11
thank you for the response :)i fight for almost 3 days but we are ok now :) just try to be more patient now
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
hello pretty girl,
Cheer up! don't be so scared of the problems you are facing now, It is natural that most of the couple having problems like that. If you are giving up and scared of what's happening maybe you wont be able to face it anymore. Dont be so affected of what is happening to you right now,I know you love him much. your relationship is just in the middle of challenges try to fix it up before it's gone!.
good luck to you girl.
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 11
i hope so. actually i have a surprise for him. i bought a couple ring and i drew a comic about how we met and about our first anniversary. but i dont have a mood to meet him and of course i cant meet him because he flew away hundred miles from here for his job.
but thanks for the cheering, tiina. it help a little. i hope i can settle down and everything will be alright. :)
thank you
@jhartana (1084)
• Australia
19 Jan 11
Well I think that you should know that it is only a simple relationship between you and your boyfriend. You two have not committed to the real relationship, so if you think that your boyfriend not worth to you then you should say it's over. Would be better if you do this way because the longer you suffer from fighting, more hurtful it becomes. I know it may not be easy for you but I suggest you to think carefully about your relationship with your boyfriend and think about what's good or bad about him and the relationship. I'm sure you'll find a way for this. All the best to you.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
19 Jan 11
I don't know what you two are fighting about. but here is some great advice that has helped me and my husband out a lot when it comes to us fighting. we ask oursevles " Do i want to be right, or do i want to be happy?" whatever you guys are fighting about can't be so serious that it can't be worked out by talking and not fighting. by listening to each other and not yelling at each other. I wish you the best
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
You alone can tell whether your relationship will still go on or not. Ask yourself what's the reason why are you fighting? Is there still love left in your heart for him or you are staying with him only because you have been together for a long time?
Try to decipher what is the real problem and then try to fix it. If it can't be fixed and you are unhappy, then why stay in such a state.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
You alone can tell whether your relationship will still go on or not. Ask yourself what's the reason why are you fighting? Is there still love left in your heart for him or you are staying with him only because you have been together for a long time?
Try to decipher what is the real problem and then try to fix it. If it can't be fixed and you are unhappy, then why stay in such a state.
@m422698134 (39)
• China
19 Jan 11
It's so dpressed that you are fighting each other in your anniversary!I think both of you wouldn't like to this thing happened at this time.If you really love the other side,you should solve this problem as soon as possible.You need a talk!My girlfriend and I fighted sometime.It would be good after we had a good talk!People should have more communication.
@lizmik143 (137)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
You are the only one who can say if your relationship is going to be fixed or you will part ways. Happy anniversary to you and your boyfriend. You have gone this far in your relationship and whatever is the problem you talk it out and I hope all will be well with you.
@koikei (206)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
greetings! next year's anniversary is still one year away so just focus on what you can do to save your relationship now. if you have deep-seated issues, which you both can't resolve, then say goodbye to next year's anniversary. it really depends on how much you want to keep the relationship going.
@jessiicali (120)
• United States
19 Jan 11
My husband and I consider our anniversary to be just another day. We have only been married for 3 years & dating for just over 6 years. No body can say for sure whether your relationship can be fixed or will end other than you and your boyfriend. Couples fight. Simple as.
@tkonlinevn (6357)
• Vietnam
19 Jan 11
I'm sorry to hear that, my friend. I think that you should think about your relationship carefully and solving this status. Fighting with partner is very uncomfortable. This is influence very much to us and our works.
@Messyrax (147)
•
19 Jan 11
what is a relationship without a fight? that wont be a relationship because it means you would just be funseekers!! fights build us , they make us realize where we go wrong and how to appreciate others, think about it if you fight because of something wrong you did, you will try to avoid it in the future. i dont think that your's is over, just give it time and apologize and he apologizes where he is worng. dont mind about anniversary....its just a date in the calendar anyway!!
